Post # 1
We are having a salad, pizza and pasta buffet at a local restaurant for the rehearsal dinner. It’s going to a cost a little more than we orginially expected so we were thinking of just providing soda for drinks and having a cash bar. My parents think we at least need to do one drink a person, if not free beer/wine or completely open bar. We are paying for the rehearsal dinner but they are paying for almost the whole wedding. They think since they are paying a lot for the wedding we could at least provide drinks at the rehearsal, even if it is streching our budget.
So what would you expect or think would be the best option (with approximate costs):
1. Free soda only ~$50
2. One drink per person ~$250
3. Free soda/beer/wine ~$400
4. Completely open bar ~$600+
Post # 3
Having a pizza rehersal lets you out of this deal, maybe just spring for a few pitchers of beer. It doesn’t seem very fancy so I wouldn’t waste money on one drink when most people will just have beer or soda.
Although since you are not paying for much else I can see where your parents are comming from.
Post # 4
If I was in someone’s wedding and they didn’t let me drink for free at the rehearsal after everything I’ve done and the money I’ve spent, I would think they were cheap. True story.
Post # 5
It wouldn’t bother me at all to just have free soda, especially if there’s alcohol at the wedding. I’m assuming people won’t want to drink two nights in a row. Plus, pizza doesn’t really call for a full open bar, you know? I’d be happier with pizza and a coke than I would be with pizza and wine :).
Post # 6
We’re doing a pizza and pasta rehearsal dinner as well, but we will be providing open bar to our guests. I guess it depends on the size of your wedding party and the drinking habits of your guests. We know that not many of our guests are going to be drinking loads as they won’t want to be hungover for the wedding the next day. We also know that most will be drinking beer as pizza and beer is the All-American way to do it (FI is Aussie and so we’re trying to incorporate some stereotypical American experiences), so that’s not overly expensive.
Honestly, I think you need to just suck up the cost and provide drinks for your guests. If you don’t want to do full open bar, provide pitchers of beer or do a beer and wine open bar, but I really do think you need to provide something other than soda for your guests.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t expect to have free alcohol at the rehearsal dinner. Especially if it’s the night before the wedding.