Post # 1
I am recently engaged, but have not been wearing it to the office because I feel self concious about it.
I just started out at my work place, and I am relatively young to get engaged.
Here are my concerns:
(i) whether my boss would judge me differently now that I am engaged, in the sense that I am going to settle down / have a back up plan and will be less driven? I have heard of young women removing their wedding rings/engagement rings at interviews for this reason.
(ii) self-concious that people will judge my social status from my diamond size (mine is probably one of the smaller diamonds in the work place – i sometimes wish mine was bigger! but then again, if it was bigger than my boss’ , that will also make me self concious!) I just feel awkard being judged.
Has anyone out there experience self-conciousness about your ring at work too? Do share your experiences and thoughts!
Post # 2
You are too worried about what others think about you. Wear it proudly!
Post # 3
Nope, I was not at all. I was excited to wear it to work for the first time!
Post # 4
no? not at all. i love wearing my ring.
How does your FI feel about you being self conscious about the ring he proposed to you with?
Post # 5
Girl. Wear it loud and wear it proud! If anyone judges you, that’s their problem – not yours.
Post # 6
I don’t like a lot of attention. Coworkers (the same ones) always grab my hand and exclaim how much they love my ring then gush about it to whoever is next to them. I try to be gracious but I want to melt onto the floor or run away lol so yeah, I’m a bit self conscious over it
Post # 7
I voted no, but this is because I’m thinking of my particular work environment, where the vast majority of my co-workers are already married and have kids themselves. I’m happy to wear my e-ring to finally show that I’m a grown-up too (haha).
However, I can totally see myself feeling odd about it in other circumstances. If I worked with a bunch of people fresh from college, interns, young singles, etc., I might not want to distance myself from them too much. No doubt I’d still wear my e-ring, but I just might be a bit less excited about showing it off.
Post # 8
I waltzed in super excited and going around telling everyone!! My ring is probably on the smaller side compared to others in my office. You shouldnt worry about what others will think. I bet alot of them are older and have probably had their rings upgraded over the years. Thats what I assume anyways. Everyone knows we are younger and probably make less than people who have been there awhile. They would never expect a huge ring!! Show that thing off proudly!!! As far as your boss. Why would he think you’d be less driven if anything you should me more driven to make damn sure you wont loose your job. you have a wedding to pay for now! He will be fine. Put that ring on!!
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
I wear my rings while at work and have worn them for interviews and never felt self conscious. I conduct hiring interviews myself and even though I purposely look at the candidate’s attire and general appearance, the presence or absence of a ring, or it’s appearance or size is a non factor to me.
Post # 10
Mysecretdiary: mine is the largest in my division. I was also the lowest paid when I got it. I felt self conscious at first, but got over it. No one sees me as less driven. After the first week, the ring just was part of me and received no comments.
Post # 11
Mysecretdiary: stop worrying about what other people think.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2014 - Sunset Hills Country Club
I have a smaller diamond, and I love it! I have really little fingers and hands, so a larger diamond would take up my whole finger. The diamond was also his grandmother’s diamond, so it holds a lot of sentimental value to the both of us.
And about being embarrassed or self-concious about wearing it at work, if you are proud of your man and excited to be engaged, then to hell wtih what others think. They’re not the one’ getting married, you are.
Wearing an engagement ring is a right of passage from girl-hood to woman-hood. Your boss will not think differently of you.
Post # 13
This is like your wedding: no one cares about it as much as you do.
Post # 14
in the business world people take those with rings more seriously- it’s a positive thing that signifies maturity. It makes you seem more reliable and less likely to party and be wild.
But even if the above wasnt true- you need to stop being so insecure. You are an adult lady getting married and you should own it.
Post # 15
Mysecretdiary: i wouldnt worry at all. when you do start wearing it and people ask OH when did you get engaged?! what date are you going to tell them then? the date you put the ring on or the actual date that you got the ring? unless you are working with your hands alot (doctor, blacksmith) i see no reason for one not to proudly wear their ring.