Post # 1
hey ladies… long story ago… his sister is pregnant. it comes out last year in december. The father of the child was not her boyfriend anymore. He cheated and lied on her all the time she was together with him. The whole family told her to leave him but she dont listen to us and now she`s pregnant. It was a shock for all of us and for me especially. Her exboyfriend is now her boyfriend again because of the child. i dont know exactly that relationsship. But i am a bit jealous, because she makes our wedding mad like she said “i dont have to marry him, i dont need all that stuff”. And her behaviour to me is really bad, she ignores me and i think she does it because of the fact i dont like her boyfriend and i dont like the pregnancy. I cannot be pleased for it, because I have the feeling it turn now everything around her pregnancy. his family does not ask one time like how the wedding arrangement goes on or that they look forward to it. its all about the baby!!
and now, my h2b told me that his father asked him wheter we can invite the boyfriend from his sister, because she has fear that guests may ask her where the father of the child is. But it makes me angry that she dont come to us and ask us for the invitation!
And of all that do i have to invite him???
i really could cry by now, i have trouble with my h2b because of that and it spoiled my anticipation for the wedding! I got the feeling his family dont like me anymore…
Post # 3
Since they’re dating, I’d invite him. Not because he’s the father of her unborn child. If they weren’t dating, I’d say to give your sister a plus one and she can decide if she wanted to bring him. Just tell her that you want her to be happy for you getting married, and you’ll agree to give her a break about her baby things and quit fighting. You’ll feel better, i think.
Post # 4
I think sometimes you just have to suck it up and be diplomatic about situations like these. I totally know how you feel bc my Father-In-Law have a nephew (so FI’s cousin) in Hawaii who “should be” invited. The thing is, he’s kind of a jackass and has done some things to raise some eyebrows in the family. Still, he is family and we are inviting all of his siblings (who are cool and we love them)… so yeah, booooo to lame family members!
Post # 5
I think that a lot of your post is about their relationship and whether you approve of it. However, your wedding is about YOUR relationship, and the people who attend are saying that they support YOU and your FH. I think that you should invite him. It’s not yours to say that they should marry or should break up. But if they are together (and obviously serious, now with the baby) then it’s best to invite them. Id’ also just drop the whole subject. Clearly you are on a different page than your inlaws, and expressing your point of view at this point isn’t a good idea. Let your Future Sister-In-Law live her own life, and focus instead on your wedding! Once you forget about it, you can start looking forward to your big day again.