Post # 1
I recently left a temporary position the job description did not match my duties in the least. I wouldn’t have minded some extra tasks, but I was not expecting to constantly lift heavy boxes and sweat all day.
I secured a dispatcher position at a taxi company. I will be making more money than I did at my contract job and there are full benefits. I don’t really like contract work because the pay is often far less than what regular employees make and there are no benefits.
I told a close friend about my job and she had some choice words. I am trying to take it as constructive criticism, but some of what she said was very hurtful because she is not a stranger. My friend said:
- “It is time for you to get a grown up job.”
- “You’re better than that.”
- “You need to start thinking in the long term.”
- “How can you work afternoons? That will be bad for your relationship.”
I explained to my friend that I choose not to sit at home until I can find a job in my field. (Medical administration) I need to work and have my own money because being unemployed is bad for my self esteem. I also do not like completely depending on my husband.
Speaking of my husband, he was VERY angry when I told him what my friend said. He said that her words were unsupportive, judgmental and arrogant. I mentioned this to another friend of mine and she said my close friend was stupid and rude.
My friend is marrying into money and she is attending college to become a paralegal. I don’t think she understands that not everyone has the luxury of staying at home for years.
I guess I’m wondering if it is common to look down on others for what they do for a living.
What can I say? I’m doing the best that I can with no experience in my field.
Post # 3
@PositiveThinking: I don’t. I respect people like you that will take a job that isn’t in their field because you want to be more independent/you don’t want to sit at home. Even if you were a minimum wage worker at McDonald’s, I still wouldn’t look down on that (I think is interesting that you seem to be looking down on that given the topic of this thread).
I think everyone contributes in one way or another and should be respected for that.
Post # 4
Working at Mcdonalds wouldn’t be okay for me, but I don’t look down on anyone else who does. I just feel that I am too old to be flipping burgers for minimum wage. It is just a personal preference.
Thanks for pointing that out. I will correct that in my post so that nobody gets the wrong idea.
Post # 5
Nope. Honest work is honest work. Some people just end up with an unfortunate job.
Post # 6
@PositiveThinking: I try really hard not to look down on anyone for ANY reason, but I especially would not look down on someone because of their job. That’s messed up. This is a problem your friend has with her way of thinking (and extreme insensitivity when expressing thoughts she ought to be keeping to herself.) This is *not* *your* problem. It’s hers. If I were you, I’d seriously consider telling her that you didn’t appreciate her judgmental attitude and words and that in the future you’d prefer not to hear such things again.
Post # 7
The way I see it, there are FAR WORSE jobs than a taxi dispatcher. Even though this isn’t my field, I am glad that it is better in many ways than my last contract position.
When I sit at home, I feel like a useless leech. I am only talking about my feelings and not putting down women who stay home.
Before I married, I always worked and paid my own bills. Even though my husband is the main breadwinner, having my own income makes our marriage feel more equal. My husband is generous but that doesn’t mean I am comfortable depending on him completely.
Post # 8
I don’t look down on anyone for any type of employment. To me, a job is just something that everyone has to do to keep food on the table and have the money to pursue other things. It doesn’t define a person or really mean anything more than you want it to. Tell your “friend” to shove it.
Post # 9
I doubt that would get through to her. She is in wedding planning mode these days.
I have noticed a very drastic change in her since her rich fiance proposed.
The friend that I knew never judged anyone for what they did for a living or how large their home was. She also never used to talk about money all the time.
When I hear the way my friend talks these days, I realize that money really doesn’t buy class.
Post # 10
I love it when people who have a generous lifestyle handed to them make these kinds of comments (NOT!). It’s not our place to judge people; we don’t know everyone’s life story and circumstances … and guess what? It’s not our business! I have worked as a legal assistant for many years but, back in the day, when I was just starting out, I worked at a law firm during the day and a pizza place at night. It was exhausting working from 8:00 a.m. to 11:00 p.m. five days a week, but I paid my bills; no one handed me a damn thing. I did not consider it beneath me.
Post # 11
No way. It’s hard to get a job right now in the US and to me any job is a good job. I have two masters degrees and it took me forever to find a job so during that time I worked as a waitress. Let me tell you, that job gave me a new outlook on a lot and I respect anyone out there working hard.
Post # 12
@PositiveThinking: i dont.
If you are happy and your bills are paid on time, who the hell is anyone to tell you otherwise? Your friend is rude
Post # 13
The only people I look down on for their jobs are career criminals. I don’t respect drug dealers or pimps.
It is hard to find work in Canada too. Even highly educated people are having a hard time. I feel blessed that I found something with benefits because employers are skimping on those just now. Most companies are just hiring contract workers so they don’t have to provide benefits.
I am on my husband’s benefits but I love having my own. I am an independent person.
Post # 14
I look down on investment banking douche bags that hit on me at bars and act like they are smarter than me because they play with other people’s money for a living. Actually, just anyone that has a superiority complex about their job, especially people that think they “work harder” because they make more money.
Post # 15
I agree! I respect you WAY more for taking a job to pay the bills than I would for sitting at home and waiting for the perfect job to come to you!
The job market is BAD. Most people don’t have the luxury of waiting for their dream job to show up!
Post # 16
@PositiveThinking: Wow, that was really shitty of your friend to say. I’m sorry 🙁 I don’t look down on people or judge. People judge me, though. I’m a nanny, and people ask me when I’ll get a real job, too. I just politely smile, and say sweetly, “while you’re sitting at a desk, working at a place you hate, I get to play all day.” That usually shuts them up haha. Don’t let people get you down! 🙂