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I am so not even close to a bridezilla, but I admit there are a couple of things that I feel somewhat strongly about for the wedding
I am 6' tall and Mr. Quiche is just over 6'. I plan on wearing small, kitten heels so that I don't tower over him. Sister Quiche is just a bit shorter than me, but has a penchant for heels - I don't want her to be taller than me! Is that strange?
My other pet peeve is tan lines. As in, I HATE them. A halter tan line with a strapless dress? Yikes!! Is there even a way to subtly hint about this to my bridesmaids? I mean, they all know me very well & know that I loathe tan lines...but I'm sure some of them aren't nearly as OCD as me (& thank God!).
Have you had any bridezilla demands? Come on, we won't judge! Let us know what they are!
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I want to have my doggie with me in the bridal suite, so I guess that could be a little bridezilla-ish. Otherwise, I can't really think of any. I'm sure that the occasional moment will pop up where I want my way (doesn't it happen to everyone?), though. I think the difference in Bridezillas and non-bridezillas is in how you respond to your "MY WAY!" moments. :)
My BM dresses were SO EXPENSIVE and I had a total bridezilla moment when I chose them to the effect of it's my day they will wear what I choose. I now feel wildly guilty about it (and still shamefully L-O-V-E the dresses I chose)
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Eeek Ireighard... Are the girls OK? You might want to offer to offset the cost of their dresses with your own money.
I do have a few photographs that I definitely want captured, and I will be setting up the venue so that it is the way that I want it.
I could use a little sprinkle of Bridezilla, I tell ya! We are both so go with the flow that one of us could really stand to be a little more picky. When it comes time to make decisions we're always like,
"What do you want to do?"
"It doesn't matter to me, what do YOU want to do?"
"Well I don't care so you pick."
"I picked last time. It's your turn."
"Just PICK SOMETHING, ALREADY."
"I picked last time, IT'S YOUR TURN."
@ Quiche: Why don't you buy your girls flats or kitten-heels to wear? Or flip-flops? Problem solved and nobody will realize your "interesting" requests for the height arrangements.
i wasn't bridezilla-y but i am experiencing a slight bout of MOH-zilla right now 
Saramari- were you listening to our last wedding conversation over here? That sounds like us!
I hate tan lines too and would ask my photog to edit out the tanlines if there were any in my pictures. Nothing irks me more than a strapless dress on a girl with tan lines - it looks like the dress has straps! Eeek. I actually decided to not have any bridesmaids because I didn't want to go bridezilla on them (and because I don't have anyone in mind for 'maids ).
I haven't had a bridezilla attack yet, but I'm about to if our caterer doesn't call me back soon! Argh!
Luckily everyone is letting us do our own thing without too much input, except my FMIL doesn't want me to wear sneakers instead of "pretty shoes" (my dress is short so everyone will see them) but I comprimised and I'm wearing "pretty shoes" for the ceremony and awesome star studded sneakers for the reception! :D
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so..my fiance's cousin is a bakery manager and is doing our cake free... but as much as im glad she is helping out she wants to put this ugly flower design ALL OVER the cake and our wedding is a park wedding with BBQ. i dont want flowery..i hate flowery.. i want something simple and she wont listen no matter how nice and clear i make it.. the first picture is a lot like the flower design she wants to put on it and the 2nd one is more how i want it but with no flowers and small pearl like dots all over.
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I think the only thing I'm a little bridezilla-ish about is the food.. Mr Techie and I are total foodies and really want a sit-down, multicourse dinner with all the trendy and elegant trimmings we can think of. That's why we opted to go with a restaurant venue instead of a hall. I swear, I'd get married in my PJs if it meant the food was flawless!!
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I am trying my best not to be a bridezilla - I feel like I'll start writing emails to the wedding party, then I'll stop, reread, and make sure that it doesn't sound demanding. Most of it is just informative, but I know people hate receiving emails about wedding stuff sometimes. I will be Bridezilla if people aren't on time though!
My only bridezilla demand right now is that no one in the bridal party wear open-toed shoes for pictures! I hate the way feet look in formal wedding pictures!
They are all fine with it, but I do like their idea for one picture to have everyone (guys and girls) in flip flops and me pounting in the middle!
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I'm trying not to go all bridezilla and so far it's been good. The one thing I did go a little bridezilla about was making my parents review the guest list. They were seriously lagging on that, I asked them to look at it in like october and they finally looked at it the first week of January, I had to schedule a time with them and make them sit down and look at it.
The only time I've gone remotely Bridezilla was when I expressed interest in moving up our date and our venue coordinator responded with something along the lines of" "Oh hay there, I totally just rebooked your date!" I went cuckoo bananas because I had not confirmed with my vendors that they were available on the new date, so I was not ready to give away my date just yet!
As far as what my bridal party looks like, I don't care. As long as they're clothed and don't look a hot mess, that's fine by me.
