Do you know your FI's passwords?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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744 posts
Busy bee

My FI is completely open about his passwords.  Probably too open – I’m sure his family knows what they are too, which I’m not entirely comfortable with.  I’m much more private about mine but have slowly told him some of them on a case by case basis as they came up.  He still doesn’t know my banking and gmail password though. 

Post # 3
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1634 posts
Bumble bee

 

FutureMrsHodgy:  Yes and no. For years I didnt know any of it and it used to bother me. He’s a pretty private guy and did have some slightly shady behavior early on in our relationship. I threathened to pack my bags and he showed me whatever I wanted to see, shaped up and gained my trust back. The longer we’re together, the more we have to find shared passwords (wifi, safe, netflix, etc.) so I’m pretty sure I know all his passwords now, but I have never tried and dont really care to. He knows my phone password, but I dont know if he knows my other passwords… he doesnt really care to have access to my stuff.

Post # 4
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1473 posts
Bumble bee

No I don’t. His passwords are too complicated go memorize. His phone doesn’t have a password and all his accounts have the “remember my password” feature on so I could snoop if a wanted. But I have no reason to.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

FutureMrsHodgy:  My response is probably against the norm, because SO (now DH) is VERY ‘old school’ in so many ways, making any desire to snoop non-existant, etc 🙂

DH has an old flip phone, so no accessibility to social media/apps/email.  DH has an email account, but is not exactly tech-saavy, so pretty early on, started using mine (that I check every day) for any online stuff.  Until we were married, and joined bank accounts, he never had an online profile, or paid any bills online, etc.  Now, since I manage everything, we do, and I check it daily.  I only question a charge IF it is seems out of the ordinary?!  And lastly, he has a FB profile.  He maybe checks it weekly, maybe.  We have two IPads in the house, and so I am signed into one, and he is signed into one – meaning full disclosure all the time, but definitely is full disclosure ever taken.  Chances are, we are reading our newsfeeds right next to each other.  I am not even sure he knows how to use Messanger on it, to be honest, and I pray he never wants to check mine, because I am in the works of throwing him a surprise party!!!

I do not think knowing PW’s is a sign of lack of trust, or a way to keep each other honest.  Then again, I have a unique situation (I think), so it makes me really easy to say that?!

Post # 6
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4639 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We know each others passwords because we’ve needed to login to each others things for various reasons.. Do I remember them? No..

He’s more likely to rememeber mine because he has a better memory, like knows his credit card number off by heart kind of memory. I don’t remember shit like that.

Post # 7
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94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I have his phone password and he has mine. We use eachothers phones all the time. I am weird that I don’t have facebook. (longstory) But he does and I don’t know that password. I honestly trust him. So I never even think to get on it and check, or ask him to have his password. I really just don’t care. He just put me on his banking accounts, but I feel super guilty looking into them. So I never do. This may not be normal but, I feel like he is doing something wrong Ill eventually find out. No reason to stress myself out about something I can’t control. So yes I think its fine not to have passwords and not to be so nosey. 

Post # 8
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157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Yes, but mostly because it’s a word having to do with the site/service and then the same combination of numbers afterward — and he told me this, so I don’t feel weird knowing. I don’t ever log into his accounts without his express permission/request.

Post # 9
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4797 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

FutureMrsHodgy:  His are too complicated, but I don’t need them. Sometimes he leaves his email open, I never look. I always leave my email and FB open and I assume he never looks. I had an untrusting relationship once and man was that a bad way to live. This is much, much better! So relaxed!

Post # 10
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4147 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yup…I know all his passwords.  But I have a horrible short term memory…I’m constantly asking him to remind me, like if I need to log into his email to find something.  I always remember his credit card pin though 😉

His personal phone doesn’t have a password, he always leaves his facebook logged in (as do I) his work phone I know the password to.  I’ve never felt the need to snoop through his stuff though, so that’s probably why I forget his passwords.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

FutureMrsHodgy:  No I don’t but he doesn’t make them hard. He doesn’t keep them from me either. For example I can ask for his email password to look at “that thing his mom sent” or whatever and he’ll give it to me, I use it, and promptly forget it lol.

It’s the same with my passwords. He doesn’t know them, but if he asks he gets them. I wish he’d remember the password to my computer. He asks every. single. time.

Post # 12
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

My FIs phone isn’t password protected and neither is his computer. He uses the same password  most everything so I know that one, but if he has a different password on something I don’t know it because I don’t check or ask.

 

Post # 13
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769 posts
Busy bee

Some of them. We are definitely open with one another, we leave FB and other stuff logged in on our laptops/ipad..I barely can remember mine so I would for sure forget his! 

Honestly, it really depends in the relationship. I trust him very much. Plus, he is very open and never secretive about stuff. And he is brutally honest at all times.

Now, my ex-DH was awful. He was sneaky, flew a girl to our place when I was away overseas, hid pictures and convos of said girl, was overly flirtatious..I never trusted him so yeah, I had his passwords. I admit that I should have walked away sooner, because being in a relationship where there is zero trust it’s unhealthy and draining. 

Post # 14
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185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Brussels, Belgium

I know his email, social media, and select other ones. Email and social media I only know because he’s had be check things when he was away and didn’t have Internet access. I also know his Amazon info because he has Prime and I want to take advantage of the shipping and movies. As for banking, we have a joint account so I don’t need his info to access it. I’m not sure if he knows my passwords or not, he might, but I don’t really care. 

Post # 15
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3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Yes, I know most of them, just from acquiring things to do under his accounts over time. I never snoop on him.

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