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I have never seen one ever in my life. A wedding party dance, that is. I'm not even sure what you're talking about.
like the dance where you and all of your groomsmen and bridesmaids have a dance together
truth be told i've never seen one either, so i'm assuming, no - you don't.
No, you definitely don't have to! Most weddings don't have one, so no one will even miss it if you choose not to do one.
We're not doing it. All my BMs were like, "please don't make us do that" and I didn't care anyway so I just scrapped it.
My sister did one and to be honest, it was kinda awkward. We just kinda swayed in a circle. I don't plan to do one at mine... and the Fi doesn't even want us "dancing" in when were introduced.
I've only been to one wedding where they had it, and I was a bridesmaid...and I did not appreciate it. Your guests don't care to see your BMs/GMs dancing; they are not there for them! If you want it, do it, but absolutely no one will miss it if you don't. ;)
We are. It's was purely his idea. He wants us all to dance to Thriller. Ah, men. Since I'm making him learn to dance for our dance this is what he wants. I figure what the heck. It'll make for some interesting entertainment :)
I've only been in one wedding that had it and frankly, it was ackward. I'm skipping it.
If it doesn't really matter whether you do it or not, I would say don't do it. It will be one less thing to stress about. All the weddings that I've been to have not had this. The only time that I've seen this is when I was researching fun dances as the first dance and the bride and groom had their wedding party do it with them. If you don't have it no one will really notice, I think it's something new.
Our family has tradtionally done it for their weddings, its been part of the wedding party introduction. Then they invite the guests in for the dancing. Its just a way to get the dancing started. I don't think you need it. I would not worry if you don't do it.
i've never seen this at any wedding i've been to, but here on WB i've heard of them. we are not doing it, i don't think its necessary. but if you want to, then do it! :)
Maybe it's a MI thing. Because I've seen it at my friends and family's weddings. And it seems the only people on here who have seen it are MI folks.
Definitely not doing one. Not our thing. Plus it's YOUR wedding, if you dont want it/don't care then don't do it.
Absolutely not. Most people skip that entirely and no one misses it. The rare occasions when a couple does have a wedding party dance, the attendants don't participate. Plus, the guests don't want to wait forever to be allowed on the dance floor.
Most of the weddings I've been to have had them. I had one. So I wouldn't think it was weird or awkward. It's another opportunity to recognize your BP. In my case, after our first song was done, the DJ started on the second song, and started announcing the member of the BP, couple by couple, (if that made sense).
However, I don't think it's a big deal if you don't want to do it.
You definitely do not 'have' to have a wedding party dance. We are not having one because both of our wedding party members are guys (our brothers) and one is a bit sensitive about being single right now.
It's very hit or miss these days. I would say more often than not there is NO wedding party dance. They are so awkward for all involved. The only thing I can think of is that back in the day the wedding party was single friends... but now, most people are married or happily dating... and it's awkward... The other thing is sometimes it's used as a segway from one couple dancing, to the wedding party... to everyone.
We're not planning on one.
I've never seen it done, and we aren't planning to do it. If you and your BMs aren't into it, then I seriously don't think anybody is going to miss it.
I've been in 3 weddings and only one had a wedding party dance. We're not doing one either. I think it is totally up to you!
my FI was just in a wedding on May 29th, and they had one, but to be honest with you it wasn't anything fabolous or special. It's actually the only wedding that I've been to where they did this, and well FI didn't like it, because the BM he was dancing with was way akward. So no you don't have to have one. It's fine to just have your first dance and then the parents dancing. I actually like that more. =]
@coffeekitty, yeah I have been to some weddings where they did it. We ended up not doing it and I'm pretty sure that everyone was glad :)
Ugh I was in one for my friend's wedding and it was AW-FUL. We danced to the "Somewhere Over the Rainbow" by that Hawaiian guy with the crazy last name that starts with K.. every member of the bridal party begged them not to. I hardly knew my partner- met him the night before- and it was so awkward. Longest 4 minutes ever.
No way am I subjecting my bridal party to one!
lolol so funny reading these comments. I'm thinking about having everyone do a quick dance just as a finale to our dance, but now I'm having 2nd thoughts.
don't do one. It's generally awkward for all involved. I have seen it done twice, once in Kansas and once in St Louis. My husband & I had been dating for a couple years when he was the groomsman for the Kansas wedding. The BM he was paired up with was actually getting ready to sing a song for the B&G, so she told him just to have me dance with him. It was awkward for me, not being part of the wedding party & not knowing a soul there (and there was only 1 other person there my age besides the wedding party; the rest were much older family members) to be dancing during the wedding party song, but it would have looked awkward for him to be the only groomsman NOT participating in the wedding party dance. I also would have felt awkward watching my SO dance with some girl I don't know. Not that it would have been a big deal, it just would have been awkward for both of us, I think.. for him to dance with a girl he doesn't know & for me to watch them awkwardly sway together.
We didn't do one at ours, our DJ didn't even ask us about it, actually, but we weren't planning to do one. Everyone in our wedding party (well all but 3 of the 14) was either engaged or in a relationship, so we felt we'd spare everyone the awkwardness of slow dancing with a stranger with your significant other/fiance looking on in the background.. haha. Everyone wants to get the festivities going; they don't want to watch 1 more slow dance!
I think they are a nice way to fill up the dance floor and get people to start to dance.
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Okay so I just kind of assumed that we would do one, but recently a few of the bridesmaids have asked "do we have to do the wedding party dance?". I really don't care if we do one or not, but will it be weird not to? We'll still have our first dance and the parent dances..