Post # 1
I have seen a few different posts on here about being totally pissed off when another person flirts with your SO (some I completely agree are out of hand).
I, however, get a kick out of it! My DH is a handsome man (I am biased, but I have lived long enough to know I am not the only person to think so) and I think it is HYSTERICAL when other people flirt with my DH, women or men!
My husband only has eyes for me and barely even notices if he is being hit on, and I ALWAYS have to point it out after the fact!
I am interested, does it bother you?
Post # 3
I don’t really like it when it’s happening, but I always have to tell my FI that he was just being flirted with because he never even notices! And so when I’m telling him about it, it’s kinda funny and I reliaze it’s kind of flattering (for him as well as me!).
Post # 4
@SweetartMD: The only time it bothers me is when it’s persistent or done out of spite. (we used to have a “friend” who would run to hug him whenever we showed up where she was, and mid-hug she would shoot me a nasty look over his shoulder. He couldn’t figure out why I didn’t like her…)
For example, we were out at a bar one night and Random DrunkGirl comes up puts her arms around him and starts “Hiii…” I gave her “The Look” and she walked away. Not 15 minutes later, while I was talking to some of our other friends, RDG is back hanging all over him. He took care of it that time and she didn’t come back.
But the girls that stare at him when we’re out anywhere (he’s smokin’ hot, not gonna lie) make me laugh. He, like most men, is completely oblivious to it all lol.
Post # 5
I think I would get jealous if my FI flirted back, but he’s just always clueless about it. The only woman I’ve caught him staring at is me, so I’m sure that helps me feel a bit more secure.
Post # 6
What bothers me is when ladies do it in front of me…it’s a virtual slap in my face and RUDE. leads me to believe those kinds of ladies are evil. LOL
Post # 7
Like right in front of me? Never happens, but I would find it rude and disrespectful.
Post # 8
@SweetartMD: Depends on the intention behind it and his history with the person (if any). I am a very upfront person so I have no problem saying something to the girl, which I have done in the past. I am not one to suffer in silence!
Post # 9
Doesn’t bother me at all. What other people do is not my concern. If my partner acted inappropriately (as defined by us within our relationship) then it would be a problem.
A single person is free to flirt with whomever they choose since they are single. If they flirt with a person in a relationship then the only person doing something wrong is the person in a relationship if they act inappropriately.
Post # 10
I COMPLETELY Agree that sometimes it can be done SPECIFICALLY to be hurtful.
Thats when the [email protected]#$ needs to be put in her place. But with my DH usually its a girl who sees him in class and invites him out for a drink (not knowing he is married), it is super rare for someone to hit on him once they realize I am the wife.
But still, its nice to know he is desired and I have him.
Same as when someone flirts on me, I love feeling desired, but I know I would never act on it.
Post # 11
I would only get annoyed if he flirted back, which he doesn’t. FI is also good-looking (everyone tells me so) and tends to attract attention when we’re at bars and places like that. But he’s always so devoted and respectful towards me, most women back off because he makes it clear we’re together.
I remember a few months into our relationship, we ran into one of my colleagues at a mutual friend’s going-away party…this girl was all over FI, speaking French to him (he’s Swiss) and then later called him. When I called her out on it casually at work, she denied calling him and has since backed off.
I’m also one of those girls who doesn’t like to appear possessive or jealous, so I give him free range to talk to whomever he pleases…thankfully he’s very well-behaved.
Post # 12
@SweetartMD: As far as when dudes hit on me, FH is the same way I am. Once is funny. Any more is disrespectful to both of us.
Post # 13
@SweetartMD: Totally agree..nice to know you take the prize at the end of the day:) . I think it’s cute when people get all flirty and nervous in front of my FI.. he is super shy and gets this “I’m mortified” look on his face haha! Too funny
Post # 14
@s2bmrscook: My husband is not the jealous type. I think he gets a kick out of it too. But if it was more than just little SILLY stuff he would be pissed.
For instance, I have a coworker (teacher and I am a school counselor) who didn’t realize I was married (hello, I wear a wedding ring and e ring!) and I didn’t realize he didn’t know, but he was ALWYAS in my office flirting with me.
I told DH and we had a laugh every day when I got home.
It wouldn’t be funny if it was more than that. And now he KNOWS I am married, and stopped…
Post # 15
Nope I don’t get jealous. I know and trust my DH. He would just roll his eyes at whoever is flirting and be done with it
Post # 16
I only really would get annoyed if he didn’t put a stop to it if he realized what was happening.
I don’t really get irritated if a girl flirts with him not knowing that he has a girlfriend (after all, he is hot). Hell, I give her kudos for having the balls to do so.
If it continues after she learns I exist and our relationship is serious then I find it disrespectful and rude.