So... some of us on here (based on another post going on) are concerned that people won't enjoy the wedding. We've been to some weddings, and it seems a good half or even people just kind of are bored and wonder when they can leave.
I've been to two (for friends... I don't really count old relatives when I was really little).
They were fine. I mean... but I'm not a dancer. I like to people watch, so just being there was entertaining for me, because I'm not ever at weddings. I like food.
But I wouldn't say "yay a wedding!" like it's super exciting. And yeah, after a while it's like, when is it okay to leave?
So what do you think? Do you like going to weddings?
Love weddings! Except for the ones where they don't feed you.
My brother and sister in law had a wedding where they obviously spent the budget on fripperies (string quartet, dove release etc) and forgot to save money for food. We were at the reception from 5 pm until midnight, and had two pieces of finger food each.
Crappiest wedding ever. Hard to have fun when you are starving!
Apart from that, I have been to maybe 5 Fabulous weddings, 15 good weddings and a couple of average ones. Mine being one of the fabulous, of course ;)
@MrsOliveBird: What made the fabulous weddings fabulous? And while we're at it, what made the good ones good, the average ones average? lol
I think dancing makes it! and food. and alcohol. Put them together and it's a great time!!
Still I worry ours will be boring too. But we keep remindig ourselves that if everyone were turn out to be aliens from mars who hate eating, drinking and dancing...we will still have fun because that's what we love to do!
BTW...we're doing a photobooth...seems like people think those are pretty fun. We're going to try and have a pretty interactive guestbook...cards for our album with funny questions or write a haiku etc.
@yanamari: Fabulous = non cookie cutter, bride and groom putting thought into a ceremony and reception that has their own flavour to it. This does not have to cost big $$, it is more in the details and personal touches. All of the fab weddings had a real sense of fun to them, and the love between the two was evident at all times. I have been to fab weddings with just 35 people, and one with over 200!
Good = most of the above, but perhaps a little more formal (I HATE long speeches and open microphones at weddings, I do not care how happy your drunk third cousin is for you!) These weddings had good food drink and music.
Average = skimping on food, LOOOOOONG gaps between wedding and reception where the guests have to fend for themselves, and bride and grooms that don't mingle. Negative points for music that is only to the bride and grooms taste- ie just R & B.
@icetea: Haha those are good ideas. Our families aren't big dancers, so... we're like... what will people do? =\
My mom suggested we focus on putting money on the honeymoon or saving it. Older people who have been married a long time seem to have this viewpoint, which is pretty concerning! I don't want to be like 40 and wish I'd saved my money or gone on a nicer honeymoon... but you only get one wedding day. It seems like something you wouldn't really want to go too cheap on in lieu of other things?
But we figured we either want something nice, or just do a desination wedding and say screw everyone. It's hard! I don't want to regret ._.
@MrsOliveBird: Can you give examples of original?? I've been to two... so I haven't seen much. We WANT to do something unique or original, but nothing seems like it'd work at a wedding. What have you seen that was non-cookie cutter but still nice?
I love weddings where I am really close to the bride/groom which also means I know the majority of the guests at the wedding. I really don't like going to weddings where I won't know the majority of people there. If I am invited to a wedding of an aquaintence or someone I don't know very well I usually nicely decline.
The ceremony itself is dull as hell, but the rest of them are usually fun. Although some do take their time with the photos straight afterwards, which also gets boring soon enough. The meal, the toasts and the dancing all very fun though.
@yanamari: some cool things, at various weddings...
Bride and groom did a performance on Rockband at the reception... very unexpected.
Centrepieces on tables all being different, each representing the bride and groom at particular ages (ie bride and groom photos at age ten on one table, the next when they were 15 etc)- but still with beautiful flowers and lighting.
Brides Father surprising her in song in lieu of a speech. (This was a tear jerker!)
Bride and groom who did all their pics pre ceremony- that wedding went straight to a rocking cocktail hour, and the party never stopped as momentum was never lost. This was a really, really awesome wedding.
