(Closed) Do you have to have a wedding band?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
4663 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think you should have a band. because it is symbolic. Even a simple, plain no diamond band…. each ring signifies something… so the wedding band shows you are married and not just engaged.

can you post pix of your ring? i wanna see this beauty!

Post # 4
1866 posts
Buzzing bee

@Crazyhair:  You don’t “have” to do anything.  It’s your wedding, your life, your relationship!  Do what works for you and your man. 🙂  One of my sorority sisters got married last year and she didn’t get a wedding band b/c her e-ring was so thick and blingy on its own.

Post # 5
11172 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

If you don’t want one, don’t get one. No one can tell you that you must have one. However, be prepared to answer questions of “when is your wedding” or “are you married yet” as people look to the finger and wedding band as a sign that you are already married.

My cousin opted for no wedding band due to costs and she is itching to get one. She said last week that she didn’t feel married just looking at the e-ring and is saving up for a simple band.

To each their own.

Post # 6
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@AshleyR83:  This!

I’m of an extreemly strong opinion that you should do whatever you feel comfortable with. I am not planning to have a band because I have rather chubby fingers and didn’t like the look of two bands on my fingers (yes, I tried about 100 on, no joke). I eventually had my center stone reset into a split shank halo which sort of looks like two bands but is only one ring. Now, not everyone agrees with my decision, but it’s a personal choice and since my Fiance and I are comfortable with it, it doesn’t really matter in my opinion who doesn’t like it (besides, they should have better things to worry about than what number of rings I have on my hand).

Post # 7
280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You don’t have to wear any sort of anything.  Yes, it is symbolic, but does not wearing a ring mean your relationship is doomed?  Absolutely not.  Is doing what makes you happy (both you and FI) and not simply following all the rules going to make your relationship stronger?  Probably (at least a little, though maybe not as much in this case).  

Post # 8
5668 posts
Bee Keeper

Nope, you definitely don’t need one.

Post # 9
1210 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Crazyhair:  I worked in a jewelry store when I first started college and I saw firsthand that a lot of women choose not to wear bands now. It isn’t necessary if you’re not attached to the traditional symbolism. I’m sure it’d look nice though 🙂

Post # 10
4714 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

girl i have to see this 4.5 ct ring where is the ring porn?????

Post # 12
732 posts
Busy bee

If you don’t want one, don’t get one. BUT if I were you before making any decisions, I would look at some dainty/thin wedding bands and see if you like the way they look with your ring because I just love the symbolism of the wedding band 🙂

Post # 13
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I won’t have one. Here is the inspiration for the ring I’m having made:

It would look completely silly to have a separate ring with this one. The symbolism is there – why have two? Also, the “symbolism” idea didn’t evolve until the last 80 or so years, and even then only really in American cultures, so it’s definitely not necessary.

Post # 14
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Also – when girls have HUGE rings and then tack on a wedding ring, I think, why even bother? It just looks like their finger is covered in ring, which looks like overkill. Stick to just your beautiful ring!

Post # 15
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I am in the same boat (minus the 4.3 carat rock – mine is 1 carat). My band on my e-ring is THIN. I like the way it looks much better without the band so I have been asking people’s opinions.

When I asked my mom, she said she would go for a wedding band because of the symbolism.

When I asked the jeweler who resized my band, she said normally people get a wedding band when they have a thin band e-ring. It is more common for people to go without a wedding band if the band on the e-ring is thick. Then she told me she thinks I should do whatever I think looks best.. it’s my ring.

My ring was passed down to me so I already have the matching wedding band. I don’t think I’ll use it for anything but the ceremony though. Maybe one day I’ll put it on and feel like wearing it.

It really can be simple – if you don’t want it, don’t get it!

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