Post # 1
Just curious. When you respond “no” to any invitation (not necessarily wedding related), do you offer an explanation as to why you can’t make it? I’m not just talking about formal parties, it could be anything – concert, BBQ, movie.
I usually offer an explanation. I realize you are not required to but it’s kind of a pet peeve of mine. Especially when it’s an in-person invitation or small group, to just say “no” seems rude, to me anyway.
I have a friend that says “I’ll pass” and it drives me nuts. So what do you say, bees?
Post # 3
I give an explanation. I am that type of person however. I would want someone to tell me why they can’t come so I tell.
Post # 4
I typically give an answer! I know I would like a reason, so I try to give one! (I had a post recently about people sending their RSVP with a decline- without a phone call, text, e-mail! Oh well! I’m over it now!)
Post # 5
I will usually give an explanation. However, we are not going to be able to attend a friend’s wedding in July because we have another wedding on the same day. I dont think we will write on the RSVP that we are not able to make it because we have another wedding. I think Ill just say “sorry we cant make it!”
Post # 6
I always give a reason why.
But I have been guilty of fibbing occasionally because I just don’t want to go! Especially for like after work drinks and such. Shh!
Post # 7
I never did explain before, but moving forward after our wedding I will because it was frustrating to see a “no” with no explanation. I don’t know that I will for more informal stuff (like a random large party i’m invited to on facebook)… but for smaller get-together or weddings I definitely will.
Post # 8
I always try to give a little note (although I don’t always explain the exact conflict that prevents my attendace).
Just saying “No” seems a bit harsh and rude to me.
Post # 9
It depends. If I’m declining because I don’t want to go then I just say, “no thank you” but if there is a legit reason I give it.
Post # 10
I don’t give an explanation or need one from someone else. I usually write in “sorry, unable to make it” rather than just tick the “no” box .
Post # 11
Sometimes. Depends on the nature of the event. If it’s a wedding, baptism, etc. I try to explain. Otherwise, meh. “I’d rather sit at home in my jammies with a book than listen to your loud boyfriend’s drunken rants about NCAA basketball,” would probably do more harm than good.
It actually kind of annoys me when people expect to be given an explanation, particularly because they seldom like the answers they receive.