(Closed) Do you figure you'll "let yourself go" after you're married?

posted 5 years ago in Wellness
  • poll: How do you feel about working out/staying slender or continuing to diet after marriage?
    Pffssh. I don't worry about that stuff now, and I don't plan to! : (35 votes)
    8 %
    I'm happy with my weight now and... : (45 votes)
    10 %
    I'm mostly content with my weight now and... : (67 votes)
    15 %
    I'm not content with my weight now and... : (42 votes)
    9 %
    I will stay conscious/work on it after I'm married to maintain my weight and/or get more "fit" : (196 votes)
    44 %
    I want to primarily lose it for the wedding : (21 votes)
    5 %
    Not a concern. If it happens, it happens. I'll decide then what I want to do. : (21 votes)
    5 %
    I'll probably kinda let myself go eventually ;D : (18 votes)
    4 %
    Totally letting loose! : (3 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    6207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I am trying to diet and work out now, and will continue to do so once married

    Post # 4
    5011 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I wasn’t slender when we met so aiming for a size 4 would likely put Darling Husband off. I am looking after myself as much as I ever did but that doesn’t mean slim for me. I’m aiming for fitter, more defined but still curvy and padded.

    Post # 5
    191 posts
    Blushing bee

    When I met my SO I was a size (Aus 14) the summer previously I was slimmer and down a dress size.  Over the years my weight has crept up to close to a borderline 16/18. 

    I’m currently losing weight slowly but surely.  Thing is I don’t want to walk into my 30s being obese.  I already ruinned my body with being over weight in my 20s and I regret ever letting myself get to that stage.  

    No I’m not going to let myself go if I ever get married.

    Post # 6
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My fiance actually likes me having a bit of weight, I’m the one that wants to lose it! For the record, I’m not one of those skinny people that thinks they’re overweight – I could easily afford to lose 20kg.

    I think I will try to keep myself fit, even after the wedding (famous last words), which will hopefully be made easier by the fact that we’ll be buying a house soon out of town. I’m a country girl originally, and put on a lot of weight when we moved into town because I’m used to horse riding, playing with dogs, bushwalking, etc. So hopefully moving back to the country will make exercise more enjoyable for me!

    Post # 7
    3668 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I voted that I’m mostly content with my weight now and I will stay conscious/work on it after I’m married to get more fit. My SO loves me and is attracted to me just as much now as he was before I lost 25 lbs (my goal is still 50 but school/stress has been a major roadblock). He honestly has nothing to do with my wanting to lose weight. It’s just something I want to do for myself.

    Post # 8
    191 posts
    Blushing bee

    @Regina Phalange.   Gosh I hate when I started to lose weight my mother kept harping that it was SO that was pushing me to lose weight and he had a hand in making want to do it.  Even when I clearly needed to lose weight (heavist I got was 86 kg) my mother still kept insisting that SO was forcing me to lose it. 

    But yeah I do regret everyday of letting myself go.  I wish I had my physique from when I was 18.  I used to be a horse rider and was very toned.  Now days it’s just flab.

    Post # 9
    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t want to spend the rest of my life limiting what I eat, that just doesn’t seem enjoyable to me and would probably effect my mood which would effect my marriage more than my appearance. I’m not super thin but I’m okay with my weight, my Darling Husband is happier with it than I am at this point but I don’t plan to lose anything. Everyone gains weight as they get older so I’ll just try to continue to stay healthy no matter what my weight is by working out and eating like I do now. Nothing overboard.

    Post # 10
    1318 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Hahaha! I feel like this may be a result of my posting a half eaten pie earlier! lol. I’m just on the plus-sized side, but love my shape. I have never concerned myself with losing weight and I don’t really see that changing now. I’ve been lucky in that I stay at my general size pretty well no matter what I eat. 

    Post # 11
    4659 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Nope. I actually have gained five pounds in the last 8 months and I’m not happy about it… it’s really hard to lose weight suddenly, I guess this is the metabolism slowdown everyone’s talking about? Seems a bit early for that, I’m only 24.

    He fell in love with me thin and I feel it would be letting him down to gain siginficantly. I read a good rule of thumb somewhere about staying within 15% of your first date weight and I plan to adhere to that as best as I can without torturing myself.

    I expect him to do the same. I joke that if he gets fat I’ll get fat just to spite him. ;D

    Post # 12
    1481 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    SO and I have talked about this and we both want to maintain the weight/physique we have now, if not make it better. Obviously pregnancy will change things a bit (liked OP noted above, a lot of variables lol) but I know I will want to keep working out and eating right during any pregnancies.

    We’re both in pretty good shape, he’s 6’3″ and lean and I’m 5’5″ with a petite hourglass figure. I know I will definitely tone up before the wedding and hopefully keep it pretty toned once I get there, since maintenance is much much easier than initially getting into shape. Mr J always complains about his “gut” (it’s seriously tiny, barely qualifies as a pooch IMO lol) but he just started playing indoor soccer again two weeks ago so I’m sure it’ll fall off pretty quickly.

    Overall, we’ve both been blessed with pretty good genes, so that’s another point in our favor :]

    Post # 13
    733 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’ve only recently started to get out of shape. My whole life I have been thin until recently

    Post # 14
    6360 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Absolutely not! I’ve never maintained my health to “land a man,” but rather, to maintain my health. As I get older that gets more and more important, not less.

    Anyway, although I think I look pretty good and I know Fiance thinks so, I’m also confident he’s not marrying me for my looks.

    Post # 15
    1038 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I def will work hard to look my best.  I still have some fitness/weight goals I didn’t meet for the wedding.  I’m not overweight or anything like that, just want to look my best.  It was very eye opening to see some old friends recently who have gained weight after marriage and I swore that will not be me. 

    Post # 16
    604 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Narrawallee reserve/beach & Mollymook golf club

    I used to be a rather chunky girl when I was 13/14 then when I was 15 I started to change my diet and excersise regularly. Since then I haven’t looked back. I’ve always been self-conscious about how I look and my weight and that will probably never change.

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