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Sometimes I get freaked out, and others I don't. It's hard to predict but when I get freaked out, I get REALLY freaked out!! I lived alone for a year, and sometimes I was totally fine and other nights I'd hear a weird noise, convince myself someone was outside my window or something, and I'd sleep with mace or a knife next to my bed!! No joke!! Haha. My husband and I live in a safer town than I did then so when he is not here I feel ok the majority of the time. We both do want an alarm system though just haven't gotten around to it. It would make me feel better and you can never be too safe. I still get chills when I think of that family in that nice town in CT that was murdered (all but the husband) a few years ago during a random stranger break-in. I don't think your fear is excessive. Particularly if you watch the Wire?! haha.
By the way, to those who said stranger crime doesn't really happen that often- it does happen. I work in a prison and there are tons of guys in there who broke into people's houses and stole, broke in and raped someone, or murdered someone. Not to further scare anyone else, but it does happen, even in the "safe" suburbs. On another note, after this post, I might bring up the alarm system thing with my hubby again tonight :)
Thanks to Dad here hah- I currently keep two guns (pistol and revolver) in the house plus an array of knives, tasers, etc. I know how to use throwing blades, so I have a handful of those around. I keep knives on me every day- I have a few in the bag (yes the Louis Vuittons have knives in the bottom underneath the makeup bag :P) and holsters of them for doing work. Dad feels like I need a pump action shot gun, which will probably be up next in the arsenal- nothing runs a person off like the sound of that through the door. This is the same man who has held groups of people at gun point for trying to steal off one of his properties, so...yeah....My times at the gun range have shown that I have a tendency to aim at the crotch and hit the head instead so my gun skills are questionable. But yeah if someone breaks into this house they picked the wrong spot. I don't have any issues with being alone in my house. If you looked at me you'd never know I owned weapons!
We don't live together but I am always a little jumpy. When I lived in NYC I wasn't for some reason, but now that I'm back in the suburbs any sounds freaks me out. The mister and I have talked about what I would do when we live together and he is deployed. 1. He is getting me a very large dog, I'm saying Great Dane bc I think they are so sweet and beautiful, but intimidating. 2. He wants to show me how to shoot his gun. I don't like it, but I am trying not to think about it for a bit.
I get so scared when I'm home alone, even in the day time. I hear the slightest sound and I jump. Good thing I have my big dog to keep me safe.
ive turned into a TOTAL missy when it comes to being home alone these days - really, ive even started sleeping with the lights on, what the heck is up with that???
house is bolted up tight with deadlocks and a back to base alarm and i still act like a big girl - crazy
I feel safe at home, even when alone. FI was away for a week earlier in the summer, and I was never scared. I always lock my car door and front door though... we kinda live in a neighborhood where "everyone leaves their front door unlocked", but I'm not that trusting! 
I have a 100 pound lab-mix who will scare the bajeezes out of anyone, but he's really a softie so I doubt he'd hurt a fly!! But his bark is scary!
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I'm really not scared when I'm home alone, despite the fact that the house is ancient and probably haunted. lol.
When FI leaves me alone (he leaves for work around 2:30am), I normally have his gun on the nightstand. And believe me, I'm totally not afraid to use it! Plus, I have two beagles - they ARE the alarm system.
I've only ever been scared once, when I heard someone on my back porch. But they were out the front gate by the time my gun was aiming. My dogs barked like crazy to warn me. All safe!
I have a doggy too. Arden. Don't get me wrong, he is a big wussy. He is more likely to run between my legs than protect me. But it's good comfort to have him around.
I live in a Baltimore suburb also. I have a dog- that makes me a lot more comfortable. Before we got him I would get a little nervous sometimes.
I feel safe where we live. We are in our duplex right now (which we own); we are on the bottom floor and are renting out the top floor (duplex is right near college campus). We plan to keep the duplex as an investment but are currently looking for our 1st home together. We have found 2 we really like and are narrowing down before making an offer.
When we do move we won't get an alarm system; by no means do we live in a "big" city. We are in the middle of WI in a town of about 65,000. So, it's relatively safe anywhere in the city.
Um...I'm one of those people that grew up in a small town where people didn't lock their doors and such so I'm fairly trusting, but there is also not a ton of crime around here.I grew up in a town of about 3000. Now that I live with my fiance and in a different somewhat larger city, we DO lock the doors now, but I don't think we need an alarm. I live in a complex with 6 apartments so I feel okay and its a residential area by a school. Maybe if I lived in a bigger city/metro area I would want an alarm.
What an interesting topic. Before we lived together, it never bothered me to be at home alone. I did live in an apartment complex, but it was in an area of Philadelphia that would now probably scare me silly. Guys would knock on my door in the middle of the night asking to buy drugs (maybe it was a previous tenant or wrong address?).
Now we've moved to the middle of the country and it's a new (to me) old noisy house and I don't like to be left alone at night. I feel weird admitting that, but it's true. I value my time alone at home, but not at night and not for long periods of time.
awwww that lab is way adorable. He looks like a big pushover, but never underestimate a dog. Our dog was a big fat, huge baby and never mean, but once a guy got too close to the fence and HE BIT HIM. I'm a firm believer that dogs can sense when people are up to no good and shouldn't be in your house in general. They can sense the anticipation and fear and anxiety of a break-in and likely would act appropriately =]
When i lived in a town of about 500 people, we didn't have an alarm while we rented a house (ours was being built) but we did have a dog. Definitely never felt weird in that home.
