Post # 1
If the legal church ceremony is on one day and the wedding banquet to be held a year later, do you give gifts twice? If not when would you give the gift? Is it weird if I gift during the legal ceremony but not the banquet? Thanks!
Post # 2
That’s weird. I don’t think you’re under any obligation to gift twice, though I’d feel weird about showing up to one of the events empty handed so I’d probably gift something small for both.
Post # 3
I would do a congratulatory card and check for the ceremonu, and a bottle of wine for the party.
Post # 4
I think one gift covers both. A year apart? Nope. One gift would be given from me, and probably after the ceremony.
Post # 5
They only got married once, regardless of how many weddings they throw themselves. They get one gift. The timing of it, I think, is entirely up to you.
Post # 6
ariaK: You’re giving a gift to congratulate them on their wedding. They’re only having one wedding, no need for 2 gifts.
Post # 7
Definitely not. They get 1 gift, just like any other couple getting married. Think of it this way, if they would have had the events on the same day (like most do) they would only get one gift.
Post # 8
one gift- i would do a card and check at the ceremony. i wouldnt give a gift a year later for the “reception” thats odd they are waiting one whole year between the two events.
Post # 9
ariaK: You are making the mistake, of associating your gift-giving with your invitation to an event. That has the unpleasant effect of making it seem that you are paying off the hostess for her hospitality — turning her gracious welcome into a vulgar commercial transaction.
Invitations and gift-giving are indeed related, but not in that way.
When you hear that someone you love is getting married, you naturally want to contribute in some way to their future life together. You do that by *sending* them a gift. You send the gift to the bride’s home: you do not properly ever bring a parcel to a formal event — not the ceremony certainly, but not the reception either.
When you are getting married, you naturally want to invite the people whom you love. It’s the love, or at least friendship, and the fact that you both want to recognize that love, that creates the indirect link between hospitality and gift-giving. So the bottom line is: no, you do not give two gifts just because the same wedding is celebrated on different days; and yes it is weird to bring a parcel to the legal ceremony. Give one gift, and have it sent to their home.
Post # 10
You send only one gift, with a card.