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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    Last night's episode of "How I Met Your Mother" focused around Lily and Marshall wanting to find another couple to be friends with.  It got me thinking about couple friends.  My husband and I are lucky enough that my best friend is married to his best friend, so I guess they would qualify as our couple friends (if they didn't live so far away).  However, if it weren't for this coincidence, I'm not sure we'd have another couple that we got along so well with. A lot of our individual friends have SOs, but we never really seem to click with their partners as well as we have with our original friend.

    Do you and your SO have "couple friends"?  Did you become friends with them as a couple or were you friends with one member of the couple first? 

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I watched that episode!  So silly, they were super intense lol.

    We actually are lucky in the same way, my best friend is engaged to my fiance's best friend.  We're all in each others weddings which are 4 months apart.  I met my best friend through my FI though because he'd been friends with his BF since they were little.  But, we live in 2 different states so we're limited in the activities we can do together, and when we are together the boys usually go play and we do our girlie things lol.  I love the idea of having a few couples to go out with.  We're gonna be moving to CT where all of the couples we do know are so hopefully that'll make things easier.  Sometimes its just more fun in a group!

     
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    There are several couples that we are friends with.  Honestly, they are all my friends and their SOs.  We don't go to B&Bs together, but we do dinner together regularly.  

    I LOVE HIMYM.  Marshall's video montages were hysterical!!

     
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    MzThrowBac2B    December 2012   Tx

    We hardly have any friends let alone couple friends. We pretty much have lost touch with alot of old friends:(

     
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    PeytonL79    12/6/2009   DC Area

    LOL, I saw that episode last night!  It got me thinking...we really only have 1 set of "couple friends" where both of us get along really well with both of them.  She and I have been friends for a while, and when FI and her DH met, they instantly got along.  They helped us move into our new place, and we just all had dinner together for my birthday a few weeks ago.  Most of my other friends are either single or FI and their DH haven't really met/clicked yet.

     
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    jingle96    May 28, 2010   DW in ARUBA/livin' in VA

    The Fi and I have tons of couple friends!!! In fact 5 of the couples we know got engaged this year!  Crazy huh, I guess were at the age where everyone is settling down and getting married! 

    Most of our couple friends have been together awhile so we knew them as couples already and the ones that haven't, we ended up being friends with their SOs too.  I guess when your friends with someone and like their personality you figure that their SO would have the same personality and interest.  So thankfully it's worked out good friendship wise.

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    Nope, and its kinda frustrating. Most of my friends are 400 miles away and while they're in relationships, they're not quite where we are. My friends here are single, so I just get on their nerves. Most of his friends are either forever single or immature in their relationships (aka not serious about who they're dating).

    Bummer. We need a friend group.

     
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    jaylii9    September 5, 2010  

    Our closest friends are still the people we were close with in college. In a quick nutshell, my best friend and FI's best friend dated all through college. My best friend ended up setting me up with FI, lol So they are our closest couple friends and we are getting married 7 weeks before them next summer.

    It seems like a lot of our other friends are coupling up with people these days, so yes, we have a lot of couple friends!

     
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    OttawaBride2011    May 21, 2011   Ottawa, Ontario

    we have one good set of "couple friends". the guy was actually a friend from school who happened to move to the same city as me after graduation, because his fiancee happened to have a job there. very similar situation to FI and i. i didn't meet his fiancee right away, but when we all met we clicked! lucky, because it's fun to do things with other couples!!

     
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    hotchildinthecity    June 12, 2010   New York, NY

    Not really :o(  Our "couples friends" are FI's friends from work and they're all 8-10 years older than us.  They have more money (since they're established in their careers) and always want to go out to super-expensive dinners, trips, etc.  Plus, they're just generally into different things/interests than us.

    All of my friends are single!  I would love to find more couples friends around our age/interests.

     
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    KellyV    September 12, 2009   New York, NY

    we have a TON of "couple friends."  The saturday before ours (as in 7 days before our wedding!) one set of couple friends got married and we were in their wedding.  Then they were in ours!  We're one of the first to marry, but the rest are close behind :)

     
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    wonderlanded    2 October 2010   London

    I'm 31, and most of our close friends are couples -- in fact, there are so few single women coming to our wedding that I am not throwing my bouquet. It's lovely, though, especially when going out to dinner and having parties.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    One set of couple friends. Who don't live near us. Otherwise, it's usually *his* friend and his SO, or *my* friend and her SO and then some awkward talk while we all try to get to be better friends. His friends all have really nice SO's, I just wouldn't venture to say we're buddies or anything yet. We don't go shopping together or hang out or stuff unless our husbands are there too

     
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    realeastcoaster    July 11, 2009   Canada

    We have a lot of couple friends as well, although I wouldn't call any of these people my best friend. We met most of them through my husband, who is a really social person, while I am much more shy.

