Post # 1
We’ve been married a few months and have been living together for a couple of years. It seems like almost all of our friends are couple friends (that we usually get together with all together) or mutual single friends. I still have my girlfriends from college, work, etc., but I find that most of our socializing now is with couples together.
I’m curious–do most of you tend to socialize more with friends together or separately? Why?
Post # 4
Most of our friends are couple friends. It’s evolved and changed as our relationship has. We do go out seperate, but mostly it’s with the other halves of those couples.
Post # 5
Most of our friends are our mutual friends. My two best friends live in other states so most of our friends are his friends that have become mutual.
Post # 6
I like the idea of “couple friends,” but they are hard to find. We have friends, but we both are friends with them-
Post # 7
I would say 70% is with other couples and 30% with my single friends. I’m just at an age where the majority of my friends are no longer single.
Post # 8
I would have to say both. I have friends who were my friends first from college or high school or work…but we usually hang out as couples, and my Darling Husband really likes most of my friends’ DHs. So it makes it easier to hang out as couples. The same goes for his guy friends…I really like all of their wives or girlfriends, so of course that makes it easier to hang out as couples.
That doesn’t mean that we always have to hang out as couples though. He still has guys’ nights and I still have girls’ nights. It’s just always nice when you get along with each others’ friends’ SOs.
Post # 9
It really depends on who is around, plus the time of day.
I think I go out by myself with friends more than Darling Husband goes out with his friends. This is because I have a flexible schedule for work and I can go out during the day and have lunch/go shopping with girlfriends (I can work from home, so I can makeup time at night/weekends/etc).
On the weekends/evenings, if we go out with others, it’s almost always as a couple. The only time I go out without Darling Husband is when my single friends come in from out of town and we do a ‘girls night’.
Darling Husband rarely goes out by himself. I always offer for him to meetup with his friends or help his buddy with his car, but he never wants to go. The few times he has, I usually end up going out with the persons girlfriend and shopping, then we meetup with the spouses for food later.
The majority of our ‘couples friends’ are actually my old friends and their boyfriends/fiances/husbands. Darling Husband wasn’t sure about all of them at first, but he’s really grown to like them thankfully.
Post # 10
Most of our friends are couple friends, or at least single people that we’re both friends with. Darling Husband has a huge friend group, and I’ve gotten sucked into it (and so has my best friend and her husband) :). It works out really well.
Post # 11
I would say that we have both. We definitely have friends we go out with as couples, but we have just as many that we go out with individually. That’s not to say that we don’t get along with the SO’s of our individual friends, we just would never hang out with them separately. I would never go out with one of the girls that is the SO of my FI’s friends and he would never go out with the SO of my friends. It’s about equal time spent with both groups I would say.
Post # 12
Most of our friends are couples that he already knew. My friends are scattered all over the place, so we don’t get to hang out often. I just sort of “share” his friends now, haha.
Post # 13
We have mostly single friends, but we all hang out as a core group. I feel bad sometimes because I still have my girls from college that I go out with separately, but we hang out with his friends from college as a group.. He does go out with the guys of the group occasionally by himself.
There is only two other couples in our “group” but they both live about an hour and a half from us, so we really only see them when we get the big group together.
Post # 14
we both moved far away from our friends and family when we moved in together. he had a few single friends whilst he was at university but most of them have moved back home now that they’ve all finished.
all my own personal friends live 300 miles away – so i mostly have ‘date nights’ with these guys on the phone every week!
i always wanted to have couple friends, because i like dinner and drinks parties, and i like going out where neither one of us is the ‘outsider’. in October last year I was invited to friends birthday party and asked to bring my SO along. she had friends from all different circles and no one knew anyone else but the birthday girl! We all got to bring along a partner so we didn’t feel ‘awkward’ and her boyfriend and my boyfriend got along really well – as well as getting along with another couple!
now the 6 of us do things all the time and it’s lovely. everyone was in a similar situation and we all feel pleased that we can do things in a little group. they even came round for a curry on my SO’s birthday which was really nice as no one else he knew was around!
Post # 15
@2PeasinaPod: Totally agree.
We are at a point in are lives where very few of our friends are single anymore. As our friends have gained SOs/FIs/spouses, they have been integrated into the group and we frequetly all hang out together.
But Darling Husband will still sometimes have poker nights with just the guys or us girls have girls nights without our SOs.
Post # 16
We have both. I have a lot of single girlfriends that I go out with regularly. My friends from college all of SOs that all get along really great.