(Closed) Do you live alone or with roommate/someone else?

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

I have a roommate, mostly for cost and culture shock reasons (I lived alone the last 2 years, she was moving into town and I needed to find a new place anyway because my old place flooded… long story; so I just found a bigger place).

Tell you what though, I am SO ready to live with J and not some random girl though.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

I’ve been living alone for the past few months, for the first time in my life.  I’m so glad to be able to have this experience, and I almost wish I had done it for a little bit longer.  Lambster has also been living alone for the first time, but I think we’re both more than ready to live together after the wedding!

Post # 5
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Helper bee

We both live in a very expensive city so we had roommates before we lived together.  I usually had good experiences with roommates except for the ones I had right before he & I lived together.  What’s worse was that he had horrible roommates too so we had nowhere to escape to.  It was such a relief to move in together.  I couldn’t have been happier.  The only thing about moving together before marriage is that, well, after you’re married everything pretty much stays the same.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It has been just me and my daughter for the past 11 years so it is going to be pretty weird sharing space on a regular basis with someone else. I am looking forward to it…but at the same time I know there is going to be a big adjustment perios. We’ll figure it out though…

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I had a roommate for 4 years in college. As in, we shared the same bedroom for 3. We had bunkbeds. I actually lived with 45 other women for 3 of those years =]. Yup, sorority house. For my senior year, my roommate and I (also my MOH–we got real close) got a 2BR apartment. Honestly, it was SO EASY living with her. I loved it.

I lived for 1.5 alone for 1.5 years after college. It took 6 months to adjust and then I came to love it. Peace, quiet, do what I want, how I want, etc. DH just moved home last week. Honestly, that’s been easy, too! He knew up front that I couldn’t just plop on the couch and watch tv with him in the evening. I have homework, studying, lectures, and other stuff I do besides watching The Simpsons to rewind. He’s respectful of that and I’m respectful of, say, his need to watch stuff or read in silence, so I pop headphones on to listen to my lectures.

We each have some spaces that our ours…if i’m in the bathroom, he uses the other one. Even if i’m just in there doing makeup. It sounds weird–but usually, it’d be like, “hey can i use our bathroom? get out…” right?

I have to get up quietly now and that is an adjustment. I can’t just turn on all the lights and turn the news on–he’s still sleeping! And i have to remember to make him some coffee, too. But otherwise, I still get to feel like i’m living “alone” because I still am doing things the way I did before. 

It’s weird–I keep expecting to have to take him to the airport. The biggest hurdle, of course, is melding his crap with my crap. No more “the whole closet is mine” or stuff like that. And i’m throwing away a LOT of my own stuff–junky picture frames i’ve had since college, etc. It’s time to have a “grown up living space” not an extension of college stuff, not that there are two of us here.

Really, it’s been a nice, seamless adjustment. Save the whole “EJS i deleted 130+ of your shows off the DVR” Yell

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I STILL live with my parents, LOL. I talked about moving out, but fiance was like “no no just wait til I get a job in the Boston area, and we can move in together, that way you won’t have to move twice.” Which I suppose is economical/sensible…and I love my parents…but seriously? It’s getting old! Just hope we don’t kill each other when he finally moves up here and we’re living together 😉

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I had roomates while in college then moved in w/now FI in 2007 and bought our house together in 2008. Engaged in 2009 🙂 Married in 2010!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

@allison, i live at home too! and so does my guy. i just couldn’t afford to move before but hopefully i will be able to  once i get a new job. it’ll make scheduling visits so much easier. and he’ll be able to stay longer!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

While I was in my LDR I moved home with my parents (right after college)

It worked out best because we knew we were getting married and would be much more broke than we were as recent college graduates.  I stayed home to save up as much money as possible, even though it wasn’t always ideal!

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’ve lived alone for almost five years.

It has its perks (let’s just say I had a really bad roommate back in the day), and I took to it like a fish to water. In fact, I even wondered if it was possible to be in a relationship but maintain separate residences.

The first time The Boy visited me, I couldn’t get much time off work, and he’d offer to stay home and take care of the chores. I’d come home to a spotless and well-lit house, dinner in the oven, and The Boy taking my jacket and asking about my day.

I decided I’d be more than happy to share my space with a guy like him Wink

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I have lived alone for over 10 years and I like it that way. I’m ornery and I like things my way. So I am sure there will be a good deal of adjustment for both of us. It will be well worth it. We’re both pretty good about leaving the other person some space and privacy.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I live by myself… but I’m always at my mom’s place. And she lives an hour away!! Every day off I come out to her place. I miss living close to my family & friends… especially knowing that next year I’ll be in another country 3000 miles from them.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I’ve lived alone for 7 years. While I’m so excited to start living with my man after we get married, I’m very nervous about living with him, since I’m ahem, a huge slob.

Hopefully the transition will go well.

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve lived with roommates for 5 years now (in LDR for 4+ years!) and absolutely CANNOT wait to move in w/ FI next summer. When I think about it I can’t imagine feeling anything but happy and relieved to finally be living with him… but I suppose there will be an adjustment period to everything. What do you think the biggest challenge will be?

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