Do you have a long engagement?

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Did you have a long engagement?
    Yes, loved it! : (32 votes)
    18 %
    No, hated it! : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Yes, hated it! : (17 votes)
    10 %
    No, loved it! : (18 votes)
    10 %
    Our choice on the long engagement : (47 votes)
    27 %
    Not our choice on the long engagement : (8 votes)
    5 %
    Our choice on the short engagement : (13 votes)
    7 %
    Not our choice on the short engagement : (4 votes)
    2 %
    The timing was just right for us! : (34 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    446 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I’m the same way!  We actually will have been engaged for 10 years when we get married.  The reason behind it is that my fiance is a brain cancer survivor and wanted to finish school before we took the plunge.  It actually was a good decision.  We have gone through some challenges that most younger couples have not faced.  I also have been able to start a career, finish my Master’s degree, and become independent.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We got engaged 10/21/12 and will be getting married 6/7/2014. We were both finishing up college and just bought a house. I hate this long engagement, it really sucks but I have had plenty of time to get stuff done (if not too much). If I could do it again I’d have an under a year engagement. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I don’t think any of the options suit us. We got engaged 25/12/2011. 2012 was too soon for us to plan something, and I didn’t want to get married in 2013. Not because I thought it would be unlucky, but I think it’s not very nice visually. So 2014 was our only option! We would have been married a year earlier if it hadn’t have been 2013 🙂

    Post # 7
    Member
    252 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We were engaged for a year and a half, which is considered average. But it was wayyy too long. I think 9 months would have been perfect. 

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    22135 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We had a 2+ year engagement, our choice. Loved it! I was getting my master’s while we were planning so it helped spread out the planning and the stress and whatnot. 🙂

    Post # 9
    Member
    2151 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Our engagement is 23 months total(our choice), and so far I am loving it! Everything books up quickly in our town so I’m happy to have time to browse and make decisions before booking. Plus, it’s going by really quickly! 

    Post # 10
    Member
    4601 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Our engagement is just over 3 years. We also got engaged in college and we weren’t planning on having such a long engagement, but money got significantly tighter over the course of our relationship, FH’s graduation got delayed, I had to quit my job, I moved, his mother passed away… lots of things happened so we just decided to wait. 

    There have been times when I’ve hated it. I work best on a deadline, and for a while, we didn’t have a date. By the time we set a date, I had procrastinated a lot on the wedding planning and ended up stressing myself out about all the things that needed to be done. For the most part though, it’s been ok. We had only been together 10 months when we got engaged (known each other for 4 years before that) so I was glad we got to know each other better and live together for a while before we got married. Living together was something I wanted to happen before marriage, and if we had gotten married when we first planned to, we wouldn’t have been living together long. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    2169 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We’ve been engaged 15 months and have three months to go – so 18 month engagement.  I’m very, very ready to be married NOW but the timing really was for the best… we got engaged September 26 2012 and I wanted a March wedding.  2013 was just going to be too tight/feel too rushed.  The amusing thing is that we’ve actually been engaged longer than we knew each other to begin with!  So it’s been a time of growth & strengthening our relationship and as I say, we are both so ready to say “I do” now.  I don’t really love it and I don’t really hate it, it’s just what it had to be…

    Post # 12
    Member
    1840 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Got engaged 12/31/12, will be married 4/25/15. It’s working out beautifully.

    Post # 13
    Member
    309 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Cluelessbride10:  I love this! <3

     

    We got engaged in December 2012, and I really wanted a summer wedding, and summer 2013 just seemed too close.

    Sometimes it feels like it’s too long, but one thing I will say- I got my first choice on EVERYthing for vendors, dresses, etc.

    Downside is now I’m kind of stuck with not much wedding stuff to do, but I know once spring comes I’ll be racing to get it all done!

    Post # 14
    Member
    425 posts
    Helper bee

    I can’t vote yet but I’m expecting a 2-3 year engagement. This will be nice as I can take my time to plan the wedding, plan for the marriage, and enjoy celebrating the engagement period.

    Post # 15
    Member
    2968 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We got engaged earlier this year in February and we won’t be getting married until May 2015. A number of people have questioned our decision to wait but when I point out how hectic things were for me in the last six months while I finished my Honours degree and the fact that I’ll be doing my Masters for the next two years, they quickly get why we’ve given ourselves plenty of time.

    Frankly, we’re loving it so far. We’re getting things done, no stress and plenty of time to research prices.

    Post # 16
    Member
    365 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We will be engaged nearly 4 years by the time we get married. We got engaged on August 13, 2010 and will be married on May 30, 2014.

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