Post # 1
Saw a mention of this in our wedding pamphet from the church, how the fee for the ceremony goes to the church, not the priest but we can gift the priest something seperately.
Are we supposed to? Whats appropriate?
Post # 3
Our deacon made it clear in our preparation meeting that he was expecting a tip. He didn’t specify the amount though. I don’t remember what we gave him because Darling Husband took care of that. My guess would be $50.
We also tipped the altar girl $20, which is also expected in our parish.
Post # 4
We tipped our priest $100, it is generally expected that you tip whoever is performing your marriage ceremony. We had to pay a fee of $525 to get married in my church but that cost goes to cover the ceremony musician, cantor, coordinators and flowers for the altar. We also invited the priest to our rehearsal dinner and reception.
Post # 5
We gave our priest $150. The church fee was $1000. The church actually told us a “recommended” gift amount in all of the paperwork they gave us with the rules and stuff. If you’re not sure how much to give, I would just ask the parish secretary.
Post # 6
Our priest told us specially he does not charge for the ceremony and our church fee is only $200 (pianist is $50/hr in addition) so we are planning on giving the church a $400 donation and $150 tip to the priest. We over estimated in a few areas of our budget so we are already under budget and this is not a place we want to scrimp to save money.
Post # 7
A tip is highly recommended/expected. You could also include a physical token of your thanks, like a saint medal of the feast day you’re getting married on.
Post # 8
Our ceremony fee is $300 and the fee for the organist was $200. What would be appropriate for the priest? We are not having a full mass, so no altar servers.
And would we just put it in an envelope seperatly for him and give it to him during the rehearsal, at the same time we hand in the fee for the church?
Post # 9
We’ll be doing 100-200, and inviting him to reception.
Our ceremony fee is 200. Not sure on music yet.
Post # 10
We offered $200 to ours. He came in from out of town so we also paid for his hotel room. I offered to buy his ticket, but he would not accept.