Do you judge people with small e-rings?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you ladies with large e-rings pre-judge women with smaller e-rings?
    All the time! : (87 votes)
    7 %
    Never! : (590 votes)
    50 %
    Only if it's a gemstone! : (24 votes)
    2 %
    If it looks fake, I'm all over it! : (63 votes)
    5 %
    On occasion... sad but true. : (410 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2400 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    No I don’t. It’s not the size of the ring that counts. It’s just a stone.

    Post # 4
    Member
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @LilRhodyGem:  I don’t judge anyone for their ring. I know for a fact I have a higher net worth than my friend with a larger diamond. They got a line of credit and went into debt because it was so important to her. Me, I have better things to spend money on. You don’t know someone’s circumstances based solely on a ring.

    Post # 6
    Member
    5222 posts
    Bee Keeper

    TBH, I LOVE the simplicity of just a plain gold wedding band. 

    Ring/Rock size tells me absolutely nothing about a person,  because it’s such a small portion of what makes up life in the long run. I think it would be very, very silly to judge someone based on the size of a stone.

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    820 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @LilRhodyGem:  I don’t judge any size ring. Mine was small, until I inherited an heirloom diamond, but I feel the same about it. A ring is just a ring. It’s seriously so foreign to me that girls (people?) get so worked up about a little thing on your finger!

    Post # 8
    Member
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @LilRhodyGem:  I’m not sure that’s a fair statement. Upgrades get bashed, but I have never heard anyone say, a carat diamond? How horrible! I see it as a fruitless waste of money, especially for people who are still renting with no savings, but to each their own. Life is all about priorities. It doesn’t impact me, so I don’t really care what anyone puts on their finger.  

    Post # 9
    Member
    2912 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @MrsPanda99:  Same. I have friends with much bigger rings, much bigger debt & much less money. I don’t give a crap, that is their decision and the way they want to live their life. 

    My sister got married when she was 20 and was not established. She has a small ring which she loves and I have never ever thought about judging her or looking down on her so I don’t look down on others. You never know the circumstances. 

    I will say this. I have a friend who has a 3 carat moissy and she pretends it’s a diamond. I know it’s not (because she told me) and find is so so uncomfortable when she brags about her diamond and how much her FI loves her because of it. Why does she feel the need to brag & lie in the process? Honesty I wound’t care but she acts all high and mighty for having such a big ring. Im afraid to say yes, I do judge her for that. It’s hard not to. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    678 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I don’t but I’m sorry to say I have seen a lot of higher carat worth women be smug about their larger stones (you can see the look in the face and “oh what a pretty stone” but knowing full out there is not one ounce of meaning it, especially when in another situation they go on (about the larger stone) how gorgeous it is).  I’ve also heard the comment he didn’t love her enough (behind the woman’s back).  

    Post # 11
    Member
    2454 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Nope. 

    But I will admit to judging people by style, color, shape, etc. of a ring. Just like people judge you by your clothing, I will judge you by a ring that is really out of the ordinary. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @FauxBoho:  That’s exactly it. It’s just not important to some women. FI wants to upgrade my ring, but I love wearing the diamond that he could afford at the time he proposed. He worked so hard to get it, and it means a lot to me for that reason. Sure, he makes more money now but that doesn’t mean my ring needs to change. I will never change it. I’d rather go away on a vacation or do something else with my money. But some people want that rock at all costs. To each their own.

    Post # 13
    Member
    9652 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Nope never….I appreciate all types/styles of jewelry and would never judge a person on the size of their ring. If we all had rings just alike it would be kinda boring!

     

    Post # 15
    Member
    1823 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I prefer a larger stone, but I definitely don’t judge those with small rings. there are so many different reasons behind someone’s center stone size that it’s really silly to draw any conclusion based on that. IMO it comes down to a matter of personal taste and preferences so ering choice doesn’t reflect negatively on anything else.

    Post # 16
    Member
    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @LilRhodyGem:  No, I never even notice other peoples’ rings honestly, unless it’s just something super unique.

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