do you have toys?

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: do you use toys?
    no - i dont like them or want them : (13 votes)
    12 %
    no - my SO doesnt like it : (5 votes)
    5 %
    yes - regularly : (58 votes)
    55 %
    yes - but it took some convincing : (2 votes)
    2 %
    sometimes : (25 votes)
    24 %
    other : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I have a vibrator and damn it no man is going to come between us! Haha! My partner works alot and is fine with me having it (he actually bought it for me) and i love it. Perhaps you can talk to your man about bringing something smaller and non-threatening for you to use together? There is something called a we-vibe which is GREAT and is for couples to use together while making love. It’s the number 1 selling sex toy in the world and I can say it’s awesome!

    Post # 4
    1016 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Bunch of bull. He’s clearly insecure about his performance in the bedroom. 

    Does he masturbate? 

    Post # 5
    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I have a “silver bullet” for alone time but we don’t use any toys together.

    Post # 6
    8518 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Thats pretty selfish of him, imo.

    Post # 7
    229 posts
    Helper bee

    I do have a vibrator, which my boyfriend got me. We rarely use it when we’re together, but he’s fine with me using it on my own. I know that he was originally worried that I might like the vibrator more than him, but that’s not the case, so he no longer has any insecurity about it.

    Post # 8
    24457 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    It is pretty hard for a woman to orgasm from penetration alone so a lot of girls need something more to fully enjoy themselves.

    Since I have been having problems with my hands, yes I need a littl help in the toy department.

    Post # 9
    2132 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I have one, but mostly use it by myself (I just find it gets in the way otherwise). FI doesn’t care.

    Post # 10
    1134 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I have a small collection of toys that get used pretty regularly either by myself or with FH. He’s not threatened by them at all – he actually suggested using them first, before I even thought about it. They could never replace him though!

    Post # 11
    107 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Historic Rosemont Manor

    I have one & use it both alone & with him. I think in the beginning, he was really insecure, but he slowly noticed and learned that sex just isn’t pleasurable for me at all without it. 

    Post # 12
    721 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    yes i use toys all the time. but i had an ex who felt insecure and i couldn’t use it with him either 🙁 

    Post # 13
    1167 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @katydaisy:  We have a bullet and that’s it. He actually bought it for me at the same time we bought some other goodies haha. He’s not insecure, he really wants to watch me but Im a little uncomfortable with that right now. He’s also the only one who has ever brought it into sex!

    Post # 14
    1157 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @katydaisy:  My SO is the same and I get where he is coming from. He doesn’t want it to be a situation where he can no longer please me. I know that there are a lot of ladies out there who can’t wait for their SO’s to be done so that they can pull out their vibrators.

    I have no problem with that. It’s a simple request I can do.

    I masturbate without toys though.

    Post # 15
    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Me and my SO wouldn’t be together now, if he thought that he could tell me not to use my toys! I used vibrators before we ever got together, and I’m sure I will using them into my 80’s.  Sometimes I use toys for a little personal time.  Other times, we enjoy them together.  He really likes to. . . umm watch me use them.  It drives him crazy.  In fact last year he put 3 new toys in my Christmas stocking, and we tried them all out under the tree.  It was amazing! But as much as I enjoy my toys, nothing can ever compare to the pleasure that my man gives me on his own, and he knows that, so he’s not in anyway intimidated by a few battery operated playthings.

    Post # 16
    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My DH bought me my first vibrator when I was 20. It dawned on me then that he was a keeper. 

    The fact is that intercourse alone doesn’t do the job for many (most?) women. It’s a total myth that this is due to a deficiency in the man’s ability. It’s just physiology!

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