@ saramari- Ha, that's like us too!!
I have to grudgingly admit, I feel a Bride-zilla moment coming on. One of our best men has decided, for whatever reason, that he wants dreadocks. I think he looks great with long hair, and I'd be willing to tolerate long hair at my wedding but....dreadlocks? I'm just not a fan, so much so that I think I am going to go ballistic on the guy if he shows up with dreads.
What do you think? I mean, it's obviously a personal style choice, and I know I should just be happy that he's going to be there as our best man but...ugh I really hate dreadlocks!
I *considered* asking my BMs not to wear their hair similar to mine (down, w/ curls), but decided not to. In the end it was fine, b/c the styles looked totally different on their shorter hair.
Otherwise ... I think I made it through ok, although I could totally be forgetting something. It's easy to gloss over everything once it's over and all seemed to go so well.
My Bridezilla moment: Insisting on having the rehearsal dinner at the same location as where he proposed. Which wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't 2 hours away from where my 11am ceremony will be! (But come on...it's a great restaurant!!)
I played an 8-minute song for our first dance. I had carefully edited a 4-minute version but the DJ wasn't able to open the file at the last minute. Me and the husband are dancers so it was in the least interesting to watch, but I did feel people getting stir-crazy after about 5 minutes! We could have chosen another song, but it was very important to me to have that song as our first dance. No regrets!
Ooh... I just thought of my one bridezilla thing! I still haven't fully worked this one out yet. My fiance's family has a friend that wants to "do my hair" for the wedding. I showed her pictures of what I wanted (vintage wave ala Lauren Bacall, Grace Kelly or Katherine Heigel) and she said, "Nope, you can't have that. It will take to long. Oh and I don't do up-dos, so just forget about that."
When I get really quiet, it's not a good thing. She went on to say that she hated her hair at her wedding and she's going to do mine the way she wanted hers. In order to not go completely batty, I had to leave the house and go for a drive under the pretense of running an errand.
I have no idea what I'm going to do about this, but I have a feeling it's not going to be pretty...
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I'm probably one of the most laid back brides in the world. I'm letting all my BM's pick their own dresses, shoes (as long as they are the same color, length, and material) My only request that I will not budge on is hair. I do not want any tall "ghetto" hairstyles. My sisters can be a tad bit eccentric and will wear their hair in many different colors and styles. Also, most of my BM's are plus size except for 1. So i told them if there dress is a lil tight, get some spanx or a girdle...They all flipped out on me...Am I wrong? lmao.....
My sisters arent as extreme as these pictures, but you get my drift...lol
@DoctorGirl: That sounds rough! I would NOT let that person have control of my hair for my wedding day. Could you tell her that you'd really like your own stylist to do your wedding hair, as you and she communicate really well (or something - whatever is true for you) and ask her to do your hair for the rehearsal or a shower instead?
Sounds much too risky to me to let her have her way with your locks!!
@drifts- I totally agree, but we are flying in for the event, so I can't say that with any honesty and given that the hairstyle is somewhat challenging, I don't think I can do it myself (I tried once).
I should never have let it get this far, but I didn't know her and thought it would be nice to make fiance's mom happy.
It's one of my biggest stresses right now!
I had a Bridezilla moment after a huge wedding crisis came up. We had already paid deposits on our church and reception site and had been planning for about 3 months. Out of the blue, the church secretary called to tell us that they would no longer be able to accomodate our wedding date. Apparently their pastors were going to be unavailable, and even though they had assured us that we would be able to have a retired pastor perform our ceremony months before, the pastor changed her mind. So almost 3 months after they took our deposit check, they were now telling us that we had to change our date or find another place!! I went ballistic on her!
I had a huge freak out and breakdown. I couldn't believe that we had to start all over again, after months of planning. Ultimately, we decided not to change our date (we had already booked several other elements and our reception site would not be available on an alternate weekend) and just booked another room at our reception site. We're having a friend officiate our ceremony. It actually worked out for the best, I'm really psyched to be having everything all in one place and having a friend be a part of the ceremony. But at the moment I found out, I was kind of a Bridezilla!
I actually just calculated out my menstrual period for my April DW and realized I will start ~2days after yep on my honeymoon! Almost guarantees me a bridezilla moment before the wedding! I'm gonna hormone manipulate with Birth Control pills to ensure this doesn't happen! I have been insitent on the pink tie for my fiance and shirt for my son though! lol
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My bridezilla moments have been more over disagreements with his parents. Like wanting a contract from the caterer that they want to use. Since he's a family friend they see no need for a contract. Um no. Also FSIL, who is a groomswoman, wanted to change out of her dress that matches the bridesmaids and I said no. But really is it being a bridezilla if you are just asking for things nicely, or at least try to be nice.
