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Call me vain, but when I'm in a situation where I am jealous of a woman, I remember that there are always going to be people out there who are much prettier, funnier, sexier, etc. than me, the same way that I am prettier, funnier, sexier, etc. than some other women. Especially if I was there with my fiance, I wouldn't really worry about her at all. I'm there with the guy who pledged to spend the rest of his life with me!
I'm confident enough in myself where I could care less....I'd say good for her!
That's really interesting. I have no personal relation to the scenario I wrote above, but I have been hearing a lot of my friends lament about an upcoming Halloween party we are going to. They are afraid more attractive girls will be there, so I wondered how common this was.
I would notice her, but not be bothered by her presence. I live in NYC which is filled with beautiful people and honestly at our age I feel like we are 'over' being jealous of good looking people. I'm more inclined to feel inferior if other women are dressed better than me than if they are prettier. And I would never be worried about what's going on in my DH's head, he knows where his bread is buttered ;)
@Ticktock: But are your friends in steady relationships? A fear of being at a party with more attractive women then you would make sense if you were trying to pick up/impress the single guys there. But if you're there with your SO, why would you care?
Good for her - it wouldn't bother me in the slightest! I have no doubt that my DH has no desire to be with anyone but me so why should I care if there is another attractive woman around. My DH finds me absolutely gorgeous (even when I don't always think so)!
@MandaMack: Both are married, and I /think/ they are doing ok in their relationships. One is going without her husband because he is working overseas. They are still quite concerned about this, though.
Def. not. I will always say I love that on her or I want same outfit. I am by no way a model, but the other day I was dressed up for an interview at a law firm and this one secretary she was a bit short and a little heavy just kept shooting glances over at me. I was sitting there waiting and I could tell that she didn't like something about me. I walked out of the room in which the interview was being held and I really wanted to know if it was my imagination or what. I was very nice to her when I first came in so I figured that she was just curious. I looked out the corner of my eye and sure enough this girl (she was young about my age) stared at me as I walked out. Talk about a bit jealous lol It seems I always have that effect on other women. I had a roommate in college that hated me because I liked to dress nicely for whatever it was and she wasn't a great dresser. I came to my room one day and she was talking about me very sad. lol
I like looking at beautiful women. Who doesn't? I wouldn't be jealous, but I might stare a bit.
Haha, I check out beautiful women more than my husband does. What can I say - I appreciate beauty as much has he does, but he's not the kind of guy to "check out" a woman, it makes him feel disrespectful.
Maybe I am just arrogant (LOL) but usually I'll just keep in mind that I am the hottest girl there. There may be a girl who is skinnier or whatever, but usually I am one of the hottest (gosh I sound like such a bi***...hahaha) women there anyway. It's how I keep from getting insecure. And at last year's Halloween party, I got voted sexiest costume, so I have to hope I am at least somewhat right! :D
@Ticktock: They're married and they're upset over the idea that they're husband might look at another woman???? Life in general must be pretty stressful if the prospect of attractive women being around gets them upset.
I do not worry about my FI looking at other women, and I don't often feel jealous in that sense -- he loves me, he's marrying me, he thinks my body is hot even if I don't.
But in general, beautiful women intimidate the hell out of me. I'm short, chubby, and not exceptionally pretty, and I just can't imagine what it must be like to be that beautiful and know that you are. My FI and I used to work with a girl whom I thought was the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen, and even though she was extremely nice, I had trouble feeling comfortable with myself around her.
@moderndaisy: A reply after my own heart. Sitting on the subway, I find that there are so many beautiful ladies on there. I spend my time looking at their clothes though and thinking to myself how come I don't know how to mix colors well. I also envy their shoes since I am a shoe-a-holic. Back to the situation at hand, I probably would roll my eyes with a friend if I have a good friend there, all in good fun. I wouldn't be jealous or anything. And I'm sure most guys check women out, I think my guy is just VERY GOOD at it because in all these years, I've never caught him!!
I know there are women more attractive then me (I'm heavy) but I shouldn't be angry at them b/c of that. Part of it's natural and part of it's how they present themselves. The part I can't blame them for is their natural beauty. Plus, it gives me ideas if I want to go shopping...I'm not very fashionable, or as my sister puts it to me, "You don't know what looks good but I do."
Eh who cares! I know there are prettier girls out there, what can I do about it? So what if my husband thinks another girl is pretty, he's still with me, and he knows I think other men are attractive but I'm with him. There will always be someone better looking then you who cares :)
I've got enough to worry about without worrying about women who are more attractive than I am. There's not enough hours in the day.
Like daydreamwanderer, I check out pretty girls more often than Mr. S does, and I point them out to him all the time.
@MandaMack: Well, they are probably what people would describe as "high maintenance". They always want to be the ones with the best clothes, the best hair, etc. They just try to look good all the time. I'm way more laid back, so maybe it's a self-esteem thing.
I'm surprised there are two votes so far for the first option. I thought no one would admit to it!
Doesn't bother me, but my best friend is gorgeous, so I guess I got used to it!
