(Closed) Do you guys have a long term plan for your long distance relationship?

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

Yep ! It took me 5 days to agree to date J because we had to work out the details and make sure our relationship was realistic πŸ™‚

Plan is: this semester distance + winter break together + one more semester of distance + summer together in our hometown + short-ish distance (2 hour flight) until the winter wedding! Yay!

Then we’ll live in his place for year and a half, and then move back here together. Yippee!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@daydreamwanderer – glad to hear the distance is almost over!

Our plan isn’t completely solid yet but he’s graduating in May and we’ll be LDR until then.  If he has a job lined up when he graduates then I’ll be moving to be with him, if he doesn’t he’s going to move in with me when his lease ends in June.  Either way this is the last year of distance. πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had to. But, it was tough. We were very up in the air until I took the MCAT, bombed it, and HATED my pre-med classes. Once I decided not to go to medical school, we were able to hash out a “plan” and it was contingent on me graduating, getting a job in St. Louis, then waiting a year and a half for him to get out of the Army and come home (which we both knew would happen–he never wanted to be a lifer. He wanted to do his 4 and get out”. But, if I couldn’t get a job in StL, I’d go to Savannah with him and get a Masters from Georgia Tech’s satellite spot. It all worked out pretty good–we just kept counting down the 4 years. It’s much easier when you’re in college–you’re so busy you don’t even miss Friday date nights too much.

Having a plan kept me looking forward to the light at the end of the tunnel. It wasn’t just a year or two we were looking at, but 4 years.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

YES!!! That is really what keeps us going (that there is an end in sight)! I am in grad school in PA and when I finish, I will move to Chicago to be with him. So for now, I just focus on school and finishing so it keeps me motivated. I may or may not be able to be with him after our wedding in May depending on what classes my program is offering next semester. We just keep telling each other that we have the rest of our lives to be together and that this is just temporary!

 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

@ejs- Are we BOTH seriously in STL with men away in the military? lol

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Our plan:

-over the next few months, nail down date, location, and celebrant for wedding, book these (must have this to apply for visa)

-I apply for Prospective Spouse Visa by February 2010

-Prospective Spouse Visa granted, hopefully by mid-2010

-late 2010/very early 2011, I travel to Oz and we get married

-I apply for spouse visa

Now, somewhere in there we’ll have to figure out where we’ll be living, get a place, and move at least some of my stuff. I hate to move it all to a place we’ll only be in temporarily, but the possibility of him getting a job transfer to Brisbane is completely up in the air.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

@ejs and futuredrbraun – I agree, being in school and crazy busy DOES help!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes we have a plan! He will be moving to be with me in October 2010.

I’ve mentioned in several places on the board that work commitments mean it isn’t possible until before then. We did university then we do a compulsary training period in order to qualify. We studied optometry so we practiced as optometrists under supervision for a year and did exams to pass. Once those are out of the way the company that was supervising you can tie you in to working for them for x yrs after qualifying. most say one, his said two. In that October we will have been qualified for 2 yrs.

Until then we alternate where we see each other, this weekend he was at mine, next weekend I’m at his. The reason he is moving to be with me is also part of the plan. Only his mum and dad live in wales and they are currently still working. Where I live I have a bigger family support network, I have long-term ties and friends. He has only lived where he is for 5 years, 3 of those were away at university, so his connections aren’t quite as strong. All the same I LOVE where he lives and I’m not ruling it out for later on, but once babies come along, I’d rather have my family around me and go and visit his parents regularly instead. There is more to this story, but I won’t bore you!

Its a pain in the bum, but the end is in sight!

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@zippylef, YES we are! Craziness. I’m PMing you =]

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We definitely had a plan from the start – marriage! I am a traditionalist and didn’t want to move to live with him if we weren’t married or at least engaged, and when we started dating, we knew he would be moving in 8 months, so by the 3 month mark, we already had a plan to get married after I graduated. By the time he moved, we had a date set, even though we weren’t officially engaged, and that has helped SO MUCH to know the end date! I was telling my mom today that I think the wedding day will be that much more exciting knowing its also the end to our long distance relationship.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper

We were long distance for four years, culminating in a proposal right before I graduated from college, and now we’re in the same city. πŸ™‚ It worked out.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I guess our plan is just to stick with it and make the best of his rotations until he graduates. πŸ˜› Mr Spin was just here for a month on a rotation and headed out Sunday for another one. We won’t see each other much for the next 2 months since he’ll be far away and where he was placed to live isn’t conducive to visitors (read, he’s living with a weird little old lady). But I get him for February, so that’s nice. ^_^

But after he graduates and takes his boards, he’ll move in with me. My apt. lease will end a month or so after we get married (thank god–I am so sick of this crappy apt and my crappier neighbors) so then we’ll move either to a new apt. in Omaha or to a small town outside Omaha, depending on where he takes a job. *sigh* Our plan is really just speculation and vague ideas at this point. We have too many variables and “wait and see” aspects. πŸ˜›

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

We didn’t have an “end game plan” for most of our LDR.  It was super stressful for me.  This round of long distance has been more bearable because I know that we’ll be married at the end of it.  Still, coming off of a year of being in the same town, it was a much harder adjustment for me that I anticipated. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Our plan… to be in the same city by the one year mark and engaged before the one year and six month mark.  I’m have a funny feeling we’ll be engaged by the one year mark.  LOL!!!

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