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Miy little sister is planning for a wedding in December. I offered to help any way I can and sent her my whole planning Excel book (budget maker, guest list tracker, checklists, etc...). She said thanks anyway, but her Fi is doing almost all the planning and doesn't want any help. I was a little disappointed because none of my other sisters have gotten married yet and I thought it would be fun to share my experiences with her. :( I guess I'll just suck it up and continue to be available if she ever asks for my help in the future.
I know what you mean, I'm like you and I've offered to help if they need anything, but no one has asked.
I know when I was engaged, I hesitated to ask my married friends for help because I didn't want my wedding to end up exactly like theirs and have everyone say "wow it's so obvious you copied their wedding". Also, everyone has different tastes and budgets. It gets touchy! Even with engagement rings, I had well-intentioned friends who lectured me constantly about why I shouldn't buy from one jeweler and why I HAD to buy from their much better, cheaper, and superior jeweler. After that, I realized that everyone has such different opinions, you have to be careful of who you ask.
So definitely don't take it personally! Also, sometimes brides just want to leave some element of surprise and mystery with the wedding. SO many people saw pics of my dress before the wedding that by the time it rolled around. I know that no one cares except me but I didn't want everyone to know exactly what I was wearing!
Yeah! We are getting married in May and my little brother is getting married at the end of Aug.
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My college roommate is getting married in October and I am always giving her advice (solicited or not!). I DIYed my flowers and she liked them so much at my wedding that she asked me to do hers! I'm so excited to it (but also a little nervous at the responsibility).
im on the other side of things - im getting married and have no siblings or close friends who have been through this. everyone around me either: (1) has only dreamt of getting married (i was never that kind of girl) and has a very fantasy-type vision for how planning should be; (2) avoided it at all costs cause they couldnt be bothered with it (even my parents eloped!), or (3) are nowhere near even thinking about marriage as a real thing.
at times i wish i had at least one close friend or family member who'd been through this and could relate. but alas...
2 friends and one couple getting married!
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One of my closest friends is getting married in September, and she hasn't asked for any advice. She also hates wedding planning, so I have a feeling she will wait to the last minute and will need help.
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I'm a bride to be and I love taking the time to discover new things on my own. I do like having brides there to answer the tricky questions, but I want my day to be personal to me and FI.
You always have great advice on here, so I'm sure when the girls you know have questions, they won't hesitate to ask.
@harmonyeee: That was the same situation I was in when I was planning my wedding, so it would have been nice to ask someone. Thank goodness I found Weddingbee!
@GaBGal:Thanks!
I know several people from college getting married this summer. Someone getting married exactly 1 week before me, and another friend getting married 1 month after me. I love being able to wedding-talk with them and they seem to appreciate the advice. I also love to bounce ideas off of them and double check my planning timeline to make sure there isn't anything I overlooked that should be done!
My brother got married a little over a year ago and I've been asking my SIL tons of questions! And she is even letting me borrow her viel and crinoline (sp?)! She always offers to help with whatever she can, but somtimes I feel bad asking b/c I don't want to be annoying to anyone or make them feel like they have to do it even though they don't want to.
My cousin got married at Sept and since everyone loved her cake so much I didn't even look at other places. She told me how she went to places around town and that the flavors weren't as good and prices. I figured she already did the research. She just told me yesterday that she is looking forward to our cake. I have asked her help for ceremony music.
I figure why not ask someone who just went through it. It isn't copying because we are having very different weddings. I am sorry some of you marrieds are being solicited for advice but I know sometimes it is hard to ask for help and sometimes there are so many people giving advice unsolicited that it can be crazy
One of my BMs got married last July and she's been the most amazing resource ever, she's like a wedding planner, BM, and sister all in one. There's no way I would be able to get through this without her. She's the first one I go to with questions or for help and I'm using a couple of her vendors as well. I have another BM whose wedding was last August and she doesn't volunteer advice or info or anything but she's very supportive and always willing to give her input when asked.
On my part, I'm hestitant to ask them for alot of help or assistance just because I know how busy they all are and also they've just finished planning/executing their weddings and I'm sure they're exhausted.
I'm not married yet but someone I know got engaged not too long ago so she's been asking me about some of the things I've been doing. I have a few friends getting married after me as well. I don't mind if they don't want my advice, but I hope my sister will want my help when her time comes (which hopefully won't be for awhile)!
Wow..I'm adding on. Invited now to 2 more weddings (within a month). so now the grand total is up to five weddings.
One of the brides (the bride from the encore couple) has asked advice and so has her FI. I'm offering help only when asked but so far, it's sounding like they're doing great with regard to planning.
Another is a friend and she planned everything quicker than lightening! I see her and 2 weeks later she's engaged, and maybe a week later I ask her how's it all going and she says "It's ALL done".
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I know a few people who are getting married this year and wish they would ask for any ideas or tips from me. I've been there, done that and have lots that I feel like I could share, but don't want to sound like a know-it-all. Do any of you also experience this?
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