Do you know anyone this has happened to?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I had a friend who ended up in literally the EXACT same position as you.  I mean, they could’ve written this post.  They got back together and about a year later when they were both ready again….he proposed and they have been married for I think a little over 2 years 🙂

Post # 4
4879 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I pulled the plug on our first engagement.  He took it really well– he’s a patient man.  We never broke up, though.  He stuck around & waited me out, no pressure.  No resentments.

It was years before I felt ready.  And yes, he did re-propose.  It all worked out fine.

Post # 5
266 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

tigerlillie:  So the whole story is this: I originally introduced them to each other.  They dated for about 6 months and he proposed.  We all thought it was too soon but we were happy for them and didn’t think anything of it.  Well, about a month after they got engaged, they broke up.  He had anger issues that she thought he should deal with before they tried to be a couple again.

To be honest, when they got back together, we were all worried for her safety.  He was (emphasis on “was”) one of those types of guys who will get really angry and punch a hole in the wall.  He has never actually hit a person, but I had gotten in an argument with him once where I thought he was gonna hit me. So, when they got back together…we didn’t think it was gonna last.

Well, he apparently got some counseling and really worked on his issues cuz he is a COMPLETELY different person… it was an amazing transformation.  Anyway, he used the same ring she had given back to him and did the whole down-on-one-knee proposal thing all over again.  They got married in 2012 I think and they are very very happy now! 

Post # 8
10840 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

tigerlillie: I don’t know of anyone who has been in a similar situation, I can only offer comfort. If you’re happy stay with him and if he’s in the same place emotionally he’ll stay too and then, as you’ve already done, can continue to grow together. Emotions are a funny thing that can change so all you can do / both do is act based on how you feel now. The fact you both realised it was too soon for both of you is a positive. Good luck.

Post # 9
692 posts
Busy bee

Yes, sorta. My SO’s grandmother had a brief emotional affair with a man. She called it off because she wanted to stay in her marriage until her youngest graduated high school. She and the other man, T, stayed friends while they waited but didn’t cross the line or spend time together alone. Ten years later, she got divorced and married T. They were together for 35 years until he died of lung cancer.

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