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Do you give joint gifts?

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    Gilneas    October 10, 2010   NJ

    For the holidays and birthdays, do you and your fiance / husband give gifts to your or their family members together or separately?

    For his family, we usually do it together (as that is how his relatives also give us gifts), but my side of the family tends to split it out.  He bought my mom a separate birthday gift and Hannakuh gift this year, but I think we're going to jointly give gifts to my stepsiblings and stepdad.  My stepsister's boyfriend always gives us separate gifts than my stepsister, and my stepdad usually does the same as well (separate from my mom).

     
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    jmc    12-12-09   long island city, ny

    We do it together.  I think we started this last year.  It just makes things easier and honestly, I think it helps our families think of us as a unit (an idea we're always trying to encourage!).

     
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    eeniebeans    October 9, 2010   Baltimore

    We do it separately for adults but the kids in the family get a gift "from aunt E & uncle T".

     
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    Nexus-6    March 12, 2010   Portland

    We're doing joint gifts this year since now we're engaged and living together, whereas we weren't last year. Oh wait but my FI is additionally giving his mom a necklace from just him since he forgot her birthday this summer, lol! (and it wasn't on our calendar so I couldn't remind him!)

     
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    Ms Mini    July 17, 2010   Medicine Hat, AB

    We used to do it separately, but this year we started giving jointly!

     
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    Blueshoes2    June 2010   PA

    We give joint gifts all the time.  Sometimes we do separate gifts, but not too often.  We live together and share financial responsibilities, so giving joint gifts for Christmas, parents birthdays, etc makes the most sense for us.

     
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    oracle    October 23, 2010   Los Angeles

    I don't plan to give jointly for Christmas, until we are married.

    A couple weeks ago, my nephew had a b'day.  My budget is tight, so I ended up going in on a gift with my mom.  My FI turns around and gives my nephew a cash gift that's double the amount of my gift.  He loved surprising my nephew, but I almost died (my first thought:  what about our tight budget and the wedding fund?!).. .and then I realized how sweet and generous it was.  Aye.

    We give jointly when it's one of my friends or one of his friends.  Whoever is closest buys whatever they would normally buy, and then we just add the other name to the card.

     

     
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    almostduffy    3-12-2010   socal

    we give them together but we have a daughter, so it's different. We are  already doing the family thing =)

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    we give joint gifts because usually i pick it out tell him how much so that he can either reimburse me or tell me it's too much.  after that I just hand him the card to sign :D... it's the same with Christmas cards, I just hand them to him to sign and then the kids and I sign them.

     
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    lulucarmen    August 7, 2010   Saskatchewan

    We give joint gifts..its easier that way :)

     
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    guineapig    May 2010   Baltimore/Stevensville, MD

    We buy our parents gifts ourselves, but 'give' them jointly.  As in, I'll research/find/buy my parent's presents, but when we give it to them, it will be from 'us'.  He does the same with his parents.  It works well for now, since obviously we each know our parents best, and if we do it jointly we can afford one nicer present instead of two small ones!

     
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    Miss Bravo    October 31, 2009   LA

    We always give joint gifts; the thought of giving separate gifts never even crossed my mind until reading your posts!

     

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