Simple, but one bride took caligraphy classes, and our name tags at the tables were divine, and she had also written a personal note on the back of each stating why they were so excited to have us there to celebrate with them.
:)
I LOVE weddings! If I could have a second dream job it would be wedding planning lol. Last year I worked with my brother for the summer assisting his photography/videography business and worked at 6 weddings. Best job ever!
Do I like going to weddings? Yes and no. It really depends on the people attending. I enjoy most ceremonys. It is the receptions that are hit and miss for me.
What makes a wedding fabulous? Lots of visual interest. I love going to weddings where every centerpiece is different and meaningful or is in a museum. There is a lot of down time during receptions. I need lots of pretty things to look at. I dont really want to see a room where there are 27 tables with the exact same centerpiece.
The other thing that makes for a fab reception is uniqueness. I love weddings where the bride and groom display pictures of their lives with little stories attached. A picture of a raggedy old bear with several stories of the adventures of Amy and Bobo is fun! I love when programs include little bios on their bridal parties and some info on why each person is special to them. I love to see dishes made with Great Gramma Josephine's recipe. I love to see old family photo's with little blurbs telling their story. I love to see the different traditions and cultures unique to each region. I love all the little touches: personal notes to guests, daisies because they are gran's favorite,raisin favor's because he put your ring in a box of raisins, etc. I lovewhen bride and groom share their lives and stories not just their day. I love weddings with board games, photobooths, pie eating contests, sack races, whatever is interactive and amusing.
I love weddings where the guests are pleasant. I am a people person. I enjoy meeting new people, hearing their story. I am miserable at weddings where everyone is smashed and obnoxious. Cousin Joe getting annhilated and deciding it is a good idea to feel me up or puke on my shoes does not make for a good time. Yes I can defend myself but I shouldn't have to. I don't go to pubs of that sort for a reason.
A boring wedding is a cookie cutter wedding. Most weddings that I didn't enjoy were held in Hotel ballrooms with tradional wedding food, a dj with no personality, every centerpiece was the same, and even the bride and groom where smashed an hour into the reception. Watching the groom makeout with the bride's twin sister because he is that drunk is not fun sorry!
I have been to two weddings, and I found both of them to be boring. However, I will add that both weddings seemed cookie-cutter-like to the point of feeling forced. Also, I didn't know most of the people at one of them (the wedding held for my sister's best friend when I was eight) and that I didn't have a date for the other one despite being the maid of honor (I was sixteen at my sister's wedding), so that probably contributed to my boredom.
So, I don't think I necessarily dislike weddings, I just think that the ones I went to left a bad taste in my mouth. And as for those two weddings feeling forced? They both led to marriages that ended within a year or two, so that feeling makes more sense in hindsight.
Fun fact: I have not been to a single wedding since I was 6.
I love going to weddings, especially if I get the chance to see family or friends I haven't seen in a while, since I live pretty far away from my family.
I really enjoy weddings, although I'm not sure if I'd like weddings if I didn't love the bride & groom and care about them. All the weddings I've been to have been family/close friends and I really think the best part of the day is sharing in their happiness, as cheesy as it sounds. And I love getting dressed up and seeing family/friends I haven't seen for a while, seeig them so in love and the bride so beautiful, and eating great food. If those things are satisfied, I'm happy. I've never really been to a wedding that wasn't "cookie cutter"--all my faily weddings have been quite traditional--and I would LOVE to go to a less-traditional wedding, like the one I'm having, but I really think the wedding should suit the bride and groom, and most of my family is very traditional, which is fine by me!
Maybe if I was younger I would enjoy them but I'm to the point that I find them mind-numbing nonsense. The food is bland, the music is junk, I normally only know a couple of people there, etc. I would rather do so many other things on my day off.
I checked off love them but probably should of checked the second one "usually". I love them except if there is no alcohol.
Don't care if it is open or cash bar but if I went to a wedding and no liquor was served I'd be very unhappy. I definitely like a couple of drinks at a wedding. Food is good too but never been to a wedding with no food or just apps.
