Do you feel entitled in some ways as a woman?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Do you feel entitled as a woman in your daily life?
    YES. : (19 votes)
    13 %
    Sometimes-- Depends. : (55 votes)
    38 %
    NO. : (69 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 3
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @Barbiestylez:  Cover charges are bogus.

    You should be free to walk into a bar without having to pay.  Penis or vagina.

    Post # 5
    2783 posts
    Sugar bee

    @skippydarling:  +1 lol


    i do not go to bars if they have a cover. I will say though that I expect certain things, like people holding the door open for me, or letting me cross the street, especially when I’m with DD, because its common courtesy, not because I’m a female.

    Post # 8
    1888 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @Barbiestylez:  No!  The few ‘perks’ of being a woman come with way too much crap and grief.  Such as the assumption that I can’t just have a bad day everyone assumes that it’s ‘female problems’.  The fact that when I go to buy a car I have to take my FI with me in order to be taken seriously, even though I’m the one buying the car and I am perfectly competent to know what I want and how much I can pay for it.  Even the simple gesture of a man holding a door open for me is difficult because many men don’t nowdays and if they do many will act like they just saved you from downing off the Titanic and they should receive a medal for it.

    Post # 10
    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Barbiestylez:  I think the fact that it is a strip club is the salient point.  There is a dynamic that the men are paying to ogle the women – you see this in less of an extreme at clubs that only charge cover to men.  I’m not a huge fan of the imbalance, but on the whole strip clubs are adding to the problem, not solving it.

    Post # 11
    1662 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Barbiestylez:  I wanted to vote No, but that’s not true… I must ashamedly admit Sometimes, haha. But smaller things. Men hold doors open, stuff like that. Or for DH to carry more stuff than me when we go grocery shopping.

    I don’t recall paying cover at clubs much, but I’ve never been to a strip club. I never did go clubbing often, but usually they had “free cover for ladies before 11” or something I think. Or it was because I was young 18/19 and showing lots of leg. Except the gay bar, I think I always paid that one. It’s all good. I have the money ready, and then if they ask for it I’m prepared.

    Post # 12
    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Barbiestylez:  I’d pay a cover for a special event at a bar, such as a concert.

    Your original post didn’t say it was a strip club, just that it was a bar. I agree that a cover at a strip club is pretty standard.

    Post # 13
    1955 posts
    Buzzing bee

    The world taught/teaches me early and often that women who are not attractive, like me, feel entitled to anything, like basic courtesy or kindness, at our peril. 

    I am not proud of this, but I envy women who are beautiful and confident enough to feel entitled just because.  I imagine it’s nicer to feel that way than to feel as though the world is doing you a favor when it doesn’t kick dirt in your face on a daily basis.

    Post # 14
    2136 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Barbiestylez:  Haha, yeah I totally see what you mean. I wouldn’t expect to get in for free, but there are other situations where I do feel some kind of entitlement. For example, hanging out with FI’s friends, the guys are always so willing to take care of you. You’re cold? Someone has an extra coat in their car. You’re thirsty? Oh, someone was just about to go get a refill. With my girl friends I’m always the one making sure they are comfortable…maybe because I’m older and motherly with them? I don’t know. None of it seems to be on purpose, it’s just the way it is. (For my situation)

    Post # 15
    265 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I have no problem paying cover and buying my own drinks when I go out! I also don’t feel entitled in normal day to day stuff. I don’t expect the door to be held for me, I don’t expect the men at the restaurant I work at in the summers to empty the garbage cans, etc. However, I completely unintentionally find myself doing things with my SO that I would NEVER do in notmal situations so I guess those are a bit entitled moments. For example, if I went out to lunch with a male coworker i would never push the tab towards him but after 6 years with my SO I don’t even reach for it anymore. Rude, maybe but he wouldn’t let me pay anyways. Things like that have me a little conditioned with him. 

    Post # 16
    536 posts
    Busy bee

    It’s a strip club.  You can’t equate it to a regular dance club (where they have to lure women in with free entry to prevent a sausage fest).  Strip clubs (a) don’t need anymore women; they’ve got plenty (dancers), (b) women that do show up potentially distract from the dancers, which is bad for business and (c) most women won’t patronize the strippers, which means you aren’t making money of lapdances, tips, etc.  Actually, if I were a strip club owner I’d charge women more for entry than men.


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