Post # 1
The one big fight that FI and I have had is when I moved in with him. I had haphazardly thrown some things into a box that had not been unpacked since my move the year prior after grad school. In that box was a picture of my ex and I. My FI was trying to be helpful and unpack, and saw the picture. I didn’t realize it was there, but we had a pretty big fight about it. I got a little defensive when I should have been empathetic, but either way it happened. I’ve been going through my things and have mostly deleted all of the pics of my ex from my photos on flickr and don’t have any photo albums of us or anything. That one picture was pretty much the only one I had a physical copy of.
Did you throw it all out, or do you keep some reminders of your past relationships? I don’t have a desire to have reminders of my ex, but I haven’t consciously gone through everything that was a gift or reminder of him to throw it all away.
Post # 3
I have it in a shoebox somewhere. He has pictures of his ex too in a shoebox somewhere and we both know, it’s is not a matter of disrespect. We aren’t pining over our exs. It’s just a past. I think sometimes it would be funny to pull it out and show my kids (in the distant future), “yeah, I had other boys beside your dad. I was hot stuff!” lol.
Post # 4
I have one picture of an ex somewhere in a memory box of random things from college. All my other ex pictures have been thrown away.
Post # 5
Well I’m friends with all of my ex’s, and FI is on bad terms with all of his, so sure I have relics lying around (and FI knows of course), but I see these people somewhat regularly so I’m not really into the whole dumping/burning things that remind me of them 😛
Post # 6
In high school and college, I used to take pictures like there was no tomorrow. I still have pics of exes in photo albums, but they’re not easily accessible, and I don’t go through them often. In fact, they’re in a storage box somewhere in my closet, haha.
Post # 7
I kept a few things. I haven’t been in that box in years though. There are lots of mementos in there, not just relationship ones. I know he has the same stuff though too, so I don’t feel bad about it.
Post # 8
I threw out all of my photos after I watched him shred all the photos of his exes. 🙂
I still have some gifts that were from my ex bfs, but it’s not for sentimental reasons, its because I actually still use the stuff!
Post # 9
i think i have some pics but i would have to look really really hard to find them – im terrible with pics, i dont even have pics of hubby and i in frames/printed
Post # 10
I still have all my pics. I love to pull out a box of photos and reminisce about different times of my life (be it with friends, ex boyfriends, family, whatever). I don’t think it’s disrespectful; he also has pics of his exes. It’s part of our history and we have no intention of getting rid of them.
Post # 11
I am a pack rat… I still have notes that I was written in gradeschool from friends… it is slightly rediculous. But really. I like having all the pics and such, my past made me who I am today. I still go back and read some of the letters I have that were written to my by my bestest friend ever(besides my man), and he still has my replies. I really dont think it is disrespectful unless you are running around behind his back cheating with someone.
There are a couple of guys that I have pics of, and dont really care to have them, but oh well… And then there are others that are still friends with me and I keep them as a reminder of the freindship, not the petty highschool relationship.
Post # 12
BF and I were just talking about this last night a little. I’ve had 2 serious bfs before my current one. The first one I have nothing from because I burned it all in a bonfire after we broke up (first heart break… you know lol). With the second guy, I gathered up almost all the gifts he gave me and all the stuff that was “ours” like dvds and such and gave them all to him the night we broke up. I did keep one shoe box of stuff, some pictures, letters, etc etc. My bf doesn’t understand why I didn’t throw everything out… but it feels like throwing out a part of my history too. I don’t want my ex back, but I wouldn’t change anything about my past and I was with him for 5 years. I don’t want to erase those 5 years just because it didn’t work out. He is a good person and our relationship got me to where I am now… happy with my bf! That being said, it isn’t like I ever go through the box. I am not even 100% sure where it is. I just know I did not throw it out and I’d rather not.
Post # 13
The only ex pictures I have are of my ex husband. They’re in my daughter’s baby books and I’m not going to throw their memories away. I also have a box of pictures and other stuff -my first wedding dress (poor dress is SHOVED in there), rings, pictures, etc that I have on the top shelf of my daughters’s closet so that if they want them in the future, they’re there. If they want to throw it all out later (minus the rings that could be turned into other jewelery later – like for a Sweet 16), that’s their decision.
My husband would have a serious problem if I kept others around.
Post # 14
I have lots of pictures of my ex. They are still in old photo books. My FI knows about them and I may eventually get rid of them. It’s not like the photo books are things that I look at often. I haven’t looked at the pictures in a very long time and I’m still somewhat friends with my most recent ex. I still have jewelry from him that I wear occasionally, as well.
Post # 15
I don’t have any…except I saved some from us at the prom. They’re in a box at my parents’ house. C’mon, i’m not going to throw away my prom pictures! But otherwise, nah, i tossed them when I got over him. Who needs that sitting around? My husband would be weirded out if I kept that….he’d probably go, “WHY?!” and realistically, I think i’d be a little miffed if he kept a box of old girlfriends’ stuff! Granted, I didn’t really date much in high school so it’s not like I’m missing out on big chunks of my life, either. I’d feel differently if it was like, a 4 year time span or something. We’re talking like, 8 months max here =]
Post # 16
i went out with my ex for 7 years. we did a lot of stuff, there’s a lot of pictures. i’m not throwing away pictures from 7 years of my life just because he’s in them. my fi isn’t the jealous type so he doens’t care, it’s not like i’m always looking at them.