(Closed) Do you like Drama? Or avoid to start one?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
12878 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I shy from any confrontation.  I get so uncomfortable in very confrontational situations; even negotiating makes me nervous!  Anything that involves negotiation or any bit of confrontation is left to Fiance to handle because I just back down so easily.

Post # 4
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I avoid drama like the plague.  It’s so draining.  I say “save it for the drama llama.”

My mom’s like that too btw.  I wonder if children of dramatic people shy away from it bc it’s so embarrassing.

Post # 6
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Drama like fights and yelling? No way. I’m much more inclined to speak quietly and deliberately with an undertone of “You’re not intimidating me and I’m not f***ing around right now, so let’s just resolve this and move on with our lives.”

Post # 7
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I avoid like the plague. Darling Husband on the other hand is always the one to yell at the person cutting in line or tell someone to get off their cell phone on the bus. I hide when he starts up. Its always a legit reason but it makes me soooo uncomfortable.

Post # 8
1211 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Drama/confrontation makes me squirm. So, yes, I avoid it…to a fault. There are times I think I should stand up for myself, but those people who make a scene make my skin crawl hahaah! 

Post # 9
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I hate confrontation and generally avoid it if I can. That said, my buttons can be pushed and in scenarios where someone crossed the line and then runs 100 yards, I don’t take it lying down and will say something. Probably not very calmly, but never yelling either. Its usually curt and smart.

If someone attacks me, I don’t hold back. (Like the worker of a bridal salon that called me to scold me for posting an unfavorable review online of his store. That did not end well for him.)

I also don’t think anyone will admit to liking or causing drama. People who stir up a lot of drama on a regular basis probably just strongly believe that they have been attacked and are in the right. They think they are right a lot.

Post # 10
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It depends on the situation.

If someone else is getting really worked up, I try to diffuse the situation and put it all into perspective.

If someone is unfairly attacking me (like a male coworker saying demeaning comments, which has happened before), I stand up for myself but keep calm and professional. I can’t be a pushover or too passive or i’ll just get steamrolled and I certainly do not want a reputation for being a pushover.



Post # 11
5221 posts
Bee Keeper

@KatyElle:  haha… exactly this!

Silence and slow, thoughful speech is much more my style than full on assault

Post # 13
1529 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

im not gonna lie i am the nicest person, but if something is bothering me im not gonna let it go.

Post # 14
7992 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I have a furious temper, which I am fortunately excellent at controlling. The only problem with this is that I have to expend so much energy into self-control when I get riled up, that I find it difficult to argue back calmly. I tend to clam up or make non-forceful comments instead. However, if you push my buttons on a few ethical issues I feel strongly about, I will take you down (although without shouting or raising my voice).

But drama where there is no outright bad guy and people I like might get feelings hurt? Makes me feel physically sick…

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