Post # 1
I read someone on another thread say they love their SO unconditionally, so I’m curious. I don’t think it’s necessary to love your spouse unconditionally, which is why marriage is special – you have enough faith to make that commitment anyway. Thoughts?
Post # 3
I love him no matter what, but I wouldn’t be with him if he violated our vows. Make sense?
Post # 4
Do I? No. Do I try? Every day of my life for as long as I live.
Post # 5
Although I love my SO as much as I can possibly imagine, everybody is capable of changing or showing a darkness. My SO and I disagree on a lot of moral/ethical issues, so if he were to act negatively on something I feel so compassionately for I can’t imagine being able to see him the same.
Also agree with PP that if he were to lie to me over our relationship I don’t think I could trust him.
Post # 7
No, I make the conscious choice every single day to love him and be with him because I want to. In My Humble Opinion not having unconditional love is a good thing In marriage, because you work at the love rather than just assuming it will always be there.
Post # 8
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
That’s interesting, I was going to say yes, but I saw @FutureMrsDrPeter: ‘s response and realized I probably would not love him if cheated on me or stole a huge amount of money from me or, I don’t know, murdered my brother.
Post # 9
@MIBEETOWED: agree. I will love him no matter what but if he ever hurts me I will leave
Post # 10
in a realistic sense, i love him unconditionally. i’ve committed myself to him 100% and will continue to do so for the rest of my life- to love him, to support him, to do everything i can to make him happy.
if he did something absolutely horrible- like cheat on me- i would be absolutely broken up over it, to the point where im sure id consider divorce. but would that stop me from loving him? not really- i’d be horribly mad at him and probably even say i “hate” him, but it really is because i love him and he hurt me, that i would hate him. did that make sense? im tired. haha
so anyway, yes, unconditional love. happiness and butterflies forever 🙂
Post # 11
I do love him unconditionally. I have loved him at his worst when we were just friends and he was being the biggest jerk in the world and I know I will continue to love him unconditionally. Some things may make me not like him very much that day, but I will love him still.
Post # 12
No. We make a conscious choice each and every day to be together. Is it harder sometimes than others? You bet. Is it crazy easy on other days? Definitely.
Post # 13
Nope. There are, and should be, limits and conditions on love. I won’t stop loving him if he forgets to buy me a card on my birthday. But if he say, molested a child? That’s a love-killer. I love him almost unconditionally, barring horrible circumstances.
Post # 14
@MIBEETOWED: That is how I feel as well. Just because someone does a bad thing (like murder) and you choose to leave that relationship doesn’t mean that you don’t still love them. It just means that you cannot live with their choice.
Post # 15
I think it’s nice to say that you would love your partner unconditionally, but personally I think that kind of love is reserved for children. Maybe also for parents/siblings. If I ever found out that my partner did something absolutely horrible (worse than just cheating on me or whatever), I don’t know that I could love him anymore. As other folks have said, this choosing to love vs. an unconditional love that just *is* is actually even more beautiful to me.
Post # 16
I can say I really do love my SO unconditionally, but that doesn’t mean I’ll stay with him unconditionally. I know I love him unconditionally since I’ve loved him since we were 13. We had many years of being apart, living our own lives, lost communication, been in other relationships and yet I still loved him throughout and love him even more now that we’ve finallyvreconnected!