    We do have nights where the girls and guys split up, but I never enjoy those as much as when the group is all together.

     
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    pmerr    August 14, 2010   Rochester, NY

    I am so sad that I missed it! I didn't even have my TV on! I completely forgot! :(

    We do have some couple friends but not many-one is our BM who just got married. Anyone else is older, FI's siblings, or has a very busy schedule. Hmm. Maybe we should see our BM & his wife again soon! :)

     
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    thefuturemrsjewell    August 7, 2010   Washington DC

    oh my gosh, how good was HIMYM last night?  I loved it!!!

    We have a handleful of good couple friends in DC, which is really nice because when we were in Atlanta we didn't really have any, all of our friends there were single or dating, but nothing serious.  But when we lived in London basically ALL of our friends were couple friends.  We had a great group of about 6 couples that all the guys (and some of the girls) went to uni together and we just all clicked.  We're all going to Thailand in February for a wedding & long vacation together!  I can't imagine not having great couple friends to hang out with...

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    I'm 31 and my fiance is 32, and pretty much all of our close friends are couples. We're actually going to be one of the last pairs to get married. I moved to my fiance's home city a couple years ago and met him, so a lot of his friends have become our friends. And in his case, he knew the men first, as they were fraternity brothers, and then got to know the women in their lives. 

     
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    WDWBride    March 3, 2010   Walt Disney World

    We don't.  We have 2 sets of couple friends, one is my groom's best friend and wife. The other is my girlfriend who is moving across the country next year, so that will leave us with one :(

     
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    chubbypug    July 10, 2010  

    Ohhh yes.  We have two really close couple friends that we do almost everything with...dinners, fairs, vacations, etc...We have a lot of single friends too, but it's kind of weird to me to hang out with just one of them, because even though it doesn't bother me, I worry that they feel like a third wheel (which they are not!).

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    No... sigh. Locally, one of his good friends has a gf who I can hang out with... when necessary. We're not going to be bffs or anything. Then there are my local friends... who are pretty much all single/randomly dating. 

    We have two sets of couple friends, but they both live far away. Sucks.

     
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    Laylabelle    November 7, 2009  

    Almost all of our friends are married or in serious relationships, so we have a lot of  couple friends. There are only a few that we don't really like or hang with our friends significant other, and those are a little awkward. My two best friends are single.

     
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    Mrs. Spring    May 10, 2009   California

    Ok, first, I LOVE HIMYM.  Secondly, we are kinda "couple friend" people.  I think almost all of our non-couple friends are from our childhoods/high schools.  Right now, we hang out with one couple that lives two blocks down the road from us all the time.  In fact, we were over at their house last night.  Laughing 

    Another couple we hang out with we usually end up with just the guy since his fiance is finishing up grad school out of state (but we prefer both of them together).  And then we have a several more couple friends that don't live in the area (Vegas, East Coast, etc...).  I think we have maybe three friends that are not in serious relationships or that we don't get along with their SOs.  We're pretty lucky that way!

     
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    sn01uh    April 17, 2010   Fredericksburg, VA

    Ah, couple friends.. yeah, we have some "couple friends."

    One couple in particular is my fiance's younger sister and her husband. The four of us get along like crazy, so if FI and I go out to grab a bite at the local Italian place, we call them and ask them if they want to come. If we're buying tickets to go see something in IMAX, we'll ask them if they want tickets, too. We're always hanging out, and it's a really great feeling because I like knowing that our future kids will have cousins that they can grow up with. Plus, my fiance's sister and I love to scrapbook, and her husband is hilarious and calls me his "sister from another mister." I really couldn't ask for more, y'know?

    We have another couple that we are good friends with. The guy is one of my fiance's best friends, and he just so happens to be with this amazing girl who is crafty and makes amazing cakes. She and I hit it off immediately, talking about hobbies and things we love to craft with, and we have a good time hanging out even without the guys.

    (BTW - Marshmallow and Lily Pad! *Fangirl squee*)

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    We have 1 set of couple friends that are our age. His wife is in my age bracket & our guys are best friends! :) Its good because we're close and going through life changes around the same time. I can see our future kids on play dates one day or family vacations together!

    Our other couple "friends" are his sisters or cousins & their spouses... but we don't really like to hang out with them more than we have to. lol eek.

     
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    Minutiae    May 2011  

    My friends are 99% single, his friends generally fall into the 'married with kids' or 'confirmed bachelor/ette' categories. We originally met because of a couple (my sister and bro-in-law). Our contrasting friend stats have to do with the age difference. So we have a pretty diverse circle of friends that includes quite a few couples! I enjoy hanging out with his friends, but they haven't yet become part of my circle of friends, and vice versa. It's sort of hard to cross the divide between college students and settled adults.

