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My in-laws treat me better than my own family does. It's not that my sisters are mean to me, it's just that my FSIL's are soooo nice. I wanna say they are nicer. They are really happy thier bro/son is getting married, they really accept me. Even his cousins really include me in everything too. My son got a ton of gifts from family members we havent even MET yet and ones that we've only met once or twice. Love his family!

One side is so great. I honestly enjoy them as much as my own family. The other side things are pretty tense. My mother in law can be a very hurtful person and has done things in the past that really hurt DH. So I am 50/50.

I absolutely ADORE mine! It didn't start out that way - I never disliked them outright, but his mom was VERY iffy when we started dating because FI is her baby and she wasn't ready to let go. She was of course cordial to me, but never very friendly and definitely didn't support the relationship the way, say, people in my family did throughout the years.

A family tragedy is actually what started the turnaround. FI's father sadly passed away very suddenly 2 years ago, and I think my support of him and his family during that time showed her I was for real. She softened toward me after that, and in the years since we've grown to be fond of one another. Looking back, I know that I didn't help the situation much in the beginning because I was very shy and barely spoke to her or FI's dad (the latter part I will always regret - he died in September of the year I was supposed to come home with FI for Thanksgiving for the first time). Not much to base an impression on!

The rest of his family and I have always gotten on VERY well, and I just feel so blessed because they are the kind of family I always wanted growing up. I'm so happy to know my children will have them as great-aunts, grandparents, uncles, etc.

It makes me sad when I hear that people don't get along with their FI's family (or vice versa). But I know you can't choose your family, and often you end up nothing like your family. FI tolerates my family, for sure, but he doesn't like many of them and I can't really say I blame him.

I think I'm in the minority when I say I'm in the "grey" area. FI doesn't have a super close relationship with his family so things have been pretty easy on me.  

A little off topic but I nearly cried a few days ago when FI told me he loved my family. <3

I love mine!! They felt like family from the very begining....and they treat me and DD the same way!

Love! I have two families now. <3 There is good and bad, like any family, but it's mostly good and I love them.

My FMIL I LOVE! I wasn't that close with her when we first met, but over time we have become closer and closer.

My FFIL and FSMIL neither I nor my FI talk to anymore. Basically FFIL verbally and emotionally abused FI for years. He let them back into his life and ended up renting a house from them. I moved in with their blessing and the four of us were doing really well! All of a sudden FFIL went BALISTIC because FI didn't answer his cell phone when he was in the process of installing a new shower curtain rod on his own and I was sick in bed, sleeping. Left a really nasty message and when FI tried to call him back he refused to talk to him or I.

I still maintained a good relationship with them, but FI and FFIL wouldn't make up. Fast forward 4 months and I convinced FI he needed to try to repair their relationship. Christmas time he went over to FFIL's house and was kicked out and told the cops would come, etc, etc. It was horrible. FI was devestated.

Three months later and we were all having strained relationships, mostly because I could barely handle FFIL and FSMIL badmouthing my FI (then BF) all the time. They came by to pick up rent money and I told them we were giving notice to move out and FSMIL went crazy, said she was kicking us out then and there, etc, etc. I told her that we would be out by the end of the week if it was an issue and she got angry. Took the cash out of my hand, so I grabbed it back and she beat the crap out of me while FFIL watched. Ended up getting away, they followed me in the house and FFIL told her to get a knife. My dogs scared them off and I called the cops.

In the end, it ruined a friendship for me (my BFF of three years lived with me and they basically lied to her and said that we were fucking her over, etc, etc and BFF unfortuanately believed them until I was beaten, but when I was beaten she was upstairs with her 6 ft 4 football player bf and even after I called 911 and was crying they didn't come help me, so I couldn't forgive her), it destroyed the relationship between my FI and FFIL and FSMIL.

So yeah.

And I have to admit I am embaressed to tell that story because I feel like a friggen hillbilly. For the record, NEVER been in a fight in my life (except with my sister of course), never had someone try to grab a knife to stab me, etc. It was just the weirdest situation ever.

NOW FOR THE BACK TO THE HAPPY PART!!!

All of this made the relationship with my FMIL and one of my FBIL SO MUCH CLOSER! I feel like I am one of her daughters and a sister now. Before all that happened we felt a lot more like strangers that knew each other. Just more proof that something great can come from something sad.

@LuckyClover: We are okay and no one in the family has any contact except one brother who talks to them on an irregular basis. We are out of the house and live far away in a house with an unlisted address, phone number, etc. Everything else is listed in my name because I have a common last name and would be harder to find.

As I said earlier, the great part of this is how close I became with FMIL and FBIL. I wouldn't trade that relationship for the world! <3

I love my future-in-laws. I don't have the best relationship with my own mother, so to have his mother treat me like a daughter is fantastic.  I told my FI one of the reasons why it would be hard to ever leave him is because his family is so great to me, that and of course I love him. =)

@andersonsarah: I would definitely stay in contact with his sister. We already have so many mutual friends. lol