Do you expect your future sister-in-law will be your bridesmaid?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Your future sister-in-law as your bridesmaid?
    Yes, of course, no matter what our relationship is like : (33 votes)
    24 %
    Yes, but only if we are already close : (36 votes)
    26 %
    No, because we don't get along/are not close : (33 votes)
    24 %
    No, just because that would be odd : (30 votes)
    22 %
    Other (explain please) : (5 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    158 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My FI has two brothers who are both married. I love both of their wives, but neither of them are in my wedding. of course, I’m having a very small wedding, only my SIL (my brothers wife) and FI’s daughter are in the wedding. I’m having the two wives read…honestly I don’t think they care that they aren’t in the wedding, they are both older and I think they are beyond the whole wedding thing. They are probably glad they aren’t bridesmaids, honestly!

    Post # 4
    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I am very close to one of his sisters and I get along with his other sister. Both will be BMs. I’m not sure what we would have done if we weren’t close.

    Post # 5
    2057 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

    Traditional Chinese culture would not allow me to have matrons/married women in my bridal party. My mom would be mad at me. So, in that regard, no. I have a cultural reason not to.

    Post # 6
    2167 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Yes, if and only if our relationship was already close. I’m in the situation now, where my FH twin brother’s wife may believe she may be in our wedding. I currently already have 3 MOH AND 8 BM, we don’t talk much anymore, more a a hi and bye basis so there’s no need to be fake with her, she’ll know where she stands!

    Post # 7
    2169 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @Creiddylad:  I wouldn’t expect a sister-in-law to be a bridesmaid; however, I would expect his sister to be a bridesmaid. 

    Post # 8
    7284 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I would expect that if my partner wanted his relatives to be included in the wedding party then he would have them on his side and vice versa.

    The only exception would be if the sister and I had a relationship outside of being SIL’s.


    Post # 9
    552 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    No, I’m not having FI’s sister or his SIL in my bridal party. We are only having a maid of honor and a best man (our best friends) because we just want to keep things small and drama free. His family also lives 9 hours away from us, if they lived closer I think I would consider having his sister, but I still don’t think I’d consider his SIL.

    Post # 10
    1026 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I didn’t have my SIL in my wedding. A couple of people told me I should beacause my sisters where my bridesmaids and it also would have evened out the wedding party. But I had only met her once before she lives in another state. Also DH didnt want her haveing to do anything with the wedding. 

    Post # 11
    3557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I am not having FI’s sister in my BP and he isn’t having her on his side either. She actually greeted the news of our engagement with disgust because she wanted FI to marry someone she could be BFFs with despite the fact that FI hates all of her friends and she lives 1,000 miles away. I think it’s waaaay more important that FI and I are BFFs than FSIL and I. We’re cordial and I think that’s as good as it’s going to get.

    Post # 12
    895 posts
    Busy bee

    I gave in to having my FSIL as a bridemaid because of family pressures. I really wish I had stuck up for myself, we don’t get along.

    Post # 13
    274 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I will be asking FIs sister to be a bridesmaid and he will be asking my brother.

    I’ve only met his sister once .. I hope it will be a chance to get to know each other better.

    Post # 14
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I didn’t have DH’s only sister in my wedding party – and it was DH’s choice!  He absolutely did not want her there, which was fine with me because I wasn’t thrilled with the idea of her being there either (we’re not close at all, I would have only chosen her if it was important to DH).  It did end up causing an insane amount of drama though, to the point we no longer speak to his family.

    Post # 15
    353 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I will ask my brother’s girlfriend, because I love her and she is such a sweet girl and we get on really well.

    On the other hand, my relationship with SO’s brother’s future wife is not that close, she is MUCH older than me and we only have a cordial relationship, but I don’t consider her a friend and thus I won’t ask her.

    Post # 16
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @Creiddylad:  Yes for two of them and no for the last one because she is a right cunt. I don’t care if we are family – if I don’t like you then I am not having you in my wedding!

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