Post # 1
There are obviously a million decisions to make when planning a wedding. From the dress to the menu cards, logistics, vendors it might even be in the billions. Now that my wedding is approaching (finally!) there are even more things to decide on and I’ve found myself assigning some decisions out and while I appreciate people asking me to pick things (like the menu for my bridal shower) I kind of wish they would take those decisions off my plate, no pun intended.
It got me thinking about other brides I know who seem to be DIY’ing everything and/or having total control over every aspect. Are some of you like me and prefer others to choose things like font on menu cards, ceremony music, first dance song (obviously it’s FI choosing this), tableside choice vs. split entree? Or do you like to weigh in on everything and/or decide yourself?
**I just want to say that FI is SUPER cute and now that he realizes how stressed out I am about all the decisions he has been ‘taking over’ things like emailing our reverend, choosing the vows, talking to the band leader, etc. And my FMIL’s just emailed us about the shower menu and he’s ALL over it! :)**
Post # 3
I was just talking about this to a co-worker. I wish FI would make more decisions. I’m feeling very overwhelmed, not only because of the length of my to-do list, but the seemingly constant decision-making.
Post # 4
Bumping! I only got one response, come on!!
Post # 5
i’m not a decision maker. for the wedding, i would usually come up with some options because i do like to have some control and then have my husband (or mom if it was flowers) make the final decision. it worked well for us.
Post # 6
I kind of look at it as it won’t get done if I don’t do it or it won’t be done in the most fisically responsible way…plus I kind of feel guilty pushing things that are my and my fiance’s job over on someone else…as for the bridal shower, who’s supposed to plan that? The mom’s or the maids? or Me? In any case, I’m not having one…lol b/c again the planning and money is the issue.
Sorry I’m not much of a help :/
Post # 7
I would have to say… I like making decisions and it DOES stress me out sometimes, but overall I would rather be in the position to make that decision then to stress out even more thinking someone else will handle it.
Post # 8
Planning events is one of the hats that I wear at my job. I coordinate about 30 events per year all around the world (most of them are trade shows). I love this part of my job.
So the wedding has been super easy so far… I almost feel bad for not freaking out!
Post # 9
lol I pretty much hate making all of the decisions on my own. Even if it is something small and I’ve already decided on it, I still like to get others opinions. Mr.bobby is very helpful even more so after a few of my wedding stress related breakdowns. But I don’t like to annoy him with too many questions
Post # 10
I am an aesthetic control freak. I love designing/planning/decorating stuff. I played around with fonts on the computer and designed signs and cards for my family till everything was perfect starting at around age 6 and did the interior decorating for several of the rooms in my parents’ house at age 15. It’s just kind of my thing. I could NOT let go and totally give someone else the reins on literally anything in my wedding. I ask FI for his opinion on the decisions I’ve made and generally he likes them; if not I show him why I think it works and he tends to come around 😛 We will, however, be totally collaborative on the writing of our ceremony. I have two years to plan this shindig so the amount of decisions to be made isn’t that stressful for me.
Post # 11
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I’m a total control freak, so yeah I totally like making all the decisions! FI helps and makes the ultimate decision with me, but I do most of it. He is doing the entire honeymoon by himself, though. That was one thing I was able to let go of 🙂
Post # 12
I often feel like I WISH FI cared more about the details and I wish he would help me make more decisions…
but let’s be honest
I’m kind of a control freak. I like things how I like them. I think the truth is that I like that I get to do whatever I want within the budget we’ve agreed on. Even if I don’t always remember that I like it. 🙂
Post # 13
This continues to shock me everyday but I’m actually enjoying making all the decisions myself! Because normally I’m lazy, don’t like to take initiative, don’t enjoy girly stuff and have no skills in event planning. At first I was even thinking let’s just have a very small party and be done with it because no way I’m going to plan a wedding…So much work and so boring and so not me. But once I started researching venues etc somehow I started getting more and more interested. One thing led to another…I found WB and learned so much I didn’t know before. And a monster was created 🙂 Now it’s an obsession and it’s almost became like my second job 🙂
My family and girlfriends live thousands of miles away so I don’t really have a support system. No bridal party because it’s not a tradition I grew up with. And I decided not to involve FMIL/FSIL from the beginning as I predicted too many clashes of taste and opinions there. The only person whose opinion I consult is FI, but ultimately I’m the decision maker and he prefers it that way. Guess I’m a little cocky too, once I take on a project I feel like I can do it better than anyone else and would rather go at it alone.
Post # 14
I usually narrow it down to a few choices and then J picks between those. It’s our version of teamwork. 🙂
Some stuff though I’ve only seen one thing I’ve liked within our budget, so then it hasn’t been a decision really.