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FI and I are trying to choose an appetizer, and we aren't thrilled about any of the options that come included in the package price. Crab cakes are considered an "upgrade", and we're willing to pay the upgraded price but FI thinks crab cakes aren't universally appealing and the money would be wasted if people don't eat them. What do you think?
I love crab cakes, but they have to be piping hot, and likely that won't be the case if they're a passed appetizer. We skipped them at our wedding because I was worried they'd be cold an unappealing. I do order them in restaurants often, though.
I chose 'other' becuase I love crab cakes, my husband loves them too. I don't know if tons of people love them but they must because they're always on dinner menus. If its a considerable amount more though, I wouldn't do it.
@Chillmer: They are not a passed appetizer, they are plated as the first course. I'm not sure about the piping hot part though...good point!
I am the vote for "gross", although I felt bad picking it lol. I hate seafood, and I know I'm not the only one! As a passed appetizer it would be ok, because people can choose to not take one, but as the first course? Unless there was a second option I wouldn't do this. Sorry :(
Oh I LOVE crab cakes! I don't know how much more would make it not worth it, but if it's within your budget, I think they're pretty popular. We had them as passed appetizers during cocktail hour but I didn't get any. Sad. :(
I love love love crab cakes, so I voted yes! But, on the other hand, a LOT of people (including my father) have shellfish allergies. It's one of the most common food allergies among adults. Just something you might want to think about.
LOVE crabcakes. We're having them as passed appetizers during our social hour. I think they'd be great as a first course too, but I would recommend having two options for that. Most people like crab cakes I think, but obviously not vegetarians or anyone that doesn't like seafood.
I chose other in that I LOVE crab cakes, but only if they're really good and hot. If they're average, I won't get past the first 2 bites.
I don't think we're able to have two options for the first course. However, there is a vegetarian salad course following, and then of course the entree and dessert. There is also a cocktail hour with passed hors d'oeuvres and crudite/cheese displays.
The cost does not bother me at all, IF most people will eat them. If only 30% of the guests end up eating them, then I feel the money is wasted.
Part of the problem is that FI and I are quite picky with appetizers. We don't want pasta, soup or a fruit cup, so that leaves very few options!
I don't like crab cakes. I LOVE them. I know everyone's entitled to their opinion, but not in this case. If you don't like crabcakes you're just wrong. Fact.
I love crab cakes... BUT, they have to be full of crab and not just a bunch of breading with a few tiny lumbs of crab mixed in there.
We had them as an appetizer at our rehearsal dinner, which included a lot of non-adventurous eaters. We chose them in part because we thought they'd be a crowd pleaser, and they were. They disappeared so fast.
I think that if there are non-seafood hors d'oeuvres and mains it's fine to serve seafood as the first course. If anybody is allergic or hates shellfish or whatever, they can skip it without starving. Can't please everybody, but I think the crab cakes will be popular.
I LOVE crab cakes!!! Nom nom nom! I am not a huge fan of the lump style of crabmeat myself, so I like crab cakes made with non-lump crab more, but I would be stoked to see any sort of crab cakes on a menu.
It sounds like you have plenty of food, in case someone did not like crab cakes. Could you maybe poll your immediate family and friends, and see if they all would like crab cakes? You might be able to get a good feeling as to what your specific family like.
We have plenty of adventurous eaters, and also a handful that hate “seafood”, “exotic food”, “vegetables”, etc. If people are so opposed to entire groupings of things that don’t taste/texture/look similar, then there’s simply no pleasing everyone. Besides, the way I see it – the less crab cakes some guests eat, means more crab cakes for me and FH!!
@Chillmer: I totally agree. I live in the Carolinas, where you can get crab cakes at most restaurants, and they are totally gross if they are even a little bit cold. If the food is being served directly to your guests, I would go for it, but leave it if it's going to be a buffet.
they were my #1 criteria on my wedding day!! haha my FAVORITE food. i don't know many people who do not like them from my group.
meh - I don't know not everyone likes seafood. It would depend on the crowd. Seeing you are from the Boston area and knowing the demographic up here - I would say you would probably be a hit.