Honestly, my self-confidence is based more on how I'm feeling that day than who I'm around.
I agree with @ModernDaisy!
I wouldn't call it jealousy but whenever I see a woman with a rocking outfit I usually get a little down. Like 'damn...that's hot! why didn't i think of that?!'
But never about the actual woman being good looking. I'll aknowledge her and think to myself how pretty she may be, but I wouldn't have jealously issues over it.
I wouldn't care that she's prettier than me or anything, but if FI kept glancing at her like he thought she was hot, it would annoy me. I wouldn't storm out or anything, I would probably just tell him to stop staring at her :P. I've never actually seen FI stare at anyone, though, so I don't see that being a problem!
i think the only time i would be jealous of another woman is if for some reason she had the same outfit on as me and looked loads better in it than i did LOL
otherwise, i have my man, couldnt care less about other women and what they look like. now if i was single and shes monopolizing on all the cute guys, that would be a different story - might head over there with some red wine and "trip" or somethign JUST KIDDING. :)
Like others, I love looking at pretty people & point out attractive men & women all the time!
Noooo, there will ALWAYS be woman who look better than me and there will ALWAYS be woman who don't look as good as me. Doesn't bother me.....
Most times I dress pretty casually. Work is scrubs and hair pulled back in a pony tail. Casual attire is easy as well. My lifestyle isn't that of a high fashion urban girl. I'm cool with who I am.
I'd probably nudge my FI to say "oooh, she's so hot" so we can ogle her together. :) He always gets a kick out of it when I draw his attention to girls like that.
I actually look at beautiful women all the time, more so their make-up, clothes, hairstyles, and then consider trying something new to spice things up.
I look at beautiful women more than FI!
I am confident in myself but at the same time I can respect another women's beauty!
I bet I would point out her beauty and discuss it with FI! That is almost a daily ritual with us LOL!
Not everyone finds the same thing beautiful, so even if I see a drop-dead gorgeous gal walk into a place, I remember all the times that my FI has told me that I'm the most beautiful woman in the world to him.
I'm not jealous because I certainly have awesome traits of my own that she doesn't have, so it all evens out in the end.
@MissBoston: Haha! I'd probably do the same.
I did pageants and still do some promotional modeling so I'm pretty used to being around gorgeous women.
One thing that I've noticed is that someone can be striking when you first see or meet them but after you get to know them, some of that sparkle starts to wear off and you realize that they have their own quirks which make them more human & less intimidating.
@SamanthaSadlier: I feel the same way. I feel like I "have it going on" myself, so I don't worry about other women. Plus, my FH thinks that I am the best thing since sliced bread. lol
I'm in the admiration camp. I like to look at beautiful women, notice the lines, the symmetry, etc.
Haha, I would be most likely to elbow my husband and say “wow, look at her!”
Like others had said, great clothing/sense of style would make me more “jealous”. Not jealous really – I would just think “hmmm, wonder if I could pull that look off?!”
I definitely notice and carry on. I might glance at her a few times, but normally with stars on tv, or when my FI's coworkers bring a pretty girl to the party, we will comment together and normally have the same thoughts! "She's too pretty to be with him" or something silly like that. In fact, my FI has a celebrity crush on Scarlet Johansen (sp?) and I think it's cute that he can share that with me.
Ha, I'd probably elbow him and say, "Look at her! Damn I wish I had her ________." I would be jealous on a level of, my body sucks and it's a constant struggle for me. I'd love to have a super hot body. But I wouldn't be jealous that he noticed her or looked at her. And I know what he'd tell me too if I said I was jealous of her body. "Well, her boobs aren't very big and she's too tall. And did you see her feet? Disgusting." Or if she really was perfect, he'd tell me, 'but you have a much prettier face.' Even if it's not true. I don't put him on the spot like that, I just know what he'd say. :P
I'd check her out, because it's human nature, I think. My thought process would probably go something like:
Wow, she's pretty! She's got great hair/boobs/legs! I really should stop slacking and go to the gym more. I wonder where she got those shoes? I wonder if there's any more of those crab puff appetizer things left. I bet they're all gone... I shouldve gotten two. Well, no, I'll have more champagne/beer/vodka instead...
I'm too easily distracted to focus on someone else that long, and I've spent too long working on myself and my insecurities (lost weight, etc.) to let some other girl's looks send me into a self-esteem crisis spiral. If my FI was checking her out excessively, like staring her down, I'd call him out on it and be annoyed, but at him, not her.
@Ryansgirl: Haha! My DH has a celebrity crush on ScarJo too! He said she has always just seemed very "girl next door" to him despite being a celebrity.
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Ok, say you are at a party thrown by a friend of yours with your spouse/SO. It's adults only, and wine is going around. At about ten at night, a male friend of the host shows up with a gorgeous date. She's tall, thin, and has a beautiful face - she is probably the prettiest girl at the party now. Everyone keeps glancing at her or outright stares for a few seconds, including your SO. You've never seen nor met her before. What is your initial reaction? Jealousy? Indifference? A hit to your confidence? Just curious!