Do you live in your home state?

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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4939 posts
Honey bee

FutureMrsB123:  Deciding to move away from family and familiar surroundings is hard. I don’t live in my home state. DH and I are from TX, but we live in VA now. All of our families are in TX or in the states right around TX. We got pregnant right after moving to VA, and that has been a little bit hard. All of the grandparents, of course, are a long way away. I would love for them to get to spend more time with our DD — especially my parents, as our daughter is their only grandchild. It’s also challenging when it comes to DH and I wanting to go out or something, as there isn’t any easy option for baby / kid sitting. We have found a sitter we love, but her family will be moving out of the country at the end of this summer.

Overall, though, it hasn’t been terrible or impossible. We both enjoy living in VA. It’s a beautiful state, and there are a lot more opportunities  here for DH’s work.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I completely sympethise. DH and I live in his home state, Ohio, but we are hoping to leave because the job market here is awful. He works in a warehouse. His employer is wonderful, with good benefits, but he has a science degree that is currently only being used as a conversation piece. 

I am from New Zealand. My family are a 24-30+hour flight marathon away. At the moment we aim to go home every 1 1/2 – 2 years, but after baby comes in September, that may be too much of a financial hit.

We are looking at grad schools and jobs in a variety of states across the US, New Zealand and the UK (I’m eligable for a long term working visa for me + spouse).

It is really hard being away from family. My mother won’t be able to come to the birth of my baby, her first grandchild, because of finances. My father will visit when it is a month old and we plan to go home for a few weeks in February. It is doable though. Things like Skype make things a lot easier. I think most importantly though, is being somewhere you and you husband and future child(ren) will thrive. It is much easier to raise a child when you can afford a good house and lifestyle.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yes, I do and we plan to stay here.  It would be very hard for me to leave since my family and most of my extended family is in the area or a 4 hour drive away.  My parents would likely watch our kids for us so we dont have to put them in day care, where as his wouldnt, which was another big push for staying… though if we left to where his parents are, it’d be cheap enough that I wouldn’t have to work and could be a SAHM.  Either way, I think it’s important to be close to family.  We’d never move to some random place that wasn’t near either of our families.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Yes we do–for now. I’m struggling with my feelings of wanting to move away from Mississippi because I feel like I should explore the world a little bit, but at the same time I don’t want to just bail out and leave both of our families or completely disregard where I’m from.

I truly feel I could do good work for my state, and yet there are literally no job openings in my field. Sure, there are a few positions every few months but with new graduates every semester the competition is really fierce. 

But as far as the logistics go as jobs and moving, I recommend holding on to a job for as long as you can while looking for another one and saving up money at the same time. My FI and I are looking to move several states away and it’s terrifying to think of just going somewhere with no job offer to keep you from having to turn around and go right back.

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Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

No, we moved at the end of last year- 3,000 miles away from both families.  It’s been hard, but it was definietly the right choice for us. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

FutureMrsB123:  DH and I met whilst both working overseas (in Japan), so we are both used to being a logn way away. Plus, 7 hours is still a long way!

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