Although I looooove crab, I'm not a fan of crab cakes. The ones I've ever had were really dry and yucky. I'd be willing to give them another try though!
Looovee crabcakes. I love crab puffs (with the creamcheese..omg) even more. But I'd be mowin down on some crabcakes.
I said other because while I LOVE crab cakes..if you don't want to pay extra I could see why! But if its no problem..then def get those crab cakes:)
All I can tell you is that when we had our reception at a Legal Sea Foods near Boston, I was concerned that our Jewish guests should have something they could eat. I therefore made sure salmon was one of the entree choices, and there was vegetable soup as an alternative to the clam chowder. I needn't have worried--every one of them chose the crabcakes or lobster as the entree, and the clam chowder as the soup.
I'm in the "I hate seafood, even the smell" group. But I also know that this is MY preference and I would never expect someone to cater to my tastes (as many people LOVE seafood). If you served crab cakes as a first course I would simply pass my portion off to someone who likes them (like my guy!).
I also LOVE crab cakes. I think you should go with what you and your fiance like. Not everyone will love everythign you choose to serve.
OMG OMG OMG I LOVE CRABCAKES. LOVE THEM. LOVE THEM SO MUCH.
also crab imperial 
but, bad crab cakes are yucky. only go with them if they're delicious and you've actually had them. Ok you're from boston....i was in the area awhile back and GORGED on She Crab Soup, crab cakes, and crab imperial. YUM. The midwest has seafood but it pales in comparison =]
You're from Boston--surely people are more used to them there!
I have never had a crab cake. I like the fake crab in Chinese food though.... so I might like them?
I love crab cakes and all crab (except the itchy kind..haha!).
@daydreamwanderer, fake crab is nothing like real crab cakes! They are a zillion times better. Real crab is softer and sweeter with a delicate flavor and doesn't overpower the mix in the crabcake. Seriously, yum. I"ve made them with canned crab at home and had excellent (and cheaper) results than using lump. There is a korean dish with fake crab out there too--"krab cakes" haha.
Crab cakes are the only seafood I find appetizing. Delicious.
Ugggh. If I hear one more time that everyone from the east coast loves seafood I am going to scream. Lol. I get this all the time, "I don't like seafood", "But you're from the Maritimes! How can that be?" UGH. //end vent :)
We have crabcakes at every wedding in Maryland and I hate crabcakes. Other people seem to appreciate them though.
I LOVE crab cakes and so does FI and pretty much everyone I know. I could be biased though because Im from MD but I would not pass them up! I dont care if they are piping hot or have been sitting out I just love crab! We are having mini crab cakes as a passed appetizer and are very excited about it!
I love crabcakes but they really have to Maryland style for me to LOVE them. We were going to have mini crabcakes as a passed app at our wedding but we were in NJ and well they made the crabcakes in a more vegtable/bread sort of way and it was like what's the point. So at least for me, while we were ready to splurge on something delicious I'd try it out first.
I love fresh fish but really don't care for other things that lurk on the bottom of the sea ... but most people I know are seafood freaks. They will probably be a hit with most, and people like me will discreetly pass them to our SO. :-)
Everyone I know loves crabcakes, but make sure they're enough crab and not all filler/breadcrumb.
If you need appetizers, don't forget your vegetarians! Nothings more depressing then getting no snacks because you don't eat meat, including fish. :-)
I'm definitely in the minority-I dislike crabcakes. I have never liked anything crab-related.
Mmm, I love crab cakes! They are definitely worth the money if they're good ones! I'm really sad that my venue offers IMITATION crab cakes! Ugh, so disappointing.
No but I don't like seafood. Seafood (including crabcakes) are something folks either love or hate with no middle ground. Those who love seafood generally love crabcakes though. Only you know what your guests like and what they don't.
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