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Lately I feel like I've seen a few posts of board bees feeling ignored or snubbed by other board bees - while I hate that anyone would feel anything but loved and accepted here on WB, I have to wonder...
I'm terrible with names and details. There are a handful of bees whose situations and names and such I remember, but most ... I can't keep straight.
Am I alone in this, or are those of you with fabulous memories in the minority?
There's a core group of posters and Bees I remember really well. I'm not sure why, because some of them post often and some don't. Others (even blogger Bees) I have to constantly check up on previous info because I forget details like age, location, personality, etc.
I think that some people have more "presence" than others, and sometimes the people who have similar visions stick out more.
Also, pretty much everyone who posts very often I remember at least major details about. It's just the less-frequent posters (or those who post at different times of the day) I tend to forget.
I'd lose my head if it wasn't attached to me...I get confused so easily I can't remember who's who half the time. sorry bees!!! I am trying!
I know a lot about a few of the board bee regulars. I always find myself looking for posts or updates from ladies I have gotten to know via the boards.
I recognize a lot of names, but I only tend to remember specific info about the people who post really often! But, I have a HORRIBLE memory, and I'm the worst with names/details!
I totally agree with just about everything Lilyfaith said... Although, I know enough about her to know we don't agree often! lol, at least, I think... sometimes I do confuse people... especially with similar avatars...
Avatars help SO MUCH though!
I'm a board bee and I hardly go over to the blogs, so I don't really know that many blogger bees.
Haha, @KLP - we differ on political things, but I think that's about it!
I try not to "snub" people, but I do have my "core" group on here of people I know well. They know who they are, lol!
But seriously, the more you post, the more I know you. If you don't post a lot, or we don't PM a lot, I probably vaguely remember you!
PS- everyone on here but one poster has a green background. that means we post a lot... so I'd like to hear from some folks on the other side!!
Haha! Like me?!
I mainly just remember avatars. But not too many details about anyone. Sigh. I'll get there eventually!
Nope. There are only a couple of bloggers that I can keep straight in my mind, let alone hive members. I'm so terrible at putting details and avatars with names.
I remember screen names & avatars!
Sorry I changed mine..I have a habit of doing that every few months.
I've thought about changing my avatar recently, but I was afraid that the people who do "know" me would not recognize me! :)
Besides, I'm smokin' hot in a Snuggie!
I agree that I know the bees on the boards more than the bloggers.
I am familiar with a handful of board bees. I used to be better with blogger bees when I first joined but now the newer ones kind of blend together. Maybe once they're around longer and post more I'll get more involved in their stories.
I often feel that no one knows who I am and I never quite got how to get in to the inner circle of board bees. Man it's high school all over again, lol. But then I realize it probably has to do with the fact that I don't post all that often.
I do agree with what a lot of you have said - people who post a lot (or around the same time of day that I'm on), I am more likely to remember. :)
I'm glad to hear it's not just me lacking social skills, haha.
I would say I can remember alot about peoples weddings, but im hopeless with names.
I know about 6 people that I would call via first name.. the rest kinda blurs in unless they post alot. But im recognising people that are on the board. there a few people that stand out more, and I dont know why!
Yeah, I usually get one MAYBE 2 replies to anything I ever post (which is frustrating because 99% of mine are actually looking for wedding-related advice or suggestions - the original point of this site - and not just "what's your fav movie" type posts. Not that there's anything wrong with those...). I am part of the "ignored" =)
I tend to recall ppl whose avatar stands out
@twalila - I don't think anyone intentionally ignores anyone else! Most of my wedding related questions get fewer responses too (except the dress ones... girls love their dresses!). I think most of time it's just that the tough questions are tough - there aren't easy answers to give for them!
I'll be honest - I don't partically like all the current threads about purposely ignoring other people or posting to get a different color box or upping statuses or whatnot. I'm fairly new to WB but I'm an oldskool forum junkie - I've been on various forums for years and highly enjoy the freedom, dialog, and community they provide. WeddingBee is one of the best forums I've ever come across and I am very grateful to have found it.
But I really, really wish that everyone would find posting to be fun. It's supposed to be fun! No one is supposed to feel like it's a duty to reply to every single post or feel bad for not getting a reply. That's the nature of forums ... yes, we're a special community to support each other, but once we start keeping track of who is and who isn't, I feel like it'll turn into work.
Bees, I love you all! I appreciate all of you and love hearing your stories, but please do not look into things the wrong way if I or anyone else doesn't respond in forum. No one should feel guilted to respond ... no one should have to think twice about their 1 sentence post just cause they can't or don't want to say anything else.
Maybe I am alone here, but this is such a wonderful and supportive community, I would hate to see it change because of some unwritten forum expectations we now all have to abide by. Can we just please go back to giving 1 word answers when we want and not have anyone thinking anything of it?
*HUGS*
I tend to remember people more by their online personalities. Some are more like lecturers/teachers, some are more argumentative/sarcastic/challenging, some are always excited, happy,and supportive, and some always have a problem/dilemma. Its interesting to me and is pretty much like real life!
