Do you have any guests that you AND your fiancé barely know?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Pinkmoon:  MIL gave us a list of about 20 people as well. It was not becuase of a cultural thing–it’s just an annoying MIL thing, lol. She actually invited the people that USED to rent farm land from DH’s grandma 10 years ago. Yes, and guess what? They ACTUALLY flipping showed up. It wasn’t too awkward as they still had plently of people to talk to.

She also invited great newphews and nieces of DH’s grandpa that had no idea who we were. I was a little embarrassed thinking of how they might look when they get an invite from us, but no one said anything.

The ones that did come that we didn’t know we just said, ‘Oh! Fantastic to meet you. We’ve heard a lot” and got on with our night. Luckily many didn’t show up, maybe about 5-10.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was a stranger at a wedding! DH’s ultra-good friend from high school got married last year after a three-year engagement. We met and got engaged during their engagement, so the first time they met me was at their wedding!

I also had strangers at our 42 person wedding! I hadn’t met some of DH’s friends that lived cross-country until the wedding day!

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Pinkmoon:  There were tons of people there who we didn’t know – friends of my parents and my dad’s colleagues.  Most people who I hadn’t met or hadn’t seen for a while, just introduced themeslves to me and I just said it was great to see them and thanks for coming.  The “strangers” definitely didn’t expect me to know who they were and they made me very comfortable.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

We had a few neither of us had never met before – his aunt’s (who married into the family) parents, my coworker’s girlfriend, friends’ kid’s boyfriend, etc.  It was fine.  I probably spent about 5 minutes total talking to all of them, and they were all just thrilled to be included even though they didn’t know us.  

Everyone knows the bride and groom are crazy busy that day, so don’t worry about talking to them more than “Hi, nice to meet you, yes thank you I know I look beautiful, have a great time!”

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

@Pinkmoon:  Yeah, my Chinese mom wants to invite everyone she knows to my wedding.  Thankfully (I guess) she’s not contributing so she doesn’t really have a say! 😛

At two of my aunts’ weddings, there were strangers invited by my grandparents and I think they handled it well.  It was a little awkward but all you really need to do is smile, shake hands/hug/whatever, and thank them for coming.  You can even throw in a “It’s good to see you!” if they seem nice, and then I think you can move on – I don’t think you’ll be expected to entertain them for long!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Most of DH’s extended family.  I had never met any of them, and he barely knows them.  

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Yeah.. NO. I think that’s incredibly awkward and don’t care to have people my SO and I do not know and would be meeting for the first time at our wedding.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

P.S. Chinese guests usually give good-sized cash gifts.  Have your FI ask his parents if their guests’ gifts are going to them or to you – if they’re super traditional, the gifts go to whoever invites them but if you’re lucky, that’s more $$$ in your pocket!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

We invited everyone in our church and some people came who had only visited the church a couple of times. We had no idea who they were but it was important to us to invite everyone. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Yup, there were actually quite a few of my parents friends that neither of us knew… and to be honest, we (accidentally and horribly!!) didn’t talk to them at all the night of the wedding!  As far as I know, no one complained though…

@ChicFoodist:  +1 to this, my parents’ (Chinese) friends whom we’ve never met gave us the most money out of everyone we knew; we were really floored by how generous they were.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Dad’s cousin.  My parents insisted we invite those folks.  Then they replied back for them plus their son.  I ended up contacting them to politely suggest they leave their son at home because we also hadn’t invited kids as a rule.  When I drew up the seating chart it had my sister with them and my parents suggested I move to their table, bc my sister didn’t know them.  Well, THEN WHY DID WE INVITE THEM?

They were very nice though to talk to at the wedding, wife helped decorated our suite (I hadn’t even thought about whether they’d be doing that – and unwittingly gave my sister the key to keep track of for me), gave a more generous present than many, etc. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Not really. Either DH or I knew all our guests – there were a few parents’ friends that we didn’t know well, but at least one of us recognized them.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Yup. My in-laws invited a lot of their friends & my MIL’s step-parents (long story)

 

Neither my husband had ever heard of them or ever talked to them before. Lovely people, we just didn’t know them at all.

ETA: No idea why I put “adoptive parents”… they’re her step-parents. I’m having an off day.

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