     
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    lemondrop    March 13, 2010   Arizona

    All of our couple friends live out of state.  Its been hard meeting couples since we have moved around so much.  None here have really had enough in common to hang out on a regular basis. 

     
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    jesssr       Toronto

    all of our friends are couples. i don't think we have one friend who isn't in a relationship!

     
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    Brudersgirl    September 4, 2010   Seattle,WA

    Um, Yeah, No. We are 25 and the first of our close friends to get married. I wish we had "couples friends" it would be awesome. Most of our friends are still single, except for some of his work friends. They are all older than us though and I don't really consider them close friends. Hmm, maybe I need to find "couples friends".

     
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    Jenniphyr    February 2, 2013   Alberta, Canada

    We don't have any couple friends. : ( One of my best friends is dating, but other than that, none of my friends even have boyfriends! (Which is fine, 'cause they're young -- LOL, it's kind of funny how it's turned out because I was always the one who was going to get married/start dating LAST, and now I'm the first....)

    I dunno. I like hanging out with just my fiance. : ) The only thing I can think of about couple friends being better is that no one has to feel like a "third wheel".

     
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    honeybun    June 5, 2010   VA

    Not really. We have one couple that we are really good friends with. It would make things a lot easier though if we had more!

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    We have one couple that we are really close to...and one that we are really close to the guy but we don't know the girl all that well - we're hoping to fix that! We really would love more couple friends, though.

     
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    Miss Sequoia    May 21, 2011   Berkeley, CA

    Wish we had more...the two who we do know are married with kids and living across the country, so that's tough. But hopefully once we're a little more settled, we'll make new couple friends!

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    We have a grand total of ZERO couple friends, so yeah, it kinda sucks!

     
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    Lizaan    August 13, 2011   The Netherlands

    Hehe. When we started dating my FI and I were the only official couple in the group of both my friends and his friends (two completely different crowds).

    My friends all live in a different country so it never mattered anyways.

    His friends all were born and raised in the same town. Being one of the first permanent girls in his friend group (there is another girl but she's considered more as "one of the guys") I took it on myself to watch over all the new girlfriends. When I first met the guys, my FI (being very overly sociable and carefree) forgot that I was new to everyone and disappeared off with one of his friends. *sighs* So I had to introduce myself to the crowd and eventually got to know them on my own (which has gotten me very close to many of them). I decided I didn't want that experience for the next girl and I didn't want the guys to be obligated to be attatched to her all the time. By making friends with the new girls I automatically ensued the couples dating thing. It's fun and all but my FI and I are very neutral. Singles don't usually feel like a third wheel because we're not attached at the hip. So I don't see couples dating as a necessity.

     
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    daniellemybelle    June 19, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    Funny, I just googled "how to make couple friends" a few days ago!

    We are a young couple (22 and 24 by the wedding) and so most of our friends are still in their college stage of life. Even if they are in a relationship, they aren't committed like we are, and so you can't really have that kind of couple friendship that married couples do. I think it is really hard to meet new people, but its incredibly hard to meet a new couple, and everyone like each other! I think those things just come with time, especially after you have kids and start meeting other parents -- though I wish we had couple friends before we are parents!

     
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    Bamboo    June 2010   Midwest

    No real couple friends. Most of the people we know are not married and very few are in serious relationships. I'd like a couple to go out with. We used to live with a friend and his gf was one of my close friends, but let's just say living with this dude led us to reconsider the friendship after how miserable that year was.

     
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    lolaj       Queens, NY

    All of our friends are couples because they are all married with the exception of two which are single.

    We are the only ones not married or engaged! :(

     
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    Melissabegins    December 12, 2009  

    i feel like we exclusively have couple friends, b/c we moved together to a new city and it worked out that way b/c we met them together.  At home we have single friends, but not here.

    If you want to make couple friends, move somewhere new!

     
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    Akennedy01    September 24, 2011   KY

    We have 11 years between us so it's really hard to hang out with each other's friends. My friends are all in college and living the college lifestyle, if you know what I mean. His friends are mostly married with kids and not much fun to hang out with since they always bring their kids with (not that we're anti-kids but bringing a moody 13 year old puts a damper on the evening, not going to lie). He has a friend from work who has a serious boyfriend but she annoys me. She's 25 and acts like she's 5. Seriously throws temper tantrums and stuff. So we don't really hang out with friends much. I'm okay with that right now since I'm at school most of the day with my friends and then at work with my work friends. When I come home I just want to spend time with him. And on the weekends, we're usually so busy with various projects, housework, and schoolwork for me, that we don't have time to go out. lol, we sound pretty lame.

     

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