Post # 1
I was at small get together with a few of friends last weekend and we got into little debate about keeping letters, gifts or anything sentimental from past relationships. Personally, I don’t want old love letters hanging around from past relationships…what I am going to do with them? Read them and think about how wonderful my past relationships were? I would rather focus on my current relationship. But one woman said that she would always want to rememeber those chapters of her life, so she still has everything she has recieved for past relationships that have sentimental value to her.
For the record, if you aren’t in a serious relationship, then I totally understand keeping things.
What about you ladies? Do you still have old love letters or sentimental things like that from the past??
Post # 3
@FutureMrsJefferson: Nope I don’t.
I might have something around that I haven’t gotten rid of just because I didn’t find it, but love letters are things I definitely would not keep.
Post # 4
@FutureMrsJefferson: once we started living together I got rid of everything..
Post # 5
@FutureMrsJefferson: This is a definite no for me. I have nothing from previous relationships. I’m an artist and I have even tossed drawings and paintings of previous boyfriends. It doesn’t seem right for me to keep that kind of thing after the relationship has ended. Granted, my current SO is also the man I plan on marrying, so I don’t see the need to keep anything from another man.
Post # 6
It is possible I may have a picture or two of him and his kid laying aorund somewhere, but it would require a lot of searching for it. When I left my ex bf (who I lived with) I didn’t want anything that reminded me of him. I did however take my fancy coffee table. Which I still use everyday (years and years later). I almost never relate any connection to him and the coffee table. <Shudder>
Post # 7
Nah, an ex is an ex for a reason. I am over the moon in love with my hubby. I think it’s disrespectful of your current love to keep something like that.
Post # 8
@FutureMrsJefferson: I might have a couple of photos of serious exBFs from HS during prom or something….but I’m the type to get rid of that negative energy.
Keeping stuff from exes has always been a sore spot of mine. DH had (still has some) stuff from exes. I don’t see the point of keeping this crap around given the way the relationships went down.
Not trying to threadjack, but I’m wondering if guys are more likely to keep this stuff? My exH was the SAME way. Had pics/letters from his only GF before me…and kept it for over 20 years.
Funny that he had NO contact with her during our 15 year relationship but once we were divorced, he flew 6k miles to see her and try to “rekindle” a relationship with her.
Post # 9
@FutureMrsJefferson: “…what I am going to do with them? Read them and think about how wonderful my past relationships were?”
Yes (personally speaking), because past relationships were good, even if they failed in spectular fashion, there obviously were good times or I wouldn’t have been there. Plus I learned from them all. I still have a little plastic view thing from the local theme park I went to with my first boyfriend (over 20 years ago) with our pic in it. DH still has a pic of a girl he dated long ago who he probably would have married if he’d been more mature and such. I don’t mind, he doesn’t mind. He actually had the pic of the girl displayed when I met him. Even though their relationship was long ago when I met him. I asked about it, he told me. I didn’t think twice about it, but at some point the pic got stored away (I honestly don’t even know when exactly, one day I realized it wasn’t there). For him it was “here’s someone who loved me when I wasn’t ready, and things can be better in the future and someone will love me like that again and I’ll be ready”. When I realized it wasn’t visible anymore I was kind of surprised but didn’t mention it.
I have pics and mementos from my ex husband and people I’ve dated. All they mean is “this person mattered, we had fun and I learned from them.”. I don’t see the point of banishing all that from my sight… they were a part of my life and helped me become who I am. That’s just my personal opinion for myself though.
Post # 10
I have a few pieces of jewelry from men in my past.
I keep them because it’s special to me that someone saw something beautiful and thought of me. Not because the person who gave it to me is still special to me.
I’m sure, eventually, they will be replaced by new beautiful things. Until then, I see no harm in enjoying them.
Post # 11
Well, my cat was a gift from my ex…so obviously I kept her around, lol.
In terms of cards, photos, knick-knacks and stuff like that, I have a whole box of relationship-related paraphernalia at my parents’ house. I wouldn’t keep that kind of stuff in the house I share with my FI though.
Post # 12
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I agree with you, I see no reason for them. Though Dh wouldn’t approve, I got rid of all sentimantal things long before him, usually in a fit of rage lol (most didn’t end well). Though I do have an.exs sweater. Not for sentimental reasons- it is just cute!
Post # 13
I wouldn’t ever do that. I haven’t been in a relationship like that, but I never would if I was in that situation.
Post # 14
I don’t keep anything from previous relationships.
Post # 15
@FutureMrsJefferson: I still have a poem a boy wrote me in highschool to ask me to the homecoming dance. That’s it.
I don’t really need to look back on any relationship and be nostalgic over it.
Post # 16
nope, i actually went on ebay and made tons of money off selling stuff he bought me…anything handmade or written i threw out