When we bought our house, there was already a security system installed, so we were able to transfer the service to our names and continue using it (there isn't a high crime rate in the area or anything, the previous owners just travelled a lot).
We wouldn't even have thought of it until we realized how much our insurance would go down for having it. It costs us $25 a month but literally pays for itself with the drop in insurance.
I lived in our house for a year but I haven't been alone at night. We live on a small lake in the middle of nowhere but we have lots of neighbors. The lake population is probably300-400 people. There are some sketchy people on the other side of the lake near the campgrounds but on our side it's mostly retired people, singles, and young familys. And almost all of our neighbors have dogs. So I would BE safe if I was alone but I wouldn't FEEL safe because I can be a big scardy cat!
I am alone all day long and I'm usually pretty comfortable being alone during the day. Except the day I saw a couple sheriff deputy's circling our block 4 or 5 times. I think there is a drug dealer living down the street (UPS goes down there almost every day) That kind of freaked me out. But I know most of our neighbors and in general, I feel safe.
We do not have a security system but my husband has a gun. I've only shot it once when we went to the family farm for target practice. In the next few months though, I'd like to take a gun safety class. I have a healthy fear of the gun but I'd like to be comfortable is using it. Just in case. If it's going to be in the house-I want to be educated on how to use it/load it/clean it. Not that I think it would do me any good if someone broke in-I forget it's even in the house.
I totally freak myself out! Before I lived with my FH, i used to lock myself in my bedroom at night if I had watched too much SVU. He's a pretty big ex-football player though, so now that we're living together I feel a lot safer. Plus we're in an apartment in a really safe area...but when we get a house you had better believe I'm arming that place with a serious security system.
I totally freak myself out! Before I lived with my FH, i used to lock myself in my bedroom at night if I had watched too much SVU. He's a pretty big ex-football player though
i'm a paranoid type of person and terrified of scary movies...so yeah - i LOVE LOVE LOVE having our alarm system! hehe.
DH will once in a while work a late night (he's a caterer) - and so I am always a bit scared. but that's just me - again, I can be paranoid.
we don't live in the absolute SAFEST neighborhood - but it's not like we live in the ghetto by any means - it's a very diverse neighborhood though. during the day I have no problem walking around the neighborhood by myself - but not sure I would at night...
anyways though, again - i love our system - but I'd have one even if we lived in what would be considered a very safe neighborhood too.
I haven't slept away from FI since I moved in...but if I were home alone, I imagine I would get freaked out. We have a full fledged gladiator sword under the bed, and I always make sure it's in a place where I can quickly get at it. Could an intruder use it against me? I suppose. But that is assuming that he or she expected to be attacked with a SWORD.
i share your fear, i cant wait till my FI and i are married and i dont have to worry about being home alone! i know im a grown girl and i can defend myself but your right there are way tooo many freaky stories out there to make me feel safe at night.
I do not have one now...apartment living.
But I do want one when we buy a home.
Well.. someone here said apartments don't have alarms! I may live in a different kind of state then, because almost every new apartment building around here has an alarm system including my own, with a panic button in my room. I also have the keycard entry lock on my door, like a hotel--I feel really safe here, but they only upgraded after a girl was murdered four years ago, so it's kind of... yeah. I mean, it was not a usual crime or anything but it's so weird to think about! :(
I also have a roommate, but when she's gone I freak out alone. Even with all the extra security (panic button by my bed)!
My boy is on a buisness trip right now and I dont really feel scared... im just bored.... But I am also sitting on the couch snuggling with our boxer mix... He is a big baby, but when someone knocks on the door or is in our yard while he is looking out his window he will bark once or twice and we will go watch them run... Friday the mail lady was scooting pretty fast after putting a box on the porch and the looking over to a big black dog growing at her...
When I was in h.s., my house was broken into and the burglars were still there when we pulled in the driveway. They managed to get out, but they stole a lot, and my Dad had an alarm installed. Sometimes, when I was home alone, i would take a big knife, my teddy bear & the phone and lock myself in the bathroom when the alarm was on the instant setting. It took me a while to get over that. I used to be a big horror movie and crime show buff, which didn't help.
Right now, I'm very comfortable home alone, but we live in a guard-gated community in a very nice neighborhood and we have the ability to lock a gate that prevents anyone from even getting to the front door.
When we move in a few months, I am thinking of getting an alarm or getting a German Shepherd. I was raised with German Shepherds and whenever I had one with me, I always knew I was safe. I am also planning on purchasing a gun. I learned to shoot several years back and I'm a very good shot;-)
@sleepy- "Did people 20 years ago lock themselves in at night and have alarms, etc? No."
Really? I don't know about othe people but my parents have locked their doors at night at least as long as they've lived in the house I grew up in(24 years) and I'm pretty sure they did in their prior home as well.
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