Post # 1
I am having my wedding at a historical society, Codman Estate in Lincoln Ma, and my fiancée heard from one person (he can’t remember who) that we are supposed to give the society an extra donation on top of the rental price. Does anyone know the guidelines on this? Doing a google search and searches on etiquette sites did not yield any results. I don’t want to deny them of a donation if this is standard procedure, but at the same time we are on a really tight budget so I would like to know what is expected of me before I take money away from other pieces of our wedding. I know I’ll probably end up donating to them in future years, but what about when we hand in our final payment?
Post # 3
We’re getting married at Strawbery Banke in NH, also a historical site. I do not plan onf giving them anything extra. It is already expensive enough and they don’t really have to do anything. In fact, the museum will still be open to the public during our ceremony.
I don’t think you have to give them anything else.
Post # 4
I’m not sure if you have to give a donation ontop of the venue fee…but if you do decide to do it make sure you get a reciept because the donation is tax deductible. 😉
Post # 5
I don’t think you have to if they have a venue fee- that likely covers all their costs and allows them to keep some profit. However, if you want to, I’m sure they would appreciate it. With the current economic downturn, most states see things like historic sites and societies as an easy place to cut their budgets. Many of these sites really are in crisis and we’re seeing tons of places having to restrict their hours to just a few days a week or even close entirely, and layoffs 🙁 But of course, this is your wedding, not a charity project. Give something if you have the money and you feel moved to do so. If you don’t, don’t feel guilty about it, it is not expected.
Post # 6
we got married at a historical site and didn’t donate. i felt like paying the venue fee was quite enough.
Post # 7
Thank you for the input everyone!
I think what we’ll end up doing is seeing how well we stayed within our budget and determine if we will give an extra donation at the time. I know we will give donations in the future (a nice anniversary tradition perhaps) as this will always be a special place for us.
Post # 8
I love the idea of an anniversary tradition of making the donation. That is great!