Do you get along with your ILs/FILs?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Do you get along with them?
    NO! THEY ARE ALL MONSTER IN LAWS! : (5 votes)
    6 %
    For the most part, yes. : (14 votes)
    16 %
    Some what : (4 votes)
    5 %
    I get along with some of them but not all : (9 votes)
    10 %
    We have our days : (5 votes)
    6 %
    Yes : (12 votes)
    14 %
    I LOVE them. Never had any issues at all :) : (28 votes)
    33 %
    We've had our differences but thats all in the past : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Best friends for life! : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @ChristineMarie5711:  We are cival but I don’t think of them like family. Neither does my husband though! We are very close with my family and he has essentially been adopted in. He’s never been close with his family, so it makes sense that I wouldn’t be either. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    2419 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I get along with the majority of my FI’s family except for one of his brothers and I don’t see us ever really being super close. FI isn’t really that close to him either so it doesn’t bother him that much.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1666 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    @ChristineMarie5711:  I can honestly say that I love my FILs (and they love me too) – for now. If FBIL winds up marrying the girl he is dating, then that answer might have to change a bit.

    Post # 6
    Member
    6644 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I get along fine with the in-laws. Now actually liking and wanting to be around my one sister n law is another matter.  I personally can’t stand her

    Post # 7
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My FIL hates me a little.

    But the rest of my ILs are great! Especially DH’s grandparents! His grandma says she loved me like family the moment she met me! I love her!

    Post # 8
    Member
    49 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My FI family dynamic is very different then what I am used to. I don’t dislike them but it is very hard to connect with them or feel like you can express yourself freely without being judged. Our conversations are friendly but limited to certain topics. It does put a strain on our relationshop with them. FI feels the same way and often refers to himself as the blacksheep of his family. 

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    24 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @BrandNewBride:  Why does your FIL hate you?! Or does he just hate everyone? 

     

    I get on fine with mine. We’re not best friends, but we haven’t ever had any issues! 

    Post # 10
    Member
    1259 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I simply said “yes”. FI’s parents are divorced. Both have remarried and I get along GREAT with most members 🙂

    Post # 11
    Member
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @EmiliaRose:  Well, he does hate everyone a little bit. He just hates me a little extra!

    When DH and I met, I was a waitress and he was doing the corporate genius thing, so FIL thought I was a Gold Digger. Then I started my career 6 months later! So I thought he would like me. Nope! He was convinced I pressured DH (then 28) into moving in together. Then same story with getting engaged.

    Then, the icing on the cake–He told DH “the family” (No, just him…) was “very concerned” that I was anorexic and starving our unborn child! So now I’m pleasant but distant. You can think I’m a crappy person, but accusing me of harming our unborn child? Too far!

    Post # 12
    Member
    3077 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Yea mine are pretty good/okay. I have a good time for the most part when we’re all together, my FMIL has accepted me into the family, my FSIL goes back & forth. I’d probably get along with them better if I didn’t hear about the family drama all the time from SO when she vents. But it definitely could be worse

    Post # 13
    Member
    4876 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I love mine. My MIL is hilarious….we can’t stop laughing when she’s around. My SFIL is a great guy, and would do anything for you. He can be a little annoying at times, but it’s not an “ugh I can’t stand it” way – just like “okay stop talking now…lol”. I feel bad for people who don’t like or don’t have a good relationship with their ILs. 

    My MIL minds her own business, and generally doesn’t get involved in our lives. Not that she doesn’t care, and if we ask her opinion she’ll give it. But she’s not overbearing and doesn’t stick her nose where it doesn’t belong. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    24 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @BrandNewBride:  oh my goodness! That’s tough, I’m sorry your FIL is so suspicious 🙁 I admire you for holding your tongue, that’s definitely the best thing to do but I think I would struggle! 

    Post # 15
    Member
    573 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @MsRicky:  +1 

    I’m learning to open up a little more, but in the beginning FI made a “joke” that his mom and sister were snobby and judgemental. So I was super guarded. But I LOVE his Dad, we have a lot in common. 

    We live with them now, and I am starting to see that me and his mom are alot alike on an emotional level so it makes it easier for me to let my guard down. 

    Post # 16
    Member
    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    My inlaws are actually my employers, so it’s a bit different for me. At face value, yes, they are great people otherwise I’d never work for them. But when they are your boss obviously things come up where you don’t always love them as much. Especially so since FIL is a completely different person inside vs outside of the office. I voted “For the most part, yes”

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