Post # 1
I don’t have anyone in my life I’d really want as my MOH except my mom, but she’ll be walking me down the aisle and I already have all my bridesmaids….
Do I just pick one of my bridesmaids to be MOH or just not have one?
Post # 3
It’s your wedding, do it how you want. Typically, a MOH is the closest female [friend, relative or otherwise], to you – and i understand that mother’s don’t quite fit the bill. I would say in your situation it would be perfectly fine.
For my wedding, we are going to have a small bridal party, 1 MOH, 1 BM, 1 BM and 1 GM. And i’m perfectly okay with it!
Post # 4
I don’t think you have to have one if you’re not particularly close to one BM. I have a MOH, but the only thing she’s doing differently from my BM is just holding my bouquet during the ceremony. We aren’t doing a traditional bachelor/bachelorette thing or formal toasts (doing an open mic kind of thing), so designating a MOH wasn’t essential for me, but I am way closer to one of my girls so she’s my MOH.
Post # 5
he’s having 8 groomsmen (2 “best men”) & 2 ushers and I’ll have 8 bridesmaids. I felt like I’d have to have a MOH & matron of honor to “match” his side….I have 3 of my cousins, 2 of his cousins & a cousin-in-law as bridesmaids and I feel like there would be hurt feelings involved with whoever I pick.
Post # 6
I’m not having a MOH at all. I have 3 bridesmaids but they are all really important to me for various reasons. There would be no way I could pick one to be MOH and not the others. So they are all bridesmaids and equal “status”. The more calm traditional one is planning the shower; the crazier, fun one is doing the bachelorette. The only thing that will separate one from the others is which stands next to me during the ceremony and holds my bouquet – and that will likely be determined by height and which girl looks best with which guy 🙂
Post # 7
You don’t “have” to do anything. Your wedding, therefore you have what you want!
DH had his sister as yhe one and only person standing up with him, definitely not the norm!
Post # 8
You don’t have to if you don’t want to. Don’t do it if you think it will cause hurt feelings!
Post # 9
Nope, you don’t need to have a MOH! Like people are saying, it’s your wedding and you should go with your gut! 😀
Post # 10
It’s your wedding…do whatever you want!
Post # 11
@cerulean_dreams: i had my adult son stand up with me. he walked me down the aisle, presented me to my dh and then took his spot as my ‘man of honour’. we are very close so i couldn’t imagine having anyone else beside me.
if you are so close to your mother, there is no rule that says she can’t be your moh.
Post # 12
It always seemed like a popularity contest to me where someone is bound to get hurt. I’m not having bridesmaids because I hated the idea of making some of my friends feel more special than other friends. I am equally happy that everyone I know and love will be at my wedding. My bridal party consists of my FSD and FSS, and that’s it.
Post # 13
Nope, you don’t have to have a MOH. If one person was clearly a standout over the others as far as helping or a close relative (like only one is a sister or family member) you might consider it. Otherwise it will just lead to hard feelings.
Post # 14
You don’t have to have a MOH, but you do need to choose one person to hold your flowers during the ceremony, fix your train, and sign the marraige licence, which are all duties of the MOH.
Post # 15
I’m going to disagree slightly with people here. You don’t have to have a MOH per se, but I think you do have to have a witness. In the church where I’m getting married, a “MOH” is required, but that’s just to be a witness. I’d look into seeing if a witness is required for marriage in your state, and pick a person (it could be your mom!) to sign.
Post # 16
You also might think about who’s going to plan your bridal shower and bachelorette parties. If you think they’re close enough to plan them together, you’re good. But, if you think the bulk of it will be put on one girl, you might want to make her MOH to give her some recognition. Just something to think about!