OMG, my bridezilla moment has totally been with a vendor! We rented a luxury B&B up the hill from my Mum's house (Where we're having the wedding) so that we could provide some sweet accomodations for the wedding night for our wedding party and family. It's a rockin mansion with two pools, two hot tubs, a sauna--it's pratically screaming for an afterparty! We're also being given a really good deal beacuse it's my Mum's neighbour so renting it was kind a fait accomplit once we did the walk about.
BUT the owner keeps adding new twists and turns to the agreement at every stage, even tacked on an extra 25 per cent as a "cleaning charge" that slipped her mind when she was showing us around. She also sent a vague e-mail to me about how doing her taxes might change the balance due. She folds like a cheap umbrella every time I draw to her attention that she's contradicting herself, making no sense, or generally renegging in some way, but it's starting to feel extreme that I have to keep doing it! The last time she did it, I thought my e-mail was pretty scathing, so we'll see.... I'm normally not like this but it seems like the only thing that will work in this case. I have never had to make direct references to sections of a contract unless it's at work! Yeesh!
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@doctorgirl, that would stress me out beyond belief. I can't even partially consider your reaction bridezilla-y. Your being way more tactful than I would be. Since it's your FH's side's friend, can he intervene? Regardless of time constraints I'm sure you can find something that will be more to your liking. If nothing else, it would probably be really stressful to have someone so pushy around you on your wedding day! I hope it works out!!
BTW, are you getting married in Seattle or do you just live there now? I have a couple of suggestions for stylists/salons if you'll be in Seattle.
My Bridezilla moment was with our photographer, I really didn't want to use this one photographer so I had to put my foot down :)
Mostly I deal with MOB-zilla ;-)
I'm getting married in Tahoe. It's too bad on that front because I have the *best* stylist in Seattle. He's like my own personal miracle worker! He's at Margi David Salon and his name is Jason Lehninger. I love him, and even thought about flying him down to Tahoe to do my hair... he's that good!
My mom wanted a particular food at the reception and I thought it was just a little too casual. It's the only idea she's given that I've absolutely nixed.
For the girl with a dreadlocked best man - I don't think we can tell someone how to look beyond what clothes to wear and maybe how the girls should style their hair the day of. If your best man wants dreadlocks and your matron of honor wants a pixie haircut, it's their hair and their choice. My best man will likely have a shaved head, and while I think he looks better with hair, I can't really tell him to grow it out for my wedding. :)
oh doctor just say no!!! tell her you want her to enjoy the day and not be stressed by doing your hair?? goodnes you have to get out of that one!! could you have your FMIL (or someone who is closer to her then you are) be the middle person. You seem like a super reasonable person so I'm sure if you are able to explain it to someone then they can talk it out with this woman. you dont want someone living their wedding day through you!!
I'm not sure of my bridezilla moment yet - but I have plenty of time for them to come and I'm sure they will!! - The only time so far that I've had a breakdown was when discussing with my parents that we were not planning to have the ceremony in a church ... I was pretty upset during the whole conversation and it got pretty heated, but as soon as I got my point across we all settled back down and it hasn't been a problem since, they are now actually excited to help create our spiritual-but-not-religious ceremony.
I also hate tan lines -- so much so that I'm just getting BM dresses with straps! :)
@tmarie: OMG I am so afraid of that!! I'm crunching the numbers and it's not looking good. I'll have an extra visitor at my wedding!! Yikes!!
@Doctor: That stinks that your own stylist won't be able to do your hair! I'd say take pictures of EXACTLY what you want with you. And keep on her about sticking to them as she's doing your hair if you have to. If I were you, I'd also ask my stylist if I could do a trial with him while she watched. Then she'll see both what you want AND how happy you are with it. :)
Good luck!!
mine is generally -- delegating DIY tasks then being upset when they weren't done exactly as I had shown them (inspiration photo or "prototype") OK, I know you can't be super anal, but the design being changed to being more that person's style, huh....and my FI, bless his heart, keeps trying to help, but it takes him 5x longer than me, but I still need the help, or I won't get it all done in 10 days! I've been super cool until the 2 weeks leading up, so prepare yourselves, ladies, especially if you are changing your hormones like I am to move your period to prewedding, doh ;)
Miss Quiche, I am totally with you on the tan lines! I am just going to be blunt about it! No sunburns or tan lines! I am gifting them with SPF 50 in their welcome bags :)
@ loveatfirstsightlover- I know- I feel bad that the thought would even enter my mind to tell someone about the way to have their hair because that's such a personal choice, but when I imagine looking back on my wedding photos 10 years from now I can see myself thinking, "oh right, we had our wedding in the one month that Mr Best Man decided he wanted dreadlocks and everyone knew it looked awful but it's too bad he did not figure it out until after our wedding".
That is to say, Mr Best Man is a close friend of mine and I don't think he really wants dreadlocks as much as he'd just like to see how he looks with them and then cut them off, and I'm irritated about the fact that might coincide with my wedding day. I'm aware that it's stupid and really petty, but I can't help that I still feel like that.
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