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    taricha    June 18, 2011   Austin, TX

    Do you get annoyed when your BMs or your family members that are in your wedding ask you questions that they've already asked before and should know the answer to?  For example, the other day one of my BMs asked me - what day is your wedding again?  (And that's the third time she's asked!)  That was after she asked me what my colors were again...  Then today another one asked me if I was doing the sand or candle unity when I've already told her the candle and she knows I'm getting married in a church that doesn't allow the sand ceremony. Then I have my FMIL that keeps asking where the wedding will be at. 

    I guess I am overreacting and they have an excuse because the wedding is a year away...but 'cmon! 

    Anyone else keep hearing the same questions?

     
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    lrwedd    September 4, 2010  

    YES! Same thing happens to me.....I just answer the question politely and then point them to my blog for all other questions. I've realized that noone cares about your wedding as much as you do, it sucks but it's true. and it's annoying to get the same question of "when is your wedding again" when you've already sent save the dates. 

     
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    Roux    December 2, 2012   Ballarat, Australia

    This is why I'm going to make a giant 50 page guide to my wedding. So no one has to ask me questions. I'll just tell them to consult the book!

     
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    taricha    June 18, 2011   Austin, TX

    On the bright side, my MOH knows everything and I'm greatful for that :)  But, even if they don't care as much for my wedding as I do, they should STILL know the very basics like the date!  That just blows me away...  One BM chooses not to look at my blog.  Maybe I should stop answering her and tell her to go look at it lol.  But I'm not mean like that. 

     
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    Tanya123      

     I think some things are understandable.  Others are annoying. 

    Ie. Your Bms should know the date. IMO.  Come on get a sharpie and put it on the calendar.  But, I don't think it's unreasonable that they don't know between the unity candle and sand.  That's probaqbly not on their short list of major BM worries.

     
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    hotchildinthecity    June 12, 2010   New York, NY

    Yeah, it annoys me a bit but then I remember that they do not think about my wedding all day long, nor care as much as I do. 

    As for the blog, I write a pretty popular movie review blog (30 followers, wooo!) and none of my friends or family read it.  So they probably wouldn't be rushing to read my wedding blog either ;o)

     
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    Keep in mind that your family and friends love you, but their lives do not revolve around your wedding.  Try not to get too frustrated, you have more than a year left of this sort of thing.

     
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    Soon2BeMrsCLW3    July 31, 2010  

    aww its okay. i really think its because your wedding is still over a year out, people think that your planning is still fresh and constantly changing!!!! if it was this june, yea id be annoyed (or better yet worried!!!) lol. it will be fine.

    if it makes you feel better, when we sent out save the dates a few months ago with the wedding website info on it, i STILL had people (like people that use the internet, FBook all the time) asking IMPORTANT questions (like hotel questions) about stuff that could be found on the website...LOOK AT THE WEBSITE DARN IT!!!!!!!! I wanted to stamp that on my forehead for about a month! lol.

     
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    coffeekitty    November 2010  

    haha. i think it's universal. i'm having the exact same problem!

     
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    Soon2BeMrsCLW3    July 31, 2010  

    oh another thing, i ageree with texasmeredith, it took FI and myself a little to come around to realize that our wedding day isnt as important to anyone else (although they are happy for us, its not their wedding!) so all the effort we have been putting into everything, people arent goignto stop their lives to go to our website to book their hotel rooms....lol.

     
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    taricha    June 18, 2011   Austin, TX

    Thanks!!  I agree with all of you...  I'm not stressing terribly about it but you're right...  The only ones that care so much about it are FI and I!!  We can just laugh about it together :) 

     
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    skibobrown    July 31, 2010   CA (wedding in Bar Harbor, ME)

    "When is your wedding?" -- The date is listed on our save-the-dates and wedding website

    "Where should I book a hotel room?" -- Room blocks are listed on our wedding website

    "What should I wear?" -- Coctail attire is clearly stated on our wedding website

    "Is the wedding outdoors or indoors?" -- Outdoors, also clearly stated on our wedding website.

    Seeing a trend here?  I have received all of these questions from multiple wedding guests.  They are all young and computer saavy... and they know where to find our wedding website if they weren't so damn lazy about just opening a web browser.  But I guess it's just easier to harass the bride with questions instead. 

    Ok, rant over.  Just wanted to let you know that I understand where you're coming from!

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    Oh, I tend to be one of those people who doesn't expect anyone to remember anything. But I have pretty low expectations in general for our wedding, haha.

     

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