Post # 1
So we had to postpone our wedding back in August and now we’re planning again, we want to go much smaller and intimate. Do we have to invite the same people again?
We never got round to sending invites the first time round, just save the dates, but there are some people who haven’t been really supportive throughout all of the postponement and we really don’t want their negativity at the wedding.
Post # 3
Ooo, that’s a tough one. I think if I sent a save the date to someone, then yes I would feel obligated to invite them. You are just going to create MORE negativity if you kind of “take back” and invite, which STD’s are viewed as. Hopefully the negative ones will decide they can’t make it!
Post # 4
When will the changed wedding be held?
I think it’s fine if you choose not to invite people to the wedding that were on the original guest list. If they inquire, you can say you decided to do something on a smaller scale, etc.
Post # 5
New wedding date we haven’t decided completely yet, but we’re looking at November, 2 months after previous date.
Post # 6
Did you send out announcements of the postponement to everyone you sent the save the date to?
This is a tough one. I’m not sure this is proper etiquette (it probably isn’t), but if you hadn’t sent out a postponemet announcement, I might send one now saying that due to personal reaons (or another reason) you have decided to postpone the wedding and have a smaller itimate ceremony. Apologize and thank them for their support etc.
Post # 7
We sent announcements to everyone who was on the original guest list, a lot of them being friends of our parents. There are just some people we really don’t want to invite any more and I know it’s probably not proper etiquette but I don’t want to notify them of the new date. Is that bad?
Post # 8
I’d say yes. It’s only a 2 month postponement. It’s the same wedding, really.
Post # 9
Honestly, I’d say that if the wedding itself has changed then don’t invite those you wouldnt feel comfortable having there. This is a tough one though.. I’m sure the responses here are going to be pretty split
Post # 10
How much different/smaller is the wedding going to be? I think if there is a substantial difference, then you don’t need to re-invite the same people. Esp since you sent out postponement announcements. If the wedding you’re now planning is going to be at the same place with a similar sized guest list (more than 20-25% fewer guests) I’d say you should invite everyone who got a STD.