Post # 1
I got a few gifts for my shower that I am tempted to return. For one thing, I got a TON of lingerie that I can’t see myself ever wearing (besides our honeymoon, which is only a long weekend). Would it be wrong of me to return some of the lingerie? It is from Victoria’s Secret and they included gift receipts so I could return it and get a comfy robe or cute pj’s that I would actually wear.
Another gift from my aunt is a really expensive wine decanter set with other wine accessories from Pottery Barn. We don’t drink wine. I know we *could* use this if we had people over and they brought wine, but I looked up online how much it cost and it was close to $300! We could definitely find something nice there that would actually be useful to us! The thing is, I fear this aunt coming over and bringing a bottle of wine and wanting to use the wine decanter/accessories, and I would feel so bad to say we returned it.
So what was your experience like? Did you return anything? If so, did you feel badly about it?
Post # 3
Nope. Once a gift is given, it’s the recipient who decides what to do with it – if they want to throw it in the garbage, they have every right (though it’s a bit rude)
I remember once I got a gift from an aunt, a big ptached-jeans satchel. I exchanged it for some PJ’s that I still have and love, and they always make me think of her fondly.
So if the wine decanter isn’t your thing, you have every right to exchange it. If your aunt asks about it, explain what happened in a positive light (that it was beautiful, but you were worried it wouldn’t be used as much in your household, you exchanged it for some beautiful wine glasses that would get more use & oohs and aahs everyday)
BTW, the lingere? How about you ask your FI how he feels before you exchange it all. Maybe he’d like you to keep some! I think that’s a nice little “gift” for him as well, right? 😛
Post # 4
I do feel totally guilty. However, if it’s something you’d never use, why would you keep it to take up space? If your aunt comes over and asks about the decanter, all you have to say is, “Well, unfortunately, we don’t drink much wine these days, but we exchanged it for all of these awesome (insert new things here) that we use all time time!”
Post # 5
Thank you so much! Also, to clarify, I got over ten pieces of lingerie (all very similar, I guess you would classify them as a lace “teddy” although I’m not sure if that’s what they’re really called?) They are all very risque and not something you could ever actually wear around the house. Even a nightie that covered everything up would be something I’d keep because I could always wear a robe over it. I was thinking of keeping enough to have a different item for each night of our honeymoon and returning the rest. I feel bad though just because I know my friends went to the trouble of picking out something “fun” for me.
Post # 6
@jennygrl070: OP, I would keep the lingerie. It might not be as practical as pj’s but it’s not supposed to be. I’m sure your husband would appreciate you pulling it out every once in awhile to spice things up and I guarantee it will get you action a lot faster than a comfy robe. I would think you’d feel a lot sexier in the lingerie too 🙂 buy yourself a robe some other time and keep the VS goodies!
Post # 7
I think you should return it for something you’ll use. If it’s lingerie, the gift giver will have no idea because they aren’t going to see you in it anyways.
Post # 8
I asked my fiance if I shuld return some stuff and his response was “You are not allowed to return lingerie.”
We did return wedding gifts to get more practical things. Ex. if we didn’t get the set of something we returned, or we returned a couple single knives to get the knife set we wanted.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t return lingerie unless it didn’t fit. DH lovvessss when I wear lingerie.
One of my good friends from college bought be these really nice crystal tiffany beer mugs that we returned. They were super ornate and really not my style at all. I felt bad returning them, but I knew I would never ever use them. We have a gift card to Tiffanys now and hopefully we will pick out something wonderful and think of my friend when we use it!
Post # 10
I second asking your hubby prior to returning the lingerie, but if he’s on-board then I think you plan is fine to keep a few pices but return the rest. And I agree with everyone else about the decanter – if you won’t use it, return it for something you will use. But get something that will last so that you can point to it and how often you use it, if aunt ever asks.
Post # 11
@TattedNYBride: I second that!
@jennygrl070: Keep the lingerie. It’s alot sexier than wearing a robe and or pjammas around the house, I’m sure your husband would agree. Wearing lingerie may not be ‘practical’ but it makes you feel good and again, I don’t think your husband would complain.
Return the decanter though. Without guilt. If you’re not going to use it, I’m sure that the gift giver would be happier knowing that you have a gift that you’ll actually use.