@vitsippa - my point was that I was hoping to use the community as a resource for planning my wedding. If no one responds to my question re wedding planning, well, it's no longer a very helpful resource thus negating any reason for posting. Yes, I can check archived posts, but I'm typically looking for information a bit more specific.
For those just looking to kill time and hang about chatting (which I certainly have been guilty of as well!), I agree it shouldn't matter whether people respond to you or not.
As far as what OP was originally asking, I can't really keep track of my closest friends details, so no I don't really "know" who's who. As such, I tend to reiterate the same background info on myself since I don't expect anyone to remember me!=)
I will recognize names/avatars and sometimes I will remember details about certain people, but I don't know why I remember them over others. I love posting on WB and sometimes I get really good responses and sometimes I dont, but that will never affect me coming on here to post or having fun on the site!
@clarebee- I agree! I haven't even gotten my official ring yet.. so I have been so thankful for the boards to help me not only through my waiting period.. but as well helping me plan everything so that once I get the ring all I have to do is make some calls, write some emails, and start my diy projects!
@twalila, my post wasn't directed to you, and I'm sorry if I didn't make it more obvious that I was just making a general statement.
I'm horrible with names but I'm good at remembering avatars and stories. But I confuse them sometimes and often look back at their previous posts to remember.
Like others have said, i also remember a handful of blogger Bees, and board bees that i feel like i "know". (their stories, their wedding plans, DIY projects) But there are other bees that I recognize the avatar but can't remember anything more than that. (even Blogger Bees i have to go back and re-read some of their posts)
not sure what sticks or why i remember certain bees..usually ones that post often and have memorable DIY projects i ooogle over :D
as for myself, i think i post often enough where you guys recognize my avatar (maybe? i don't know?)
I agree with other gals that it is easier to remember other board bees whom have similar interests, styles, or other goals. It easy when you have posts out there and yoou tend to get responses from the same crowd...I would hope no one feels slighted in any way. I guess you just need to remember that not everyone has the same interests or ideas as you and because of that they may not comment on your post as much as others may.
Either way I love this place and do recognize a lot of other board bees.
I used to be so good about knowing so many people...but I've been MIA lately and feel like I hardly know anyone! :( I even have a hard time keeping up with the blogger Bees! Guess that just means I need to be here more often!!
I know a handful about different bees--mostly the ones i can relate to, like the LDR ones or stuff of that nature.
The bloggers tend to confuse me more, probably b/c i don't follow hardcore but just scan through once a day or once every other day. There are so many bloggers it feels like.
Yeah I don't know anything about any of you. I recognize avatars and think "oh that person posts alot" but that's about it. But I'm new and have a bad memory anyway. :)
I pretty much remember people by their avatar, then can associate who they are from that.
I read the blog a lot so I am much more familar with all of the blog bees. I refer to them in real life by their blog name...and then my FI looks at me like I am kind of crazy.
I remember avatars first, then a few names here and there, but remember very little about details except for a few ladies. And I PM very rarely.
I remember just about everything regarding the Bee bloggers, though, as I read just about every post.
i remember avatars and names ... there's a few bloggers i follow regularly... it's definitely easier to remember bees that have similar tastes... commonalities... but i think that's what's great about this site!
I used to be way on top of who was who, but I've been too crazy lately to keep everything straight. I can for the most part, but sometimes I have to go and check around. :)
There are a handful of people that I feel like I "know" kind of from posting a lot and I definitely know what is going on with them, their wedding, and their lives in general. Other people I remember a little bit by avatar... like once I see a new post it'll remind me that i've seen stuff before. But mostly, I have a pretty bad memory.
I only recognize bees by their avatars as well. Unfortunately, I mess up on their names or just can't remember.
As for the bloggers, I don't really read them that often. The only one I can remember is Ms. Argyle only because she is from my town.
I'm horrible with names and places. I recognize a lot of the board bees but I can only keep track of some details for certain ones, not everyone by any means.
The people who post consistently I can usually keep track of decently well...although sometiems I do check their profile, look at their other threads, etc to give myself an idea.
I know SOME of the blogger bees but not all and often can't keep them all straight :X
There are also some bees who I PM or have more of a "relationship" with and I love that...so I hope nobody ever is hesitant to PM me ;)
I usually remember avatars and names but after that it all sort of gets jumbled with the details. I do retain a few things about the regular posters around here, and I keep track of the Ohio bees because there arent' that many of us!
I am a board bee...I only look at the boards...I think that after I get engaged I will look at the blogs more often...I do know some ladies more than others...ie. i know the "waiting bees" a little bit better then some of the other bees. I def recognize some bees that post more often...and those that tend to either be really supportive or unfortunately I remember those that tend to not be so nice sometimes also.
as about ignoring posts...sometimes if a post is about something that I dont want to talk about (like politics) or I just dont have anything nice to say..I dont post. posts about "which one i should choose" I try to answer the most...I really try to help with giving opinions on wedding related stuff...but there are certain times that I am not on here and others are and I dont look back too much past the main page on the boards...
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