I'm so glad I found this thread! Thank you ladies for all this input, since I was terribly worried that my guests would be bored. Apparently I've only been to boring weddings, so I'm not the biggest fan of them. I'd rather just go out and have a nice dinner than attend a wedding. Most of our guests are pretty hardcore, non-dancing gamers, so I'm trying to think of fun activities (puzzle escort cards, bride and groom trivia in the wedding program, etc). It's a good thing I have all you bees to turn to for good ideas.
Love weddings. I've been to two weddings in the last year besides mine so I'll talk about those since they're freshest in my memory. They were quite different but both fun. The first one had a church ceremony followed by a reception in one of those "wedding factory" event spaces. The bride and groom didn't have a ton of money so the centerpieces were fairly simple and homemade and there was no lighting scheme or draping or any of that. (That stuff doesn't matter to me at all. I don't go to a wedding to look at centerpieces.) There was hosted beer and wine and liquor drinks for purchase. The food was forgettable. There was a DJ who definitely knew how to read the crowd and played music that kept everyone dancing. The bride and groom were SO happy, I had a lot of family there, and all the guests were just really into the celebration. I got a little tipsy, danced my butt off and was sad when it ended. It was "generic" on paper but so full of love and fun and it was one of the best weddings I've been to.
Second wedding was in a rustic "barn like" building, there was a simple outdoor ceremony, BBQ for dinner, beer and wine, and a bluegrass band. This was my husband's family so I didn't know the people there as well, which meant I didn't have AS much fun, but I still really enjoyed how relaxed everything was, wandering around chatting and watching everyone from senior citizens down to small children cutting loose on the dance floor. I liked how they dispensed with all formalities and it was totally unstuffy.
Also my husband and I have been taking dance lessons for almost a year now, so I'm totally looking forward to dancing at other people's weddings even more now! I'm actually disappointed that I don't have many single friends or family members left, so very few weddings on the horizon. I honestly don't really understand how people can dislike weddings. They're exuberant celebrations punctuating our sometimes humdrum daily lives, and it's wonderful to see so many happy people gathered together to celebrate love. I guess that's cheesy, but I don't mind!
I've only been to two weddings as an adult. One was boring as hell, and the other was quite fun.
The boring one had a long ceremony that practically became a sermon (which was fun for no one, but being an athiest, it was even less interesting). Then the bride, groom, and their immediate families went to take pictures while the guests all went into the church gym for the reception. There really were no personal touches other than a rolling slideshow of pictures playing on a large screen. Once we had all watched that, there was nothing else to do. We sat and talked to our friends and family, and we were starving. Once the bride and groom came in, they finally starting serving some finger food. After eating, we all waited for at least some speeches - but NO, nothing! The bride and groom didn't even seem like they wanted to be there. After an hour or two, they left. So no dancing, no speeches, no personal touches, no alcohol, medicore food = boring wedding. The cake was good though. All we could talk about afterward was the cake since that was the only thing worth speaking of.
THe good wedding was my brother's and SIL's. I was in the bridal party, so that was probably a plus. It lacked personal touches (which keeps this from being a GREAT wedding), but it was a lot of fun. My SIL comes from a big Mexican family who know how to party, so everyone got to dancing the night away and had a great time. We were also served a good meal.
But overall, I really do like wedding. I love the ceremony and seeing the bride and groom exchange vows. Gets me everytime!
Well this is a wedding website, so I'm sure the answers are going to be a bit skewed. ;) That being said, I LOVE WEDDINGS!
Oh I love weddings! Well it does depend somewhat. I love to go to friends weddings...usually quite a few of my other friends are at those. I love eating food/cake, drinking, and dancing! If a lot of my friends are there and I can dance and drink, then I have a great time. Also I love photobooths, and those are pretty popular around here!
Been to some family ones that were ok... eating and drinking is good but there wasn't too much dancing and I wasn't too into participating because most of the people dancing were the bridal party (and I didn't know these people). But I enjoy talking to family so that was ok.
I've been too some where I didn't have much fun. One I really didn't know anyone. Another was a family one that was during the day. It was basically like here is some food and then everyone just sitting around at the tables. No music, no dancing, no drinking..not much of anything really. Eat (mediocre food) and go home. I was just bored.
Luckily I've been to more fun weddings than not! As for the ceremonies, I usually enjoy all of them because I'm a sap.
I've been to about 20 weddings now, and I still love them. :) Not to say that every wedding I've been to have been awesome on its own, but in general, yes, I'm a fan.
What's not to like? Sometimes the ceremony can be long, but I'm a sap so I love it. Then a big party with friends, dancing, food and open bar? Heck yes!
To be honest, I could even get over it pretty quick if there was a cash bar, as long as there was enough food and the people weren't stuffy.
Honestly, the only weddings that I don't like are the kind where the bride and groom aren't thinking about anyone but themselves. I have loved 90% of weddings that I have been to, with the exception of the last 2 I went to. One was a catholic mass at 2:00 (nothing against the religion but as an atheist, I don't choose to go to church and that seemed like a church service with wedding mentioned). The ensuing reception was not until 6:00! It was a 4 hour drive to the wedding and FI and I planned to drive home afterwards so we didn't get a hotel. We endded up wandering around town (which only lasted an hour) and still had 3 hours to kill until the receiption. We ended up seeing a movie and being 40 minutes late to the reception. WE were 40 minutes late to the reception and the bridal party didn't show up for another hour, completely hammered. Dinner wasn't served until 7:30 with an open bar and no appetizers and dinner was mediocre at best (and cold). All the guests were drunk by dinner and half from the ceremony didn't even show up (probably due to the 4 hour gap).
The other was just that I didn't know anyone but was there to support one of my best friends from high school (who didn't even take the time to talk to her guests)
@Mrs. Coyote: haha I was thinking that too! I figured I'd try anyway, just to see.
I have a lot of social anxiety so don't particularly like it. I'm a bridesmaid in a good friends wedding in May and I'm already having panic attacks about it!
OMG the last wedding I went to (FI's cousin) I wish I wouldn't have gone. They were an hr and a half late starting the wedding. Then we were BARELY fed after the wedding! Seriously, all they had was some fruit (mainly strawberries and grapes) chicken wings (very small) and deviled eggs (which I don't eat) and it was maybe enough to feed about 2/3 of the guests... I did not enjoy myself at all but at least the bride was happy (I guess that's all that matters).
I am the type of a girl that when I am invited to a wedding I do a dance. I love going to weddings, they are so much fun to me! I love supporting couples and just enjoying their wonderful day.
My friends weddings are a blast, when they are in nice venues. I attended one this past summer in the middle of nowhere, had to drive 1.5 hours from the hotel and stay sober and there were outhouses so I did not actually enjoy that one. But the other two recent ones were so much fun!
I usually enjoy them. I like food, I like to drink, and I like to dance, and typically weddings involve all three. Plus I get to buy a new dress. Remove one of those things from the equation, though, and I'm generally looking around wondering when I can go home. Except the dress, I guess. Wearing an old dress doesn't ruin it for me :)
Barring anything totally kooky-uncomfortable, an outdoor summer wedding, or a really piss poor DJ, I'll usually have a good time at any wedding.
I usually couldn't care less about weddings unless it's someone I'm close to and even then... I'm not a dancing sort of person, I don't drink, and I'm not all that comfortable around large crowds of people I don't know either, and my fiance is exactly the same, so we tend to just sit in the corner or chat quietly with the few people we know at the wedding, counting down the minutes until we're 'allowed' to leave.
Yes, I love going to weddings, if I am invited to the whole thing (I have been invited only to the dancing, several times, which I think is rude).
Off topic: I'm assuming you meant "They're boring," not "They're BOING"! Heehee, funny typo!! ;)
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