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No way! It's your day so go ahead and make up your own rules! :)
Ohhhhhh if that were only the case! Of course you can do it! Just be careful not to let it stick to your lipstick or anything. Don't know if that actually happens, or if I just picture that it would happen to me. Also, test it out first; I thought I would want to do that, but it felt way too claustrophobic when I tried on a blusher.
People don't pay attention to those rules anymore. I say do what will make you happy and don't worry about what anyone else says.
Are you wearing white?
These are very old "rules" - do what you want make your dreams come true!
You own your body; it is your choice alone what clothing you wear and whom you sleep with. It's none of her business and that was not very respectful of her to tell you that! Wear whatever makes you happy.
Woah, easy on the caps lock ;o)
Wikipedia says this:
The lifting of the veil was often a part of ancient wedding ritual, symbolising the groom taking possession of the wife, either as lover or as property, or the revelation of the bride by her parents to the groom for his approval.
We're all probably supposed to be virgins to wear white on our wedding day, wear a veil, etc. but these rules no longer really apply. You'll be fine.
I think if you want to wear a veil over your face, you absolutely should. (What's wrong with your sister?! Jeez!) As for the veil in the lips thing... hold the veil out from your face and spray it with hair spray and it will stay stiff enough and far away from your face.
It's tradition (although it's true that most people don't hold to it anymore)
I suppose it depend on whether you care or not. If I wasn't, I don't think i would have worn one!
No way! Those rules are so far out the window--do whatever you want. Also, just FYI, typing in all caps makes it seem like you're YELLING. :)
I have never even heard of this rule before. The white rule yes, the veil rule? No.
A veil has absolutely nothing to do with virginity. It's left over from the Biblical times int he Middle East when women were considered property (and still are in that region) and they didn't meet their husbands at all prior to the wedding since it was arranged between the groom and the father of the bride as a business contract, nothing more, nothing less. The veil did not come off until after the marriage was consummated. The reason for that was that a man had the right to cancel the wedding if he chose if the woman wasn't attractive in his eyes. By waiting to remove the veil after the marriage was consummated, it was too late to back out if he felt there was a reason the marriage should not take place. If it did represent virginity, there wouldn't be a single woman anywhere in the area where it originated wearing a headcovering, and those are predominantly found and are worn by women regardless of whether they have had sex or not and most of them have. Women in the Western world only wear them to get married.
Everything wedding-related has some "meaning" attached to it that is created by someone who is completely ignorant to its true history and they don't care that they are spreading misinformation. The idea that a white dress symbolizes virginity is another example.
Sorry about the caps lock guys, lol, im new to weddingbee, thanks for all the responses, I just didnt want to look funny with the blusher cover especially when my 2 daughters are in the wedding as well
i want to wear a white dress but havent even found one yet, went to davids bridal but none i fell for, was thinking of ordering online at gioavanni's bridal boutique, the gown pics they have are so elegant and cheap!! But after reading comments about their site here, I feel kind of skeptical now, its so tough to find the perfect dress!
Whaatt? Weird rule I've never heard of, and certainly one not to pay attention to.
I did just recently learn that it's not the white dress that but the veil over the face that signifies virginity. But, like everyone else says, if it tickles your pickle... y not?? I think it's mainly some old people that pay attention to rules like that. Let he/she who is without sin cast the first stone.
I've known 2 brides my whole life that were actual virgins before they got married. (BTW - I found it super awkward that people were saying things like "enjoy your wedding night" to them prior to the wedding.)
I for one, don't really care for the whole veil over the face look, but if I did, I wouldn't really care about the rules... to each his own right? :D
Yep I agree with the others. Wear what you want. I'm wearing my veil over my face and I'm also wearing a blush pink veil and dress! So what is the rule with those? LOL
I honestly have never even heard of this. Even if that rule did exist, I'm sure it's outdated, and I'm all for breaking the rules anyway.
Traditionally that's what depicted purity, not the white dress. Or so I had heard. However, no one really pays attention to that anymore so if you want to, you should.
I guess the real question is... do people automatically assume you're NOT a virgin if you don't wear the veil over your face? lol.
I think all of those traditions are just silly - do what you want!
Just restating what others have said, but when it comes to things like expressing yourself on your wedding day... forget what's "right" - as a lot of posters have mentioned, the tradition of veils has a lot to do with some unsavory anti-women's rights practices... so just do what makes you feel beautiful!
LOL, if we paid attention and followed "rules" like this, 90% of the hive would not be able to wear white on their wedding day! 
In Jewish ceremonies, it's tradition to have the bride's face covered even for a second wedding--and we're assuming she's no longer a virgin by then!
OMG okay why was I at the bridal shower on Sunday and one of the older women totally said "why is she wearing a veil, she cannot do that, she has a child" i was like um yeah she can do whatever she wants, she's the bride! and she was like oh okay i didn't know.. it was quite funny!!!
so wait a minute girls! -- I was so worried about wearing a veil because I read a RULE somewhere on line recently that the white part and virginity or second marriages don't matter as much as NOT wearing a veil if it's your second walk down the aisle. I just read what 2dbride had to say about it, and I'm wondering, Jewish or not Jewish, what do you think about wearing a veil if it's your second wedding (and yes, if you have a child)!?
I dont think it really matters.
I am a virgin and I am not going to wear a veil over my face, I dont see the difference.
How silly! Of course anyone can wear a veil -- who really cares?
I went to one wedding wear the bride (and groom, actually) were virgins. I had no idea they were virgins, but the minister announced right before the "first kiss" that it would ACTUALLY be their FIRST KISS! I was sooo shocked, I didn't know that was a thing people did!! hahahah. The whole church erupted into this really loud, aggressive WOOOHOOOO-ing which I found really awkward. :-/
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MY SISTER TOLD ME I SHOULDNT HIDE MY FACE DURIGN THE CEREMONY WITH THE VEIL BECAUSE IM NOT A VIRGIN, BUT I ALWAYS DREAMED OF WALKING DOWN THE AISLE WITH IT COVERING MY FACE THEN MY GROOM WILL LIFT IT UP WHEN HE KISSES ME