Post # 1
Just wondering if you ladies fight fair when having a disagreement with your partner or if maybe they don’t fight fair themselves.
I tend to turn on the waterworks if I feel I am not getting my way (SO knows this and calls me out on it all the time ) Do you have a fall back when arguing? Is there anything you pull out to come out on top?
Post # 3
I can honestly say that we have never had a fight. He has gotten upset with me (usually unbeknownst to me) and gone to bed, but the next day we talk about what was bothering him, or he flat out says he’s sorry. (Usually beer related).
Post # 4
@tksjewelry: that’s really good! We’re long distance at the moment and tend to have little spats on the phone over silly things because of it, we both know they’re silly things but we still have it out anyway lol
Post # 5
I understand that, we have been LDR from time to time because of his work, gone for months at a time.
Post # 6
Actually, I’m with tk. My partner and I don’t fight. We do have our small disagreements on the rare occassion but we both talk it out. We’ve never raised our voices to each other or anything like that. But I think that if it came down to it, I would definately be the one who didn’t “fight fair”. Though…. I could never see her hurting or upset so that would be really hard :/
Post # 7
Well I’ve got to add to the board that we do sometimes fight!
I try to be nice, but if things get heated, I tend not to fight fair. I so regret it later, because my Fiance is much more even tempered and unlikely to fight dirty.
Post # 8
I enjoy arguing so I separate arguing from fighting and fighting from disagreements. I would say we’ve fought once where we were kind of yelling and a bit heated (NOT physically, and NO name-calling) during our 4th year together. It was actually very productive because it basically ended something we had been disagreeing about for a year. As for disagreements, we disagree very fairly but also rarely when we’re doing well. I’d say the last time we had a disagreement was a couple months ago or more… we don’t really remember.
Arguing however is quite frequent and probably not at all like what you guys think when I say argue. I guess better words would be debate and discuss. For example, our last debate/discussion was about what color pants he should wear to an interview!
Post # 9
We were arguing, fighting a lot in our first year together. I mean a LOTTTTTTTTT. It wasn’t always fair (thanks to me). But over the past couple of years, we’ve sorted out a lot of our issues and the way we argue/fight. We are fair and more often than not, we have a calm composure through it all. I guess we have realized that we will be together for the rest of our lives so might as well not waste time.
Post # 10
My FH and I are exactly alike with out fighting styles and this can be really bad actually!
Stubborn and really good at bringing other stuff into it.
In calmer times we have made some ‘rules’ when it comes to fighting. We are so much better now. A little bickering disagreement stays exactly what it is, instead of turning into something bigger.
Post # 11
DH doesn’t fight fair. He’ll say stuff like “I’m sorry I’m a failure” or “I’m sorry I’m a fu–up” because he knows it kills me when he says things like that. Makes me cry every time, then he apologizes like crazy.
Post # 12
With ex boyfriends crying would work every time. With my husband, not so much. I learned pretty early that it’s not going to get me anywhere and it just gives me a headache.
Post # 13
We tend to have smaller disagreements than full-out fights, but we do both fight fair. Sometimes I feel like we’re on an episode of Full House, lol, because we’ll both sit down and say how we both feel about an issue, and then we try to compromise. But, that’s just the general rule, we have had a few pouty moments on both of our ends :).
And OP, when FI and I were long distance for just a few months, I didn’t fight fair at all. I would definitely cry on the phone or just stay silent. I lived with a person who’s in our friend group, and I knew stuff got back to him sometimes, so when it got really bad, I spent a night just drinking a few rum and cokes and moping. We decided after that summer that we don’t do so well in a LDR, lol, and we’re trying our best to keep jobs in the area we’re at now. Kudos to you for just crying!
Post # 14
@Oneeleven: exactly like us.
We used to argue so unfairly, bringing other things in, not backing down, etc and it would turn into a huge multi hour blow out.
Now that we have rules we don’t fight, we may disagree but it doesn’t turn into these huge episodes it used to.
Post # 15
I tend to fight more fair than FI. I like to keep the fight on topic whereas FI brings up everything about me that has ever upset him.
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
We tend to bicker about little things and usually we fight fair but sometimes he’ll pretend to be upset to get his way haha, sometimes I do but barely ever. Usually I just want the last word.