Post # 1
I am one of those people who will never turn up to someone’s house unannounced, and expect people not to do the same to me. My SO is the same. Before we were living together, I would never just drop in to his place unless I was invited or expected. We’ve told friends and family that they are welcome to come and visit, as long as they let us know ahead of time that they are stopping by (gives us a chance to make sure we have drinks here for them, clean up, change out of PJ’s, make sure we are actually home, or give us a chance to say that it’s not a good time etc!). SO works nights on weekends so he has a weird sleeping schedule.
Do you like having unexpected guests? Or do you prefer them to call ahead of time?
Post # 3
I had 2 friends (they were twins) that would come over whenever they wanted, but it was normal. He could just walk in and walk around the house to find me, other than that though – I expect people to text me/call and say they’re coming over.
Post # 4
I usually need a few minutes notice so that I can make my house presentable/put on a bra.
Post # 5
I prefer some notice. A few hours is best for me.
When I was about 8 years old, one of my favorite aunts came into my family home, unannounced. She literally opened the door and walked right on in. It was weird. That being said, the awkwardness would’ve been averted if she at least rang the doorbell, a call beforehand would’ve been even better.
Post # 6
My apartment is usually a disaster. If I have notive I have time to quickly clean things, throw crap in a closet or something.
Post # 7
I dont really have a problem with it, especially when its my one of my girls but I know my FI hates when my girlfriends show up unannounced… ha! Imagine that.
Post # 8
No, I prefer notice before having people pop by. There are exactly 2 people who can drop by unannounced. Otherwise, I’d like some time to tidy up the house and myself, and make sure there’s a small snack to offer if they’re popping by around a meal time.
I was taught it was poor manners to turn up without calling first, so I don’t do it to others. I’m sure my upbringing is the reason why I don’t like unannounced visitors.
Post # 9
I am not even going to answer the door if somebody is ringing a door bell and I am not expecting anyone…I am an extrememly busy person…and I have my “organized mess” in the house..and at the rear days when I can be at home and relax I don’t like to do make up..I like to be all casual..and many times I prefer to stay in bed all day in my PJs…I need several days in advance notice before I can have any guests..
p.s. and I would never just stop by at anybody else’s house without asking for a permission.
Post # 10
I would always let someone know I was coming round….even if it is an impromptu visit I’d ring or text prior! I’d like people to contact me first before visiting me but if they turned up as a surprise then I wouldn’t be upset. My friends actually did that once on their way home from someone else….I wasn’t in! But they caught me walking home later!!
Post # 11
I kind of enjoy it. My home isn’t fancy by any means, but I keep it near-immaculate and I enjoy being hospitable very much. That it isn’t a value held by the majority my age makes it a funny little point of pride.
I do appreciate notice though, and I think it’s considerate to give it as a general rule.
Post # 12
A couple of years ago I had a group of friends known to randomly show up. I was awful about locking the door, so I’d be sleeping and next thing I know theres people in my room staring at me while I’m all drooly and had bed hair.
I once showed up to a friends house unannounced and saw her with no shirt or bra on. So I dont do that anymore. XD
Post # 13
@Deejayelle: I hate it! DH and I would just not answer the door! Honestly, I don’t know if it’s a cultural/regional thing but nobody I’ve ever been friends with has done this or expected it from others.
I grew up in this sort of household though – my parents are also pretty anti-social and weren’t the type to have friends in and out of the house (I’m not sure my parents actually have friends) so I was sort of conditioned to find it weird.
Post # 14
I need at least a day’s notice so I can clean, I don’t like to have people over unless my house is clean. If a day’s notice isn’t possible then I at least need a few minutes notice to throw on a bra and to warn FI to put on some pants.
Post # 15
@Deejayelle: What about neighbours? Somehow the rules are different with my next door neighbour. I will sometimes just knock on their door. But I’m only ever there for a few minutes.
Otherwise, never. Even with family we phone each other ahead.
I must confess I used to arrive announced all the time at my closest friends’ houses when I was a teenager. (30-odd years ago). I’m not sure if I’ve changed or times have changed.
As for being bra-less – that’s hard with teenagers in the house.
Post # 16
I love it when friends call and tell me they are in the general area and ask to pop by in 10 minutes. But I need 10 minutes or more to tidy the house. If people arrive completely unannounced I get pissy.