Post # 1
Are you going to make a mental note to make sure you spend an hour or two with just the two of you keeping the secret and having the moment to yourselves? Are you going to be calling everyone straight away? Do you have an order of who gets to know first?
I would really like to wait at least an hour before making the calls to everyone. Then I would call immeadiate/close family, closest friends, then a txt out to the people who are friends but not close enough to make calls to, the ex(the father of my child) because it would be awkward for him to have to find out through the grapevine and last of all FB to all the other people, that I want to know but would not go out of my way to let them know personally.
What about all of you bees? Has anyone else thought about this or maybe I’m just crazy??
Post # 3
I really want to tell my parents and his parents in person, but depending on when/where it happens, that may not be an option! I would love for it to happen on vacation and us to have a few days to just enjoy it ourselves and then come back and let family know. After that, I’ll let close friends and more distant famiy know. Followed by FB probably a week or so later.. just to make sure everyone else knows first. And I don’t plan on really announcing anything on FB other than changing our relationship status.
Post # 4
@HopefulSim: i’d like to take a full day or two to ourselves before we tell anyone other than our parents/siblings 🙂 we won’t be able to tell almost anyone in person as we’re living abroad at the moment, but i think i’d like to invite all our close friends here over for drinks and tell them in person so we can share that moment with them!
so we’ll do phone/facetime for family and close friends at home, in person for friends here and then facebook a week or two later for anyone else!
Post # 5
@HopefulSim: You’re not crazy! Or maybe I am too!! I’m really excited about announcing our engagement to our families, sometimes I sit around daydreaming about how we’ll do it:) Oh my, I DO sound crazy! SO and I are going to Australia mid-Aug to visit some of my family and he’ll be proposing sometime before that. The weekend before we leave we’ll be getting together with my family in Toronto for a bbq, so I’m thinking SO and I will go a little earlier and tell my parents in person, followed by the rest when they show up. We’ll call SO’s mum just before or after that to let her know as she lives overseas. We’ll be seeing FBIL and his family the following day so that’s when they’ll find out. Then it’s just a matter of getting my family in Toronto to keep it quiet till we get to Australia the following weekend and surprise the rest of my family with the news. Will probably Skype/email/text a few friends after that and just change relationship status on FB.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - FMILs back yard
@HopefulSim: We will probably keep it to ourselves for a few days. Then the first people who will know are our parents/siblings. Then grandparents. Then close friends. Then fb (which takes care of extended family). Neither of us are particularly close to our extended family members, so facebook is sufficient. And of course, I might personally contact extended family members who don’t have facebook accounts (great aunts, anyone?).
Actually, on second thought, I’m sure the first person who will know will be our roommate (and closest friend) because… how would we hide our excitement?! And I might tell my mom right away, but not anyone else. SOs mom/family is different because they disapprove of the relationship, so that has to be handled…gently.
Post # 7
Our plan is to call my parents right away (his parents will already know) and then spend that night celebrating alone. The next morning, we will visit both of our parents, then grandparents, then our in town aunts and uncles. After that were going to call any other family and friends, and then Facebook later a night!
Post # 8
I’ll just tell anyone who will listen, lol
Post # 9
I will likely want to enjoy the moment for a Few days with just my SO. Then the first person I tell will be my sister (she’s also my future MOH) followed by my other 2 bridesmaids. My parents and I don’t have a wonderful relationship so I will tell theM when I am good and ready. They will likely be amongst the last to know. I do not plan on formally announcing it to anyone besides my bridesmaids But If people ask I will tell them.
Oh yeah and I will announce it here too 😉
Post # 10
I changed our relationship status on Facebook fairly soon after getting engaged, but I’m friends with very few family members on there, even less at the time, so it was really only for the benefit of our friends that way. The next day, however, we went to my parents’ house and told them, then went to my grandma’s for dinner.
I guess I didn’t think of keeping it to myself for awhile, because I wanted to share with everyone!
Post # 11
My FI proposed right before a 6-hour car ride to see my entire family.
It was nice that we had that 6-hour ride to compose ourselves and just enjoy the moment.
I told my family when we arrived, called my brother (who was not present that weekend), then called my BFF/MOH. FI texted his family and close friends (he’s not that chatty a person). Then it went on facebook and it felt like my world exploded.
Post # 12
@Shamus11: “then it went on Facebook and it felt like my world exploded”
In a good way or bad way? haha
Post # 13
@WannaBeeMrsB: Mostly good, until people started inviting themselves to our wedding…
Post # 14
Yeah, I don’t plan on ever changing my status on Facebook until I’m married. I feel like people can just be so nosy about the whole thing. :p
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
I daydream about so many things, and I’ll dream about things happening in many many different ways. I don’t ever have a favourite so hopefully that means I’ll be easy to please when the time comes XD
On the one hand I’d love to phone my mum up immediately and scream at her for a little while. But the idea ofkeeping it between us for a little while, eespecially if we were away, seems really really romantic as well ^^
On the subject of FB i think I would change my status but maybe wait a month or so? I doubt many people I’m friends with on there (that I wouldn’t tell personally as well) really wouldn’t care XD
Post # 16
I imagine we’d keep it to ourselves for at least a day to enjoy it without other peoples wellmeaning fuss. This is easier if the proposal occurs on holiday as you can wait until you get back. At home, the secret would last 5 seconds because I doubt you could hide the happiness from friends and family.