Post # 1
I have dreams/nightmares (maybe once a month) where DH is a HUGE jerk. He is NOTHING like the DH in my dreams, and would never ever say or do the stuff I am dreaming. I sometimes wake up crying, and usually I’m mad at him for a few minutes until I’m fully awake and realize it was just a bad dream. Does this happen to anyone else? Why am I doing this?
Example 1: last night I dreamed that we were out to dinner and a table of girls were in some way insulting me. I told DH and then he bought them a round of drinks.
Example 2: I dreamed that I was trying to find DH and he was avoiding me, and having his friends cover for him while he went to a study group with girls. (He wasn’t in school at the time, and it wasn’t an ‘affair’ situation, just studying.)
I know it sounds insecure, but I’m not, I trust him completely. He laughs and says hes flattered that I think about him in my dreams, but it’s seriously disturbing that I imagine my amazing DH as this huge jerk when I sleep. Can’t figure it out.
Post # 3
haha I do. I wake up most of the time wanting to choke him. (: It’s just a dream.
Post # 4
@figgnewton: +1, lol. I wake up mad at him and I say, you just [insert whatever he did in the dream]. And he patiently says, no babe, that was dream me, not real me 😛 I have punched him and yelled at him in my sleep though (apparently).
Post # 5
I had a dream a few days ago that he was very angry and smashing the door in. I was on the other side of the door. It was weird because he’s never been like that with me, but I know he used to have an anger problem when he was younger.
Post # 6
I had one recently! And I still felt mad at him when I woke up!
He was not very understanding of my aloof mood about it though (I’m ususally in a cuddly mood when I wake up but I was definitely not!), even after I explained to him what a jerk he’d been. “But it was YOUR dream!” he said…. LOL!!! 🙂
About 10 mins after waking up I was fully back in reality though 🙂
Post # 7
OMG I just had a weird dream about him where he took me shopping for jewelry and when we picked something out (it was like a $50 pendant) he just yelled out “psych!” and went and bought some speakers at a store next door. Made no sense!!
He was wondering why I was pissed that day 😛
Post # 8
I’ve had them and the most memorable one is the dream I had after a Halloween party where I dreamt that we had indeed gone to the event but I walked in on him cheating on me. I think I may have gone homicidal and broken the girl’s spine
It took me a few seconds after I woke up to realize that the events in the dream didn’t actually happen but it was all so vivid. I like to theorize that because the FI is generally really great and I’ve had some really bad relationships, my subconscious is playing out my fear that the FI is secretly a huge jerk.
Post # 9
I do! I don’t know why, because he’s so good to me in real life lol. But it’s to the point that when I tell him about one, he’s always like, “Man, why is dream DH so mean to you?!” haha
Post # 10
Yes! I wake up upset with him and he has to say “hey! you can’t be mad about what I did in YOUR dream!”
Post # 11
No, it’s usually ME that’s the huge jerk in my dreams!
Post # 12
I’ve had lots of dreams about SO breaking up with me or cheating on me lol.
Post # 13
I’ve had a few – the one I’ll never forget is the one where DH slept with my sister. I was so upset when I woke up… though I’m not sure if that dream was really about DH or my sister.
Post # 14
I’ve been so mad or hurt that I just can’t look at him all day. I tell him and he thinks I’m absurd, but I’ve seen him do hurtful things or hear him say hurtful things and it affects me even if I know it’s not real!
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Just yesterday I dreamed that BF had hidden my toothbrush :3 what a douche
i quite often dream about fights and breakups as well.
Post # 16
My mom had a dream where she and I were sunbathing on the sidewalk in lounge chairs and my father came over and thew the fish from our pond on us (we’ve got koi and large goldfish, so it would have hurt in real life). She was pissed at him for that one for a few days. She also had another one where he lost one of our pets in the woods on purpose, I think it was the rabbit, he got in trouble for that one too. I’ve only had one about FI and that was back when we were dating in highschool. I dreamt we had sex, my parents walked in on us, and he left me alone to deal with the consequences, I was not happy with him in that dream.
Sometimes we think our rabbit has dreams like this. She’ll be sleeping in a corner of a room no one is in when suddenly she wakes up and flips out like she does when my dad is punishing her for being consitently naughty.