Post # 1
When FI travels she calls me every day that she is out of town. I’ll be honest when I say I really don’t like it. A text now and then to let me know she is having fun or what she is up to is really all that I need. I think the main reason why I don’t like it is because I’m not really a big phone talker. Also, I feel like I’m getting a chance to enjoy some time alone and I want to be able to watch some tv or go have drinks with a friend and I don’t want to have to stop what I’m doing to talk on the phone. Usually if she is out of town without me she is visiting family and she whipers the whole time because it’s late and she doesn’t want to wake anyone up so I can only hear half of what she is saying. Or we just sit on the phone silent because neither one of us really has anything to say.
When I go out of town to visit my family I also hate that I have to call every night. I’m usually spending the day with my family until it’s bedtime, I’m there to spend time with them and I don’t want to walk away to go chat on the phone. Then if I wait for everyone to go to bed to call her I end up having to talk in a whisper so as not to disturb anyone.
Do you all expect daily phone calls when your SO is out of town?
Post # 3
I do! We talk everyday three-four times a day. Once in the morning going in to work, once at lunch, once driving home from work and usually one of us has a question or some news sometime during the day that needs to be shared ASAP! Its been this way for 5.5 years and I don’t see it changing. I feel strange if we haven’t talked in the morning. Just keeps us connected even if its only for 5 minutes. And yes, this continues even when SO or me is out of town.
Post # 4
Yes; I especially expect to talk to my FI before going to sleep for the night. Maybe a text here or there during the day as well.
Post # 5
We usually try to call to say good night as a default when one of us is away. But if one of us is busy there or at home we’d text to say we’ll miss the 11pm chat, and it’s no big deal.
Post # 6
Definitely or a msg/ txt. But he’s great with that so Ive never needed to ask. I do the same for him 🙂
Post # 7
Absolutely. We miss each other when we’re apart. He actually calls me quite often when he’s not out of town, and just at work. I love that about him.
Post # 8
No a text is all I need from SO. He will occasionally call me to tell me about things but I would be ok if he didn’t
Post # 9
I’m LDR, and while we usually do speak everyday, sometimes he goes out of town for work and cannot be online to chat much, and that’s okay. I don’t mind going a day without hearing from him, but if it’s more than two I expect a text or a FB message.
Now, I imagine if we were living together or at least in the same area, I’d probably expect the same. One day? I don’t have to hear from him, but it would be nice. More than that? Then I’d want him to at least drop me a quick line.
Post # 10
@lybarra: I’m kind of like you. I want to know that FI is ok, but we will have plenty of time to talk when he returns. We’ll check in with eachother but that’s just through short phone call or a text message.
Post # 11
I’m glad there are other people like me! After reading the first few posts I was starting to feel like a jerk for not wanting to talk daily! I would much rather hear all of her stories on the car ride home from the airport or over dinner than talk on the phone.
Post # 12
Yes indeedy. Sometimes we’re both busy or tired though and it’s short n’ sweet.
Post # 13
We try to talk multiple times a day when he’s away but it doesn’t usually happen. We always do a goodnight phone call which is very important to both of us but we love to chat with each other.
Post # 14
Yes. At least once a day, maybe 2.
Post # 15
@lybarra: not really my FH went out of town and he called me a few times a day and i kinda felt bad he went to spend time w family i told him shoot me a text spend what time you have w them. and i understand how you feel when FH is home i dont have a moment to do shot read a book sew were just together and when hes out of town i get to do things i dont get a spear moment to do when hes home.
Post # 16
If my husband were out of town, I’d expect to hear from him a couple of times a day. But that’s just what we’re used to. I would just try to set up expectations before you or your SO leaves